I haven't talked to my boyfriend in over a week. What should I do, call him, or move on and stop hoping?

[Anonymous]

We have been together for over 6 YEARS, but have spent the majority of it as long distance. It has not been an easy 6 years but some how we made it work so far. Last time I talked to him was for New Years, and ended the conversation on a really good note...of course we spent it apart because we live in different countries at the moment (but are on the same time zone). We both told each other that we would call when we got home that night. He supposedly got home first but instead of calling, he left an email. I tried calling him a few times when I got home but no answer, and I even left a couple messages because I was worried. I didn't hear from him until the next day... through another email! And I waited the whole day for him to call me(because he said he would) but nothing... So finally I sent him an email back saying that I was really disappointed for the way he was choosing to start the new year off with me, and all I get back is another email mad about me speaking "reckless" and that he has enough to stress about...We haven't been in contact since. Is this relationship a total waist of time?

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@knowmeyourself - (sorry got cut off so I'm continuing here) ...me and treat me like his girl that he cares about and stop treating me like a damn pen pal! Ahh, men. I'll keep you updated if anything goes down.

[Anonymous]

Ok. I'm in long-distance too. I have made & still doing some mistakes...hopefully learning! A man hates when you criticize him and direct him. " I was really disapointed for the way he was choosing to start the new year off with me" wasn't a gr8 thing to say even if you're upset and frustrated. When you're always available, they take you for granted..not that they're bad ppl..but it's just men. Probably he found it too overwhelming to reply back to that criticism and would need some space to cool off. Men do appreciate serenity as far as I noticed...they don't like "unjustified" fights that we do (as they say :D). So, here he finds it that you're making somthing out of nthn.

Let me tell you how I would react to that. I wouldn't even get in contact with him. Act distant myself and wait him to initiate smth. He'll be confused and worried and would appreciate your existence in his life more. So, dear..don't overrate it like we girls do. Just relax, find other things to think about other than your boyfriend and you'll be just fine.

Trust me he'll contact you soon once you disappear :) Keep me updated!

[Asker]

Its SOOOO good to hear from someone in a similar situation!...cause everything is so different when its long distance! You can't just kiss and make up, even when its over silly things... Only reason I sent him that email is because there are times when I'm upset with him and he has no idea!...lol... and he tells me that he can't read my mind and I need to say something. So I did... Didn't expect his reaction though. I guess that's why I've been holding out. I just wanted him to CALL (not email!)

[Opinion Owner]

lol My boyfriend told me "I can't read your mind, please tell me when you're upset of smth" So, I did...but he gets overwhelmed too! :D

Distnce thing kills so I've learned to fight less. Best way to keep yourself distant after a fight like that. Trust me ;)

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, please keep me updated! :))

[Asker]

*sigh* Will do! Thanks!

[hihihihi]

Honestly, if you guys have been together for THAT long, I think you should call him.

I know it's way easier said than done, trust me, but just think, it's either gonna get better, or it's not. And standing around waiting for him isn't getting anything done.

Also, most guys like it better if you make the first move. Stupid I know. -.-

[Asker]

Thanks girl! I really needed to hear that... You're right, I am damn tired of waiting! I just wish he could've proved me wrong.