Help! I have a huge crush on my history teacher and I don't know what to do. Should I tell him how I feel about him?

[Shimmer1432]

[Under_The_Sun]

Hey there. I'm a High School History teacher. I have no right to tell you what to do. But I can advise you, right?

Don't say anything to him. Trust me, nothing will come out of it. It will just make it hard for him, because it will make things weird. For us teachers work ethics are very important and if a student tells us that they have a crush on us it just makes us try to avoid any personal touch with them. No offense, you're a very pretty girl, but this is going nowhere.

I'm going through something like that with a student. I'm feel i'm gonna have to limit my interactions with her. Which breaks my heart because she is a very smart and interested student and there's a lot I could teach her.

I'm not saying teenagers feelings mean nothing. They do. But you know what? You'll completely forget about your high school crushes in a few years. You'll look back and laugh at it. Once you're out of high school you'll get a real taste of life. And it's mu8ch, much better! so rejoice ok? :D

Take care.

[Lovelinefan]

I probably wouldn't tell him, though it wouldn't be the end of the world if you did tell him how you felt... as long as he handles it in a professional, appropriate manner. This would mean that he would need to let you know that there is a boundary that cannot and WILL NOT be crossed. Not that he should get mad at you, but just pointing out to you that there is a professional, ethical, moral line that will not be crossed.

My advice is keep it to yourself. It's OK to have crushes on people and not act on them. With time it will wear off, and be replaced (hopefully with a guy closer to your age).

[M_A_X]

It wouldn't be good to tell him though. She's still going to have to be in his class everyday, and even if he was a pedophile, he'd just end up getting fired and going to jail. There is literally nothing good that can come from telling him, at all.

[Lovelinefan]

@M_A_X Well, as a teacher, I would hope that he's been properly trained to deal with these sorts of situations which I'm sure are pretty common, especially for younger teachers. The asker is still very young, and I don't think it would need to be awkward if this teacher is a pro and can say "Hey, your feelings are normal at your age, it's OK to let these feelings be, but understand this: It would be totally inappropriate and out of line to act upon these feelings, I'm here to help you learn and that's it. I take your comments as a compliment, but this is where it ends. You're a good student and this is part of growing up. Remember to complete the questions at the end of chapter 19 tonight and I'll see you in class tomorrow."

I still vote to keep it to herself, but if she can't help but let her feelings be known, I hope the teacher handles it correctly.

[Grace_Rdz]

I have a crush on my History teacher too, what's with history teachers and being hot? Haha
Anyways, I really don't think you should tell him. If you really want to then maybe wait until the last days of school so it won't be so awkward because you won't be in his class anymore :)

[drizzydrakegirl]

I wouldn't recommend telling him how you feel because it might make things really awkward between you too (even if he feels the same way). Just watch the first episodes of Pretty Little Liars (Aria and Ezra) and you'll know what I'm talking about

[Iamathinker]

Keep it to yourself caise it'll just be awkward city until even after you graduate.

[BambooforPanda]

agreed

[HorrorFan]

What are the possible outcomes of you telling him?

1. He is flattered, but does his best to act like you never told him or that its a complete non-issue. This is the absolute best case scenario.

2. He becomes uncomfortable and possibly treats you differently in some sort of negative or different fashion.

3. He pursues you, leading to all sorts of legal issues.

When the best case scenario is one where he continues to do his best job at acting like you never told him you have a crush on him, maybe the most logical solution should be to not tell him at all. As much as you might want to get your feelings off your chest, there is basically no way telling him you are attracted to him will end well. I would say to find something or someone else to think about to distract yourself.

[SüßeJäger]

Nooooo, you're 15, he's an adult. You could be putting him in a bad position. He'll have to report it so he doesn't get in trouble. Can you imagine how nervous that would make him. It's great you think he is nice and hopefully he is but you just can't do those kinds of things. Admire him from a distance and accept the fact he is off limits. Look for someone your own age.

[HeresJames1]

It's a crush it'll pass, a similar situation happened at my highschool and lets just say it didn't end well at all for the teacher, think about the the potentially bad results from it. I had a lust filled crush on my P. E/health teacher when I was there and I would flirt with her and possibly had a shot but I didn't act on it, she was married and had kids, even though I'd never tell anyone I still wouldn't let her get hurt from that. Do the right thing and let it pass.

[Anonymous]

Well considering you're under 18, even if he reciprocated the feelings, he couldn't act on them without fear of legal reprisal. And do you really want to put him in that position to where he could be facing some serious prison time and have to be registered as a sex offender?

[evenlift]

Absolutely not. If you like him so much, you shouldn't want to ruin his life like this.

[Dim_121]

Tell the school counselor how you feel about him