Might've accidentally rejected him, could he still be interested in me?

[cassidyleora]

In January, this guy I've had a crush on for a while now gave me a hint that he might have some feelings for me. We were hanging out and he suggested some songs for me to listen to that he said were the best on his playlist. When I got home and listened to them, they all turned out to be about love. Not the sex kind of love, but the "no one's gonna love you like I do" sort of love. He's done this sort of thing before where he flirted with me to make some other girl jealous. When I confronted him about it the last time, he said that "he never said that he was flirting so I was mistaken," and "he didn't realize that I felt that way for him." This completely broke my heart, so I brushed this "songs thing" aside and decided not to do anything about it unless he was more straightforward about his feelings so I wouldn't be hurt again.

The problem is, I keep thinking that his feelings might have been genuine, and that he might not have been joking around this time. I get that a few months have passed, but we're still friends. He's agreed to take me to Prom when my date turned out to be a complete asshole, and this happened after the whole song incident. I still have feelings feelings for him, and I was wondering if it was too late to suggest going out on a date sometime or something.

It might also be beneficial for you to know that I've never really been in a relationship before and I'm sort of socially awkward and I suck at both the act of and recognizing flirting in a timely manner... It usually takes me a few days to even assume that someone was flirting with me.

Thanks for any help or insight. I'm seriously confused right now.

[looneymalooney]

he agreed to take you to prom, so there is a chance. did he ask you for prom or was it you who asked?

But I would punch him in the nuts for the part with "oh I wasn't flirting".
Something extremely similar happened to me and the girl said I'm seeing things.

I did not manage to figure it all out on why this kind of people do this and pretend it did not happen. Maybe they are afraid of being hurt, maybe they actually do not like you at all. But this second scenario is definitely not what I've seen in my case.

But I know for sure that this kind of people that deny their feelings, they hate confrontation and are actually not that good at saying what they feel under any circumstances at all.
I confronted the girl in my store, twice and she denied everything... twice, you guessed it.

I assume that they also have some big frustrations that get in their way. Plus once they said NO, even if it was a mistake from their side, they would never in a million years, do something to fix it. No! They will wait for the other person to fall down their knees and beg again and again. Even so, there is a big chance they will still deny there was ever anything.

So my advice to you is: try it, ask him to hang out as a date, but don't pressure yourself, don't be hard on yourself if he says no again. He might do it.
Do not confront him. He will have an easy way out of this and play the "I was trying to be a nice guy and take you to prom since your date cancelled, but there is no interest". i'm 100% he would do this if you confront him.

If he says no, just try and stop thinking about those "Signs". I know it will be hard and I know things will replay in your head over and over, but there is no other way.
Funny thing that after her second NO, she would post all kinds of things on her facebook which matched perfectly with what we discussed.

[looneymalooney]

*in his defense, in regards to what you've said when you confronted him... might not have been enough. It wasn't "I like you".
So at that point, he might have thought "oh oh, I've been spotted. fall back, fall back" and he said no "neah girl, we're gud, we friends, got your back".
He must have thought he will make it hard between you two if he says something. Confrontation + not being very clear on how YOU feel = disaster and denial on his side

[looneymalooney]

so awfully similar with what happened in my case.

[looneymalooney]

update?

[cassidyleora]

Nothing really interesting has happened, we went to prom and had a good time. Then he slowed down with messaging me on Snapchat, posted on his story something about a "bae" and now he's snapping me more often than he usually does.

[cassidyleora]

The "bae" thing on Snapchat was him with a goofy face saying "when bae looks good af and you can ('t) look away" (he forgot the 't for can't, and then his next thing was another goofy face saying "when bae coffers your spelling and you feel like you failed at life", but I wasn't the one that corrected him, nor am I in college with him, so he was talking about some other chick.

[MrWolf]

Just be hones & ask him out on a date. Either it goes well or it no.

Still he may just shared his playlist with you as a friend.
We boys tend to share the music we like and most times it's not about a hint or something else we don't read between the lines, like you woman do.

Even i share my favorite songs with girls and end up in the same situation still i don't dwell on this & tell them honest, that there it's nothing going on.

Now i don't think, that he even thinks that you rejected him. If you did hurt him he will not take you to Prom. Just be hones with the boy and see what comes out.

[cassidyleora]

Thank you so much!! Helps a lot!

[RichardBrooks]

You say you confronted him about flirting with you and he denied it. You also say you still have feelings for him. When you confronted him, did you have these feelings, and did you confess them? Cause if so, it sounds like he is just an awesome friend.
If you have not told him you have feelings for him, however, it's possible he is flirting with you. Make a move.

[cassidyleora]

Yeah, when I confronted him about it I think I said something along the lines of "while you were dealing with your heartbreak, I was dealing with one of my own caused by you" (it didn't work out with the other girl, and I helped him like a good friend would). Then I didn't talk to him for like 3 months, blocked him on all social media, and he finally found me in person and apologized and asked me to forgive him. But this whole thing happened like a year ago, so he might not think I still have those feelings. How should I go about making a move without scaring him off?

[RichardBrooks]

Hmm... I don't know. Maybe start by being a little flirty with him and see how he responds.

[Mega_illuminati]

i can say that guys do use playlist or links to favourite songs as starters. However, those will be socially awkward kind of guys. Is he confident in general? And if he is trying to make other girls jealous by flirting with you, then obviously he thinks you are better than them.

[cassidyleora]

It's hard to tell with him. He acts like he's confident, but sometimes he lets down the facade and I see that he's just as insecure as I am, if not more. Thanks for the insight, I really appreciate it!!

[Mega_illuminati]

glad i could help 😉

[Brindale]

Honestly I feel like he's just toying with you, ask him if he has feelings for you directly, if he tries to step around the question or makes an obscure answer I'd call it quits.

[cassidyleora]

Thanks, will do!

[turtl3man]

talk to him about your feelings. you don't want to leave him feeling like you've made yourself impossible

[quirkypeculiar]

Just tell him how you feel. What's the worst that could happen? Whatever happens, you will survive, and you will learn from it. That's how we grow. :)

[tyber1]

You can't expect someone to be straightforward if you aren't

[TheAlchemist02]

there may be a chance of him been interested but if he is good, you can try and find someone else

[Dude_91]

prob likes you and is shy.

[cassidyleora]

Is it possible that he still might like me, despite the fact that it's been about 3 months since this has happened?

[Dude_91]

sure, I still "like" a girl I haven't seen since November of last year.

[arushchd]

Just talk to him face to face and clear all doubts

[Prinstion]

Yes why not. You can rub a smile next time.

[Pizzalover101]

Not if you said sum mean things

[spunky_chancellor]

uhh he must hate u