How to Compliment a Guy

[Luci92]

This guy is always saying lovely stuff to me, and I want to be able to say some really nice things back. I'm kind of on the fence with 'hot', and he hates to be called cute, saying 'it's a word you use to describe girls,' lmao. I always seem to end up saying 'you're very attractive,' but it sounds too formal and gets repetitive, you feel me?

But some examples or quotes would be useful :)
Thanks!

[redeyemindtricks]

ahah well... if you're still on the fence with "hot", then this is still some next-level stuff, I suppose.
But... When I "tell" my husband these things, I very rarely use words.

Usually, it's not even conscious... You know how you'll just absent-mindedly zone out at times?
Yeah, it's like that...
I'll just snap back into reality, and find myself staring at him, looking him up and down with obvious lust. My lips will be parted a little bit, and more often than not I'll be doing that thing where I run my tongue slooowwwllyyy along the bottom inside edge of my upper teeth. (c'mon, you've done that at *some* point, right? when you want something REALLY bad?)
ahah I am not subtle 😂😂

If I *do* say words, it's usually just... a deep breath, followed by a nice, lusty "mm-HMMM", "You're a *beautiful* man", or "Ohhh yeah".
<3

__

Other times, I'll be more in line with the usual nature of our "flirting", which is basically constant little challenges and little fun power games. I think you've seen this opinion, but, if not, have at it first, to understand the general idea here: (girl mho)
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1947176-how-do-you-foreplay

So... in keeping with the whole "feisty" thing... I'll say things that are both incredibly lustful, and also a little bit degrading.
• "Boy, yr body is made for exactly one thing" (getting right up in his face and articulating every consonant... and grabbing his ass a little, too)
• "Happy wife... happy life" (as I run my finger across his lips and down his chest... ahah I even turn *myself* on with this stuff)
• "I love you... for yr MIND" (as I grab him in unmentionable places) 😂😂 ahha

Oh, girl, these are sooooo much better than some boring run-of-the-mill compliments. Sometimes I just gotta get myself in trouble, right?
#fuckyeahmarriedlife

(Hey, SOMETIMES I just say genuine heartfelt nice things! Like when all the kids are around...
... But if their backs are turned, I'll start biting or sucking on the middle two fingers of my left hand -- showing off my wedding bands -- and I'll silently mouth some VERY dirty words. Read mah lips boy!)

[Luci92]

Omg haha I wish I could get away with saying this sort of thing... we're not even dating (or near that) and this'd probably scare him off hahaha.
But #hotstuff as always :P

[redeyemindtricks]

Yeah ofc.

Someday bb. <3 #bestmarriageever

[Luci92]

Aww <3 like I've said before, you are legit #relationshipgoals

[redeyemindtricks]

ahah tx.

It's a good thing I get caught up in the intensity of the moment -- because I totally laugh at myself later for some of these.
Like, I was cracking up at myself for about 10 straight minutes while I was driving the other day, just thinking about that last one -- reaching down there and groping him, with "I love you... for yr MIND"
😂😂😂 ahhahaha!
<3

#fuckyeahgratuitoushashtags

[vhbjn]

@redeyemindtricks, u have enraged a lot of us incels, u should see this :-D
htp://lookism. net/Thread-KYS-coz-ur-never-getting-this-GTFIH? pid=1532180#pid1532180
[put t for http]

[redeyemindtricks]

@vhbjn Well, dang...
Hey, at least a whole lot of boys (whether currently "incel" or not) probably find the idea of marriage a little hotter now. If i can have *that* influence, at least that's a good thing...

[vhbjn]

nah, we hate the fact we are never gonna have this :-D. That site is us "incels" ranting he he

[Luci92]

@vhbjn omg what is that website lmao

[redeyemindtricks]

@vhbjn What I find *weirdest* about that site you linked to -- although, speaking as a woman, it's actually a little strangely refreshing ahah -- is that the guys aren't hating on ME.

I mean... there have always been bitter guys and bitter girls, sure. But, back when I was yr age, I'm pretty sure the more common reaction from bitter guys would have been something like, "oh, she's probably just fat/ugly, so she HAS to be like that to keep her man" or something like that.
Honestly -- as pathetic as the basic premise of that site is -- I'm at least glad that those guys don't have an immediate knee-jerk instinct to hate on women.

On the other hand... really, all this shit with guys focusing on other guys' looks? Really needs to stop.
That NEVER happened twenty years ago. Honestly, when I see men bitching about how other men are "aesthetic" or "facially attractive", I just think that those men are (1) pathetic, and (2) in all likelihood probably homosexual. Because that's just NOT A

[redeyemindtricks]

NORMAL REACTION for HETEROSEXUAL MEN to have! It just isn't!

I mean... Three things dude.

1)
The whole idea of MEN bitching that "looks are destiny"?
Really, all of you darlings just need to order an extra-large glass of shut-the-fuck-up, and drink it down.
I mean... I have *lots* of empathy for a large number of uniquely male problems -- but THIS IS NOT ONE OF THEM.
The idea that looks=destiny is MUCH more of an issue for WOMEN. It's much much much MUCH more of an issue.

Even guys who look like Steve Buscemi have no trouble being considered "attractive" through sheer force of personality, and/or by being driven to achieve other kinds of success. Men have TONS of other avenues to make up for that sort of thing. Women? Don't. There's NOTHING.

2)
Solidly 99 percent of men will become "attractive in the face" if they just get in shape and lose enough bodyfat.
Really... they will.
If a guy loses enough fat, he'll also lose fat in his face -- and his face will get a more chiseled

[redeyemindtricks]

look, which is honestly enough to look "rugged" and "masculine". Really... it is.
Most guys aren't going to look like a Polo model anytime soon -- but most women don't want a guy who DOES look like a Polo model. So, whatevs.

3)
When I say that MY man is a "beautiful man", I'm not talking about some pretty-boy notion of "traditional handsomeness". He has a couple of facial scars, and he was never exactly going to be a Nautica model... ahah. But, he's "beautiful" *to me* in the cold, dark, street-boy sense of the word... and he's gotten more and more beautiful with every passing year of our marriage. He's a lost soul from the streets, who came from a world of abuse and hate, and he's shown me and our children nothing but love and care and emotional strength... and THAT is a "beautiful man".
And that's within reach for ANY man. Any man can have strong character.

(My man also still has a perfect body, but... I make my living helping people keep their bodies perfect, so hardly a surprise)

[redeyemindtricks]

@vhbjn
And by the way, that comment about "probably homosexual" isn't just random mud-slinging -- I'm being totally serious about that.
The ONLY men for whom looks ACTUALLY DO matter -- as much as those guys on that board think they do -- are gay men.

For gay guys... Looks matter every bit as much as they do for us (women). Because gay guys are the object of the male gaze -- which is very looks-oriented. Gay guys are judged on looks every bit as much as heterosexual women are judged on looks.

For heterosexual men (and for lesbians, too)... looks are JUST NOT THAT IMPORTANT.

They're not that important.

I mean... Why do you think you don't see tons of hot lesbians, either? Ever think about that? (No, OF COURSE you've never thought about that. Well... Think about it.)

So... yeah.

Gay guys have every right to be concerned about "lookism".

Straight guys just need to #sackup and #getoverit

[vhbjn]

read this:
bodybuildind[dot]com/showthread. php? t=169625043

[vhbjn]

htp://forum. bodybuilding. com/showthread. php? t=169625043

[t for http]

[vhbjn]

and also replace the spaces

[redeyemindtricks]

@vhbjn Smh.

[vhbjn]

response by one of the guys to your comments:
"Quote:
That NEVER happened twenty years ago

we're done here. different times, different people. she has no fucking idea

also, never see anyone saying Steve Buscemi is attractive anywhere online. rather you see him as the butt of the joke every time googling his name
reddit. com/r/funny/comments/... e_buscemi/"

[redeyemindtricks]

@vhbjn Some people will do ANYTHING to avoid having to actually put effort into life, or to avoid acknowledging that it's their own fucking fault when they've accomplished nothing at all after a certain point.

This is EXACTLY the same bullshit as "Oh, some people just have faster metabolisms than others", which is also bullshit, and which some people just use as a cheap excuse to avoid the blame for not getting off their asses and getting themselves in better shape.
I actually wrote a whole take about that:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30717-no-there-s-no-such-thing-as-a-fast-metabolism

In any case... If some people are THAT dedicated to making themselves into losers in life, then, *I'm* sure as hell not going to waste MY time trying to change their minds.

Self-fulfilling prophecy is a thing.

It's ok... less competition for those of us who actually *do* things with our lives.

<3

[Luci92]

@redeyemindtricks
very good response, and very true!
In lieu of fearless_banana (who will probs be back anyways) I feel the need to say 'lmfao this chick' in response to the metabolism link :P

[redeyemindtricks]

He's actually back already, as @chico_brah (although the bastard hasn't added me yet, so I can't send him messages... lol)

[Luci92]

bloody hell doesn't surprise me lol... all that talk about the nerds yet clearly they weren't bad enough to keep him away
*examines his profile* u sure that's him? lmao

[redeyemindtricks]

lel that picture is a super played-out meme. (type "neckbeard meme" into google images, and see what you get)

[Chico_brah]

Shhh... Supposed to be on the DL boyos.

[Luci92]

@Chico_brah your secret's safe with me lol

[Chico_brah]

GAG fcking wreaked havoc when I left lmao. I don't want that kind of attention right now. Creepy ass dude msging my friends on FB.

[Luci92]

@Chico_brah You sent the pink anons up the fcking wall dude, and then Tyler left too... you can't even imagine lmao, someone even wrote a take about it.
Yeah I heard about the stalker, that really sucks, I've had a few on here myself but thankfully no one's ever found me on facebook.

[Chico_brah]

I know lol puppylove94.. rgb008.. they both sent me all the questions about me where literally everyone talked shit lol. Hulksmash was trying to compare himself to me saying he was the new alpha. That mario dude apparently hates me and made the question too. I got accused to being making multiple accounts posting these questions lol.. think it was hulksmash making multiple accounts tbh.

[Chico_brah]

I didn't really care before if people had it. Was just that fact that he was msging people on my facebook with the intent to ruin my reputation.

[Luci92]

@Chico_brah wouldn't surprise me if it was, hulksmash was a weirdo... don't really miss him tbh.
The nerds are just mirin dude. That's all it is lol.

[Luci92]

@Chico_brah ahh okay, that's fcked up.

[Chico_brah]

Lol. Most people were directly cool with me before. Once I was gone everyone turned to the darkside lol. Some chick started spreading rumours that she talks to me actively on snapchat and I deactivated because I was competing in professional bodybuilding show. Like wtf? This isn't happening. Lmfao. Had this elaborate paragraph/story about it. people got ahold of my KIK. Was getting spammed with weird msgs. Got a ton of friend request on my FB as well. Deactivated for now though..

[Luci92]

@Chico_brah right then lol

[Chico_brah]

@redeyemindtricks I'm following you back by the way.

[redeyemindtricks]

@Chico_brah I gone'd the reference to the old username (yes, "gone" is a verb now)

[archiz]

just be natural
if I find the guy has nice eyes I tell him
if he has a nice smile I compliment
if he s been working out I point it out
also you look good today "wink wink"
hello handsome etc..

[Chico_brah]

Hello handsome

[archiz]

@Chico_brah rooooaaarrr

[Triss]

You look gorgeus
That hairstyle... wow!
Where do you buy bread? In pharmacy?😄

[Josht13]

I would take the that hairstyle.. wow as "that hairstyle wow it's shit"

[Triss]

@Josht13 well that's how YOU take it

[Josht13]

the point was it's ambiguous.

[Maazin]

Dont compliment on looks initially.
Compliment the following traits if he possesses them :
intelligence
Humor
Manliness
dressing style
Achievements n ambition

Hairstyle, physique and face at the last.

And if you enjoy laughing at his jokes he will understand.
Hope this helps, good luck 😊

[Luci92]

Thank you :) and I do compliment him on these things frequently as does he, but I feel like I'm selling him short on the compliments about looks lol.

[Maazin]

Persistence is an art in such moments 😊

[Yumix]

aww... don't think too mich about it, just tell me whatever you wanna say

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[Luci92]

Hahaha
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[Yumix]

haha thanks ^_^

see... it wasn't that difficult ;)

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[Luci92]

haha ;) I reckon I'll just send him gifs from now on lmao

[archiz]

hahaha

[Ratiocinative]

Personally, I prefer a woman to just show me how she feels than just say it. Not that compliments are bad, but nothing beats the feeling of when she just wants to cuddle with you because being in your arms makes her feel safe and loved.

But as far as compliments go, think of something masculine. Guys don't care about being pretty, they care about being strong and tough and a leader. Of course, the best compliments are genuine. What specifically do you like about him?

[Bluemax]

Kiss him.

Or you could try this...

https://youtu.be/KfTwTbXvR8Y

[Luci92]

Hahahahaha

[Bluemax]

One of those I was serious about.

[Luci92]

I'll try both lmao

[fermatote]

I personally prefer saying beautiful/gorgeous. I also heard specially from guys saying "You look nice", "I liked your hairstyle", "nice jacket" etc. But the thing which really I really care is their facial expression like the "wow" look in their eyes. That means that person really meant it.

[pervertedjester]

According to my US to Aussie language guide isn't "Spunk" the proper term to describe a hot guy?

[Luci92]

Haha well I can try lol

[vuscium]

Never call a British guy spunk because that has a VERY different meaning in the UK lol

[akadatank44]

I'm sorry flattered you asked a question about me 😍😉 hahah

Handsome

[Luci92]

Hahaha ;)

[akadatank44]

So*

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Haha 😉

[Wulfila]

I prefer more formal compliments myself, though I don't mind humorous ones if she's a funny person. I'm more likely to take the former route as genuine, because the latter can often come across as joking and / or insincere.

[1988fido]

Say : "Cute"
"I find you , really attractive" + smile for hi.

And in bed say : " omg u are big "
" I like it , it's so hard "

[BCRanger10]

"Cute" is fine. "Handsome" is a good one as well (women should use that one a bit more often).

[Flurr]

Be more specific. Like what is it that makes him "hot"?

"I can stay lost in your eyes" kind of thing, or "you're so sexy when you do this"

I've gotten compliments on my smile and lips.

[Abks1996]

"I like how you look today" "you look great " " nice shirt/jeans/shoes etc" "you have a nice smile" "i like your laugh" "you handsome" ...

[es20490446e]

I learned how to tell the appropriate thing in time by practising with jokes. Next level is compliments and flirting.

[Anonymous]

Handsome
Smart (UK English)
Striking
You're a hunk (prob too retro)
Clean cut
Stylish
Dapper

[AlwaysBelieving]

You're handsome.

Complement (non sexual) body part. I got a "you have nice calves" one time.

[Splintercell]

Handsome, hey good looking. Something along those lines.

[Nik1hil]

Can you keep your body away from me, it's turning me one '

Don't look me in eye,.. I am hungry and you look like open box of cookie'

[ChrisFluentMusic]

I used to get called, "oh you look good" or "hey you are hot" I mean it really depends on the person lol

[Anonymous]

Hmm if you love me kiss me hot n than say in my ear you are my man of dream

[yucel_eden]

"You're huge"

Sounds legit

[Luci92]

Hahahahahah yeah I've dropped that one before actually

[yucel_eden]

Please, what was he's reaction?

[Luci92]

He said good with a winky face lol

[yucel_eden]

Good? Lmao

[Luci92]

yeah hahaha

[Hammerofthor]

Just give him a bj. That beats any compliment.

[Luci92]

Haha pretty much

[ThisDudeHere]

Just tell him he's handsome.