Co-ed sleepover for 10 year olds?

[Anonymous]

So my 10 year old daughter got invited to a sleepover birthday party. I said it was OK, didn't think much of it. The birthday is for a boy. So the sleepover is coed. Then I start thinking more about it. My daughter has a crush on this boy. I saw a note she had written to one of her friends. It was on the couch awhile back. I never told her I saw it. So now I am a bit hesitate. Its going to be at the gals apartment and there are only 2 rooms. Um what are your guys opinions? Should I trust the sit or not? I don't want to fell like I am being overprotective

[greeneyedgal1]

Is the party supervised? How well do you know the parents and have you ever met or spoke to them? I would find this out first and maybe talk to her mom a bit to surmise if you will be more comfortable wih it. I don't think it should be a problem if it is supervised ,and the parents will make their presence known.

Your daughter is entering puberty and his tends to be an awkward stage. She will be trying to establish her own identity, deal with hormonal and body changes, discovery of cute boys and socializing with her friends more. She will need you to support her during this phase of her life. Let her enjoy herself and being a kid once you have covered all the basis prior to the party. I think this will deepen your daughter's trust with you and she will feel more comfortable approaching you as well.

You have to give her a little bit of freedom but remain a parent, not a friend. Good luck.

[AllisonA]

I don't think it's really appropriate for her to sleep over. Yes, it will probably be harmless, and yes, nothing will happen, but you are creating boundaries for your daughter, and it is probably wise to stick to your guns about this one.

she is young, and right now it is a crucial time d to keep some moral value despite what society thinks. even if it is only innocent.

It may be only a sleep over and she may be angry with you at first, but other things will come up, and you want to keep up with the rules you've previously laid down.

I'm only 18, I've never had kids, so maybe I am wrong but even at my age I don't think it's appropriate for a young girl to sleep over at a boys house.

[Anonymous]

that's inappropriate. a CO-ED SLEEPOVER FOR 10 YEAR OLDS? are the parents on crack? I think that is inappropriate it should be girls only, and if the kid is a boy then it should be boys only.

parental supervision doesn't mean much anymore, especially if the parent who is doing the supervision is a total dunderhead.

never take a chance with your child. the fact that you are asking this question says that you probably partly are thinking WTF? I would feel the same way. kids these days are getting into sex younger and younger, I don't know what 10 year old boys have on their mind but I do know I wouldn't want my daughter sleeping over at a someone else's house with a bunch of boys there

[Snacks]

Please. You don't remember being 10? That's when everybody has a crush on everybody but one person more than the rest, but no one has any idea what to do with their feelings. If you honestly think a bunch of 10 year olds are going to get together at a birthday party and have sex, you're delusional, and will only reinforce to boys that they can't be trusted and their feelings don't matter.

[Opinion Owner]

Who gives a f*** about boys feelings when it comes to my child? I'm guessing you don't have kids, when you do you'll put your child's safety and well being above anyone's potential hurt feelings.

[Snacks]

10. YEARS OLD. Your child is not going to beaten, verbally abused beyond childish playground namecalling at the worst, or raped at an elementary school sleepover with parental supervision. Jesus.

[bunny420]

If 10 year old boys and 10 year old girls sleep near each other ALL HELL WILL BREAK LOOSE!

[Hughman]

They are 10 year olds...I'd be surprised if half of them have even started puberty.

You deny your daughter now, and you make sleeping with boys the 'forbidden fruit'. Better to show trust in her.

Equally, won't the boy's parents be there? And how is anything bad going to happen with only two rooms?

[Nickishguy]

THEY ARE 10! What's gunna happen, they do alittle shy kiss, is that too terrible?! Set boundries when boundries need to be set, and that is not now

[lafeeverte]

ok she has a "crush" but I've had crushes since I was in kindergarten, and it was never a big deal. they're still little kids, they're not thinking about sex. let her go to the sleepover, it will teach her that it's okay to be friends with boys, and later on that'll probably help her if she has guy friends she can go to for advice when things really get serious and she might have a chance of getting hurt. let her create healthy friendships and don't be overprotective.

[josephinelcajon]

A living room sleep over drunk off root beer and high on sugar cake sounds like a blast! I think nothing would ever happen. If it were a few boys alone no girls somethings going to happen!

[Jaylaa2000]

I mean. Tbh at 10 doubtful they thinking bout anything like that even with a crush if they do anything be like a kiss on the cheek or something

[Ugrace]

Should be fine. If you are really worried, you could ask the parents if they do keep an eye on the children to stop worrying you :)

[smallbrownman]

I think it'll be fine. You should be close to your kid but not pry too much into their lives. Sometimes you gotta take risks for them to grow.

[r12eng9]

there will be parental supervision right?

if so, then I guess, its alright.

[Anonymous]

I think it will be fine. They are ten years old. If you don't let her go you are being over protective, but also you'll have to tell her why she can't go. It will be an experience for her.

[Anonymous]

I think she will end up giving her crush a hand job. even if he can't come.

[Anonymous]

if the parents are going to be there its absolutly fine. if you don't let her go you are being extremly overprotective.

[ALIgator]

They're ten its fine.