Guys, How do you act after rejection?

[Anonymous]

When rejected (twice) how do you act toward the girl? Especially if the girl is still texting first everyday?

Do you cut off all communication even if they say "hey", and not reply? Or do you just talk short to them, replying to only what they text you? I mean as someone who's still interested in them, there's no purpose in having a fake friendship in hopes that they'll crack.

Basically, How do you react after rejection? Especially if you're still interested, yet they keep trying to talk, hang out, etc. And how do you approach it if you know that there's someone else that has their eye?

[na118105]

It really depends what you! want.

Good friends dont grow on trees. But if you have lots of friends maybe it doesn't matter if this person disappears from your life. If you want to be friends with them than be a friend to her in whatever context that means to you. But understand that she doesn't want to be with you and you have to treat her that way. Treat her the way you want your friends to treat you. It takes strength to be there for people you love. Especially when they don't love you in that kind of way. But be very careful DO NOT LET THIS PERSON TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR FEELINGS TO THEM!!! And don't give too much of yourself to that friend.. they are only a friend.. nothing more

[munclebieben]

I’ll tell you a little story... I just got fired from work and at the time and I said what better way to ruin my day then talk to a girl.. cause to every girl I’m pretty much ugly/invisible, but anyway I talk to this girl with some confidence that could have been better... she gives me her number for whatever reason and barley talks to me so thats how I knew I was being rejected, but the shorter answer to you’re question is I just deal with it... it really irritates me tho when women say personality is key not looks , cause they don’t mean that I can promise you (atleast in my case)

[Logorithim]

I am still friendly with her, especially if she is still initiating contact and wants to hang out. She may have perfectly reasonable grounds to turn you down, and there's nothing gained by being upset about it- no one is entitled. It doesn't matter, either, that she may be interested in another guy.
It actually makes you look good and mature if you can handle being turned down, and that may help you in your social circle.

[Mathman]

I believe it depends on a few factors. If you're already friend with that girl since a while, if you intend to stay friend with her, if you have to still see her a lot (like if you work or go to school with her)...

I lived this situation a few times. I'm excellent at beeing friendzoned... Sometimes, I had to downgrade my interest in a girl cause I was working with her and I had to keep things professional. Some other times, I just took my distances and let her some space.

Do whatever you need to feel good with yourself. If it's to walk out, do so. If it's to stay friends, do so. Just don't be mean to her nor to yourself. It's cliché, but communication is the key here.

[lightraid51s]

Just be straight. "Im not interested in friendship or pen pals and I'm certainly not going to serve your ego and be your go to guy when you need compliments. I'm looking for a relationship and you are unable to provide that for me so I think it's best we cut contact with one another because this isn't working for me. All the best and best wishes for the future"

[delange91]

I have the same thing as the guy asking the question it might as well been me asking this your advise sounds so good and makes so much sense man and im getting were you are coming from trust me but i can't get it over my heart to keep being that go to guy

[lightraid51s]

These women will drop you like lead once that "cool" guy comes along and you will feel like utter shit. If you even dare express your heartache or displeasure to this then you will get a swift "wtf we wasn't even together, get over it" I've been there and done it. These types of women are cancerous and vile. Like a tumor they need cutting out or they will ruin you.

[delange91]

Jesus man as im reading this i imagine all kind of scenarios how she can just drop me that it scares me you know in all truth I've lost a car that i had because of her

[delange91]

In all fairness i lost the car due to my own decisions but she was the root of these decisions

[lightraid51s]

Jesus Christ mate, get out of there now. Your weakness empowers them. They literally thrive from you as a host. Get gone dude and return your mind to health

[delange91]

Her brother is my best friend and he is visiting me this upcoming weekend he told me that she wants to come with him to come visit but he can't tell me she wants to surprise me? What to do

[lightraid51s]

Just be polite and say you had some lad stuff planned this weekend. Say you have things on your mind and need some lad time to just let go and be guys. Say you appreciate your sisters kind thought but your just not feeling it. You don't need to be brutal, just be polite and stick to your guns.

[costinha68]

Been there many times bro. What works for me is quite simple, i answer them and speak normally but i dont wastr any resources on them (money, time, patience, etc). When they ask me to hang out i just say no, eventually they ask why and i just say "ill go out and try to get because i know i ain't getting it from you." problem solved. If u try to keep that bullshit friendship you will end up being her teddy bear, she will fuck other guys and you will deal with all the emotional bullshit when they leave. Where are your guy friends? Go get yourself a wingman go out and get laid.

[Bananaman177]

What the fuck? I might say "hey" in person if she greets me first, but I don't fucking text girls who rejected me, or reply to their texts either.

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[ShyGuy30]

Fuck her off, if she rejected you it means she’s doing it for her own pleasure that she likes having someone who will give her attention. It may work on your favour as she’ll realise you’re not readily available like you are now and will start to pursue you potentially. Either way don’t talk to her!

[wave_rider]

You're being baited into the friend zone. You have feelings for this person, they are aware of it and want to stay connected without dating you. You're making yourself a prime target for emotional manipulation.

Be up front about it, ask why she messages you when she rejects you, play it safe, and if need be cut connections

[1derfulguy]

For me, it is unhealthy to stay around women who have rejected me. I risk debasing myself because I hope that they may change their mind. Some women are so bitchy in the way they reject you (though this is uncommon in my experience), that I lose all respect for her anyway. Because she does not treat others with respect.

[MaeX1992]

How would you have time to to such a thing. If she is a friend i think then you two would be old enough to accept what happened and be friends all along. If she is no friend just tell her you can't write anymore because if the one you are meeting sees this chatting, she won't be pleased. Wish her all the best for her future and be done with it (but don't be rude).

[redrum187]

Distance yourself but make sure it looks like you're not doing it cause you're upset. Just make it appear as though you have moved on me make her think you don't care cause u got millions of. Girls to choose from. Still be nice but be short and don't always text back

[DamnSam]

In that case a "im not interested" means often "I will think about it, but maybe in future, but too maybe not"... this fckng "maybe"

But if she text you almost every day first, then she is a bit interested because if she is not interested she would cut conversation to a minimal amount to prevent feelings...

[jessture]

Rejection equals game over. If she says no, I respect that and move on. If she rejects but then gives contradiciting signals that indicate she wants you, I still move on, I don't tolerare women who are so manipulative. It's either yes or no.

[BCRanger10]

Historically, I've usually felt embarrassed. If I've seen her again afterwards, it's pretty awkward. I'd usually be unsure on how to act around her if I saw her out somewhere.

[MrSanchez84]

Rejected... jk

Maybe you can still be friends but actively look for a new relationship with another girl. Be careful that she's not trying to play you or use you emotionally to make yourself feel good. If that's what she's doing break it off.

[inkthusiast]

Be yourself, but be less amenable. Don't get played, some women do crack after learning thier reward system is broken.

[Bluemax]

Perhaps it would be best to put some distance between you and this woman. When you're over her, then resume contact if you like.

[delange91]

Man when i read this question i was in awe i wish i could pm you as im having this exact this going on in my life dude dude dude im telling you we have a lot to talk about

[LegateLanius]

You tell her to lose your number. She wants to be friends and you want more. I'd drop all contact. For the record, I only get rejected once and do that.

[Pindaflip]

I can imagine the pain after getting rejected twice. In the beginning it will hurt, but when it's gone. Then I would have contact with her, just being friends. I wouldn't expect anything and just live my life with or without her friendship.

[Anonymous]

Well I had a situation where there was a girl I worked with I liked her and she ended up rejecting me telling me I wasn’t her type and she would never date me if I was the last guy on earth. So I attempted to avoid her to make my feelings go away then she constantly came up to me and was like why are you avoiding me and can we talk about it and I’m not not gonna leave you alone, she then proceeded to ask everyone at work why I wouldn’t talk to her

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

My ego will be hurt, but I'll move on. I won't subject myself to humiliation.

There's plenty of women out in this world.

[assholemonkey]

Nope. Just plain NO. Happened to me before. I told the girl, I can't just be friends with her since I wanted something more.

Don't get strung along as a reserve or a last choice.

[Juxtapose]

I just treat her like another friend at that point. Why would I try to date her if I didn't like her personality in the first place?

Friendship is the foundation of any good relationship.

[misthe]

Goodbye.. if she is not responding in anything.. goodbye

[johnboymuscles]

Cut contact. She wants you for what benefits her but doesn't want to give back to fulfill your needs. Women always do this then cry wolf when it backfires

[tonymack124]

I would still be willing to be friends although id be shitty about it in the back of my mind but everyone is different. Id also tell her like look this isn't right.

[sonfking]

At first I will be feeling sorry for my self then when time goes on I will get over it

[jiothecat]

Work on myself, date other people. Act like we just met.

[skeetskeetskeet]

Still talk to them.. because you never know...