Do you still care for your ex?

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Or at least hope they are happy?

My ex boyfriend was my first .. everything. I loved him and we planned to get married and have kids on day.. all when we were 16 and 17. Even though he showed signs of insecurity jealously and anger issues, I loved him for who he was. I made it through a year and three months with this guy, but the last straw was when I learned he lied when he told me my best friend was trying to have sex with him,.. which never happened. And he actually came up with stories to tell me about how when the three of us were at the beach and I was taking pictures, she was somewhere with him and she threatened to call the cops if he didn't feel her up under her clothes. Well that's just one example. I believed his lies because I loved him to death and there was no way I thought he could lie to me this bad. When he wasn't controlling what I ate, did, how I looked, who I was friends with, he was the sweetest guy ever, He spent hundreds of dollars on me and made me feel so good. When it was good it was amazing and when it was bad it was horrifying. When I learned of the lies I told him straight up this is your last chance and I told him I am going to be very pissed and upset for months and months and if I'm worth it your going to have to deal with it. Well a few days after that warning I freaked out at him and started swearing and yelling at him, I guess he couldn't hold back and verbally attacke me back. That was what made me finally end it. We hooked up a couple times after because I couldn't face the reality that we couldn't be together any more. We tried to be friends but just fought severely and he eneded up blocking me and we didn't talk for a month. I mesaged him the other day and it was fine at first we were talking but then the topic came up about us and he told me that he doesn't care about me and I'm just another person, I admitted to him that hurt and I still cared about him. He told me how he hates all people and would kill everyone if he could... he said I'm just another person now. Breaking up with him was the hardest thing I had ever done. I finally learned that I deserve respect. Kay done my life story :)

Dana88 · Accepted Answer

AS SOON AS A MAN LAYS A FINGER ON YOU, YOU WALK OUT AND You WALK OUT FOR GOOD! I would love to share my story, please if anyone knows or feels the same way I do, please respond!

i began dating this guy when I was about 15 years old, now I'm 22, so its been about 6 years.. it all ended a few months ago, and I do not know how I feel about it.. but here's what happened!

We dated for almost 6 years, and it got serious obviously! I met his parents, he met mine, he even proposed! and I said that we;d head in that direction but I wasn't ready yet, its not that I didn't love him, I was just freaking out, because most marriages end in divorce and stuff (like my parents) so a year passed, then I decided it was time, so he came over and asked my dad if he could marry me, my dad doesn't live with us, so he said when he comes back to the country he;ll see him again, then left!

After that, we got into stupid arguments, and slowly realized we are totally diff people and we want totally diff things in life, I'm a dreamer, I want to be a successful business woman one day, have a company of my own, decorate my own house etc.. (I went to visit my dad and I found a great job opp for me, and I told my boss id take it, so I told him and he freaked out, he started saying how are you just gonna pick up and leave, we were suppose to get married, but honestly I felt like he was stealing my dreams away, I was so angry at the thought of him not wanting me to be SOMETHING one day, I didn’t want to break up though, I just wanted to get a freggin job, I've graduated almost 2 years ago and haven't found anything decent) he doesn't want me to work.. I felt like he was being disrespectful, selfish and not understanding .. so that lead to fights and arguments and so we decided to meet up and talk about it, so we did, and then he went on about what he wants and doesn't want from his wife, so I stopped him from talking and told him I just don't think that's what your trying to say, I think your trying to tell me its over!

he did mean that and I agreed to end everything, so we did but I kept on crying about it every time I saw him! because we decided to be friends.. so we went out for dinner after the breakup, we didn't talk about it, we just spoke about life and work and things, anyways at the end of that night as he was dropping me off, I cried my eyes out and gave him a big hug, he cried too. And saw him once again before I left, we ended up in bed and I also cried my eyes out that night knowing it was the last time id ever be with him. He cried again too! Then I left the next day, and that same following night I started regretting everything, began to freak out, and begged him to come back to me! He kept saying that what we decided was the best for us, and that he will never love anyone as much as he loved me, he’d only get married because he;d have to one day and all that.. I fell asleep and when I woke up the next morning I felt like an idiot, I am not a weak person..

Eva8686 · Accepted Answer

It good that you got your story out, it make you realize that's all it was, a story in your life that you learned something from...answering your question, yes, I do still care about my ex, I think about him all the time, and don't have any bad feelings towards him, although I've tried to just to get over him...i actually miss him, but know that life circumstances aren't allowing us to be together for whatever reason.. so I'm open to loving a new person in the future, although I would give him another chance if fate somehow brought us back together. I want him to be so happy, and I want to be happy, even if its not with him...I guess you have to believe that there is someone else out there for you that will be your source of peace, love and respect, we get enough of hate and bad stuff from the world we don't need it from that one person we want to come home to after a hard days work...

Justinefoox · Accepted Answer

I still like my ex, a lot. When I think about it. I don't think about him very much anymore, unless I run into him. I'm currently dating someone else, I'll probably always care for my ex but he's got some serious commitment issues. Even just hanging out with him would be fine, the thing is he caused me so much hurt for so long , and I can't figure out why. I can't believe I cared so much and got hurt so badly,  actually I can't believe I LET him. I guess it's one of those things to foret about. It's even worse if you never got any closure from it. It took  about ten or eleven months to get over him. You start to realize that you're better than that and you deserve better.

blur93tt · Accepted Answer

I dated a very controlling girl. As life had it I lost my license and instead of going to work In a place where they provide your accomodations and travel, my girlfriend at the time talked me into the idea of living with her. So I moved in, took a job in town, and settled in and trusted this girl as she seemed to really want it. After I was settled, the control of friends, where I went, who I talked to all started. In the end, all I had left was her, and all it came down to was a relationship with a girl I loved, but who was very insecure, and picked fights about absolutely nothing and everything. I have never been broken down like I was when we broke up. One last fight and I couldn't hold back, I screamed back, instead of taking it. I grabbed all my stuff, and moved to a friends couch. No license, no saved cash, no belongings. I lost 30lbs from stress, lost desire in all my hobbies, had no social life, and about 3 real friends left. After I left she started a smear campaign against me. Befriended all my old friends she thought were losers for about a month and tried building an army. So I basically had to pick up what was left of my life and start from scratch. No fun when your 20. Its been two months now. I'm in better shape then I ever was, I have a broad social cricle of friends new and old, and everyone is finally starting to see her for what she really is. As long as you know you deserve respect, you will be fine. What people like that think, whether they care or not doesn't matter in the slightest. Remember the good times, but also remember the bad. This stuff may all seem so important now, but In time it will become clear it isnt. Forgive always, but never forget.

MandMandM · Accepted Answer

In terms of the serious ones over 30 years:

1st (dumped me after 3 years): mildly yes - rare contact still

2nd (dumped me after 3 years): strongly yes - rare contact still

3rd (dumped her after 2 years): mildly yes - no contact since - know she's done ok

4th (dumped her after 1.5 years): yes - no contact since - I still feel a heel about her

5th (dumped me after 1.5 years, had kids with an ex boss): Still feel badly towards her.

6th (died after 20 years): inspires me to see through bringing up our kids daily

7th (looking OK so far, but unpredictability of outcome keeps me on my toes!).

krazEkid · Answer

you will always have feelings for your first love, if someone says they didnt, they are lying to your face. love is a great thing, and when your truly in love, your heart will be permantly filled with those emotions forever. those feelings you had for the person are so strong, that your heart and mind get used to it and don't know what to do without it. I think that's why we think of exes sometimes, because our heart and mind are focusing on what they remember most. I still care about my first love, not enough to get back with them, but enough to hope they are happy. my recent ex, I still completly love with all my heart, but I'm lost without those emotions. you will always have a place in your heart for your first, not a place to be filled. but a place that has there name already etched in it.

thetheme · Answer

Nope. I don't think about exes and I don't care about them. Why waste time on even thinking about someone that didn't want me? It's got to the point where I don't even remember my exes names. They don't get the satisfaction of my time. If I even see an ex I just keep walking. No eye contact, no smile, no words, nothing. I'm never "friends" with an ex and I don't wish them well because they don't exist to me. I don't wish them well, but I also have no regrets. I just move on and move forward.

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AeonZ · Answer

more or less, I still care about my ex. I suspect I still love her, but after she gave up so easily on me after her parents made some noise about us, I feel that she wasn't worth it at all. to have given up so easily on me? meh. its like she never loved me.

Its like I love her and hate her at the same time. sheesh.

"i gave you all my love, but all you gave me was goodbye."

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

Yes and no. She's not the person I loved anymore, but at the same time I still want her to be happy. But at the same time she caused so much pain and misery I want her to feel the same pain so she can grow and learn from that pain to never do something that painful to another again. It has left me very confused when it comes to her and I have no idea what I'd do if I met her. I know I'd never be with her again cause the trust is entirely gone. But, oh well.

frecklefaced · Answer

Yes, I still care for my Ex. He has made signs of jealousy of my new guy, and done stuff for my affection ( bad stuff.) But I still care about him because he held a special place in my heart.

As for you,

Honey I'm so sorry that happened to you, that must have been so hard for you. Your brave!

Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I do...right now I can't stand him and I love him at the same time. Actually its more that I love who he used to be, he's not that person anymore. At all.

ObLzz89 · Answer

i broke up with my 1st girlfriend, and now I'm with some one else whom I think a lot more comfertable with and feel like myself

but I pretty much still care about my ex and we are still good friends, not that I love her tho, its just that I kinda feel bad about her especially that she still has feelings for me (she said so)

Anonymous · Answer

I do not wish them the best to be perfectly honest with you. I don't want any harm to happen to them or anything. But I can't stand the thought of me not doing well alone when they moved on and are happy with someone else. I know that makes me mean and selfish and petty, but that's just what I think

kspillanxx · Answer

this kid lied to you and caused problems that wouldn't have been apparent if he hadent opened his mouth..dont ever believe your boyfriend over your best friends no matter how close you two are. go out with him again as long as you don't believe his lies

meccamega · Answer

I don't care about my ex. He cheated on me and dumped me by text. So why should I care about him now?

Reallywhyme · Answer

Im still strongly in love with my ex but I did so much messed up things to him I doubt he wants me back

bigblueeyes1 · Answer

yes, I still love my ex with all my heart even though I know we will never be together again.

justsayingso · Answer

It's called a breakup because it's broken.  Good book.

Ju1cedup · Answer

i think my ex is an idiot.. and pretty ugly now that I'm out of whatever trance I was in.. She was just a terrible person ha ha so I'd say no.

dontknowwhattodo2 · Answer

i don't give a sh*t about my exes

tokioangel95 · Answer

yes but I don't love him

frecklefaced · Answer

Yay go 2nd udate!

Tphilly187 · Answer

nope

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