It all depends. Let me explain. I get hit on a lot being that I'm a bartender and stripper dealing with flirtatious mean is my job. Honestly though I MOSTLY hate it. I guess because when you hear the same thing from so many guys you start knowing the true intention behind every "hey beautiful" and "has anybody told you how stunningly pretty you look". I get hit on a lot just walking down the street too though, and still it's not much better with every catcall and car honk. Now I said it depends because there are the FEW and true gentleman out there where when they throw you a compliment you see the sencerity in their eyes and the genuine truth in their voice, and when those few do compliment it makes me feel like I really am beautiful and does boost my self esteem immensely, but when everybody else says it all I really hear is "your a nice piece of ass to fuck n forget" and that makes me feel like I'm dressing too permiscuious even though I'm in a t-shirt n leggings, or that I look like I'm easy or a hoe, but the worst feeling is hearing it so much that you actually start to believe that it might really be all your good for because in the scheme of things they just placed you in a "easy fuck able" box along with 50 other hoe ass basic bitches they used those compliments on who actually bought it, meaning they got no real respect for you cause they view you no better than the hoe they fucked n chucked last night smh. As I said it depends.
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A man who was raised in the arms of a good women will not try hitting a girl and abuse her both mentally and physically and if a guy is trying to do that I'm sure girls in this generation are not gonna sit and cry! I don't think there is no point in feeling insecure about this
No. It boosts my ego, but not my self esteem. Self esteem can only come from you, it doesn't come from external validation. Some of the most beautiful women you meet have low self esteem - they get compliments all the time. Doesn't mean they value themselves
I don't think it's a matter of self-esteem. A woman will brag about how often she "gets hit on" regardless of how it impacted her self-esteem and whether or not she liked the guy or thought he was hot or not. It will just be more of an egotistical thing for her to talk about.
I love it when a guy hits on me. It's extremely rare (even rarer for a woman to) but it feels so good. Even if they're not someone I'm attracted to it brighten my day to feel I'm wanted by someone at least.
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if he is decent looking and doesn't come off desperate, yea
I really don't like it. I am not the one with an ego for that. I don't like that inappropriate attention. One can compliment without getting the intention of being sexual. That is a no-no for me. I don't care who he is, or what he looks like. I'm secure enough to tell a guy what it is. God made me. A man doesn't make me.
Yes, my cousin/friends always get hit on and told compliments & I dont & it really makes me feel like shit. So whenever you have a chance compliment people never regret it because you never know if one day that girl you wanted compliment might have wanted to end her life or feels like she's not worthy. even a smile makes my day
It depends on the approach and setting. If it's done as a compliment where I feel it's genuine, then yeah, it'll make me smile and boost the way I see myself. Like a guy who approaches me and stirs up a conversation by just saying something like, "hey, something tells me like you're one I'd like to get to know" is something that would boost my self esteem. If it's a construction worker who cat calls me as I'm doing a morning run... I just feel uncomfortable.
There was this thread on bodybuilding. com where some guy photoshopped a picture of a girl to have like a fucking pigs snout, hair all over her chest, etc., like it wasn't just 'oh an ugly girl' yknow she wasn't a human being, and he signed up to dating websites with that as the picture & waited for guys to approach her, and they did, and they hit on her super hard, and called her beautiful, etc., and wanted to fuck her.
If it ever did, it doesn't now.The thing is, it's not super flattering if a guy you aren't attracted to hits on you. Because it puts you in whatever league he is. Which if he's ugly, you feel you must be as unattactive to if he thought he had a chance with you.
That being said, that is how I felt when I was younger and more immature. Now I realize leagues don't really exist and who the person is on the inside matters more.When I was single it did, now it just annoys me. I know they can't tell whether or not I'm single, but for some reason people hitting on me that I have no interest in just seems like a complete waste of time for both me and them.
I'd be lying if I said it didn't, mostly a confidence boost, especially if I thought I didn't look that great that day.
I mean it’s nice but it doesn’t change my confidence too much, can’t base my idea of myself off what some guys say.
It's a quick EGO boost I suppose. I am a firm believer though that real self-esteem comes from you. That's why even sought-after, hot girls have self-esteem issues.
Not particularly. It's more annoying than anything else. I've got shit to do and people to see. Leave me alone so I can get back to my beautiful bed as quickly as possible.
It's mostly just a fading ego boost. And sometimes it has a negative effect rather than a positive one. Sometimes I think people are hitting on me because they think I'd be easy for whatever reason.
I guess it depends on when/where it's said and if other people are around. I always appreciate compliments but if you are with the boys and it seems like you are showing off I'll feel self conscious
Depends on how hot is guy...
From the real discust to be very flattering...
But the reality is.. a bunch of. guys i dont like (not my type), always trying to hit on me... it brings me nothibg but annoying, anger and bad mood and lower my self esteem.
And only a few guys that i like, thats when i am flattering and boost self esteemSelf esteem comes from within the self... Outside influences are fleeting.
No I guess. It's normal for guys to hit on me (I'm not saying I'm a super model let's be clear lol) but my self esteem depends more on other factors than male attention unfortunately.
There's a reason why women would constantly post selfies on social media and fish for likes and comments... they value attention more than they value sex.
Depends on the person. If someone I don't find attractive hit on Mr, it's annoying and drags my sel esteem down.
Yeah definitely. Unless it's a guy hitting on as many girls as possible and just waiting for on to reply. That doesn't boost my self esteem. It annoys me.
All I'm thinking is why me, why are they interested or hitting on me? I just don't get it haha
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