Do not take this wrong way.. it is going to sound harsh but you just have to simply get over it. There is no magic trick or spell or thing you can do that will make you wake up tomorrow and suddenly not like him. I have also had a crush on a co worker (he wasn't taken but I knew it was against our code and dangerous and unhealthy). But I had to accept that it is not happening and just got over it and stopped entertaining fantasies. Just like you should be able to separate personal issues from your work, you need to separate feelings from him. Once you have found someone new to be sexually attracted to it will be easier. But you gotta just be harsh. Get over it.
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I've been in a similar situation with a co-worker. It was obvious that we were both sexually attracted but he was married. All day I was distracted by thoughts of kissing him, having sex with him, and all sorts of inappropriate thoughts. I knew that I had to stop so I started only talking to him if it was absolutely necessary, nothing unrelated to work, no joking around, no smiling, all business. I ended up quitting my job and working elsewhere.
There's no way to make it go away. All you can do is not act on it.
You're not being clear with him he's a guy so he's going to continue thinking you want to have sex with him. If you really want it to go back to normal, you need to approach it professionally. Say something like "Hey, it was fun when we joke and play around before, however you're married and I don't want to keep doing that anymore. I want to make sure we keep things professional so I need you to stop, and I will as well.". I know this might be tough and awkward to say, however it's the only want to get it back to normal.
You can't make a man go back to "normal" after you two start to flirt. He will always have a strong urge for getting laid with you, because you showed your interest once. The only way to make him back down is to have a serious talk with him. If what you said is right (him wanting it back to normal too), then you have nothing to worry about - you two can talk this out. Otherwise, I don't know.
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Kinda like my situation but thing os im engaged. I wish the guy and I could talk normally like we used to but sooo freaking awkward now aandd were both avoiding each other. 😭
now this sounds familiar. How closely do you work, can you keep work a mix of formal and informal so it gets back to friendly? i know i reverted to making things more formal once i realised we'd got that emotional connection a bit too much.
Just what you're doing now. Be very formal. Soon that odd feeling will become discomfort, and that will end the attraction.
That sounds like a sexy affair you little minx. Do it! And deal with the inevitable drama later (trust me)
did you already have sex with him? Or what exactly happened between you too?
Look He is married Just imagian ur histrue wife and what will happend if you notive ur husband is a cheater dont be selfish
Don't act on it, get a husband for that and tell him to screw his wife so he doesn't go looking elsewhere
Pick anyone.:
Make me your boyfriend
Resign from the job
Address him bro.Tell him to end everything n never talk to him again. He is married. Have empathy
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