I'd say it's completely true. And not because I'm a cynic, but because we as humans have subconscious shallow natures. We can be good and genuine people, but in all of us there is still a basic preference for beauty.
In my experience, since you asked, I've been able to come on quite strong towards some girls and had no problems, they even seem to like it/want it. But then I've been told by female friends how less than average guys have made advancements that I could see myself doing, and that they thought he was really creepy and got uncomfortable etc.
Not trying to toot my own horn here, just substantiating my claim with my experiences.
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Very few people are actually ugly. Most people are just average, neither pretty, neither ugly.
I do not get insulted if i get approached by unattractive, average girls.
And i've seen many average "boring" looking guys talk to pretty girls.
Personally, I don't really agree with that. I'll admit that I do care about looks to a certain extent, but if someone who I don't find to be attractive flirts with me, I'm not going to accuse them of harassment or get offended or anything like that, if he is just friendly flirting, that'd be a big overreaction. I'm sure this statement is true for some people out there, but I can't say it is for me.
Not necessarily. I have a guy I work with who always outrageously flirts with me whom I'm not attracted to and he's a little bit overweight. I just laugh it off but I wouldn't call it harassment, I get lots of people I'm not attracted to try and flirt with me especially old men and I don't get offended and I don't see is harassment, I just see it as harmless and find it funny.
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If someone thinks like that, then I must say they have double standards.
I think it's the perception in some cases, perhaps also due to how someone flirts.
Personally i don’t think it’s true, at least for myself. Thing is, some people are really good at flirting and others suck. Sometimes I do get uncomfortable but it’s not necessarily coz I’m not attracted to them physically, it’s because the way they ‘flirt’ is just inappropriate... I came across guys that were not necessarily that attractive (for me) but they were great at flirting, so, I didn't find it creepy. it comes down to how you do it, not how you look like in my opinion. People can be charming without being ‘a 10’
There is definitely some truth to it. Women will let a guy they're attracted to treat them like shit. A guy they're not attracted to can treat them like a princess and get nothing in return.
Mind you, guys are similar. Maybe it's just that most of us have fewer fans, so we don't get to exploit it quite as much.This is sad, but true. A lot of women think this way including myself but won't ever admit it.
I think that’s the typical emotional reasoning women engage in and it’s exactly why I don’t flirt at work or in other situations that could cause me problems.
I also think it comes from a narcissistic and self absorbed mindset in which the world revolves around someone who thinks like this.I think it's valid.
I think if they find a guy to be unattractive then they will be quicker to become bothered and tolerate less. And if a guy is very attractive they'll be more receptive and more tolerant of whatever he does -- much slower to be bothered and less likely to cry harassment -- they'll want to believe it's a flirt. Whereas with the other guy, that idea grosses them out and sets them more against him than for him.I do think attractive guys can push the boudary a lot further while flirting without being thought of as a creep and that unattractive are far more likely to be perceived as creepy.
I have dated people who were not hot. Looks are one important factor to consider, but they're defo not everything.
The person receiving the attention determines what it is. I think you're saying that if a good looking person gives you attention, you consider it flirting, but from an "ugly" person, you consider it harassment. The key is "unwanted attention of an inappropriate nature". If you WANT it, it's not harassment, no matter who is giving it.
It is true.
That’s sadly a statement that is mostly true, it shouldn’t be that way however.
I look average
No one have judged me based on looks yet and I think if someone will ever judge me based on looks then it's their loss I won't care... People often think I'm a player but when they get to know me their opinion changes. I'm here for myself and for things I wanna do so idc tbh 😂 LOLI agree, ugly people shouldn't flirt. They should stay in the woods where they belong.
If it is true, this is terrible. Women like to get attention of hot guys just like men like the attention of hot women. This is normal. There are few hot women and men in the world and few ugly women and men. Most of us are average, we should all deal with it.
I know it's the truth, I never had luck in love so... I know what it feels like when you're not worthy :(
If he would like my slave why not lol I want slave 😂
i didn't get phrase but i agree with ur explanations selina u r from the good looking people but thank god u r smart enough to put emotions and personality of the one who is going to date you as prior not look 👍
People are a shallow race, and it truly shows in that lay out, so in other words it is perfectly ok to flirt, but not harrass, but both are defined by the person's looks
Yeah, that is true most of the time. The good looking get away with flirting. Women will think of it as cute, sweet or whatever. If an ugly guy does it he is often considered creepy.
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