Like a lot of others on here, I was too shy to not ask anonymously.
Guys, Is it ok for a black woman to fantasize about white men?
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Yes. A fetish is an unusual obsession that generally gets worse and worse.
However if it is just a phase, that's okay.
Regardless, I think you will have a hard time since the vast majority of white guys and white men prefer dating white women.
~ "I'm a man on a mission; stay out of my way."
I am having a hard time as far as fighting it, but you've given me helpful info as far as the true preference of a white man, and the fact that these feelings are jusT a phase.
Your post is what I need to hear in order to get over it.
By the way, what instated in my response was not sarcasm; I'm being serious.
I mean I had it too.. 16-20. Severe case of Yellow Fever. No matter what girls were around me, no matter what I was doing, I was only thinking about how beautiful Asian girls are.
However after a few years I finally realized that it was just a phase and I am generally far more attracted to white women.
I have to say that until I was 16 I was mostly interested in white girls. Once my crave for "exotic"(my fetish) was gone, my feelings towards white girls came back.
I had to fight hard to realize that I was lost. My obsession and my addiction were unhealthy, stupid, exaggerated and it prevented me from meeting interesting girls (personality wise) from other races.
Once I got rid of my fetish my life changed... FOR THE BEST!
~ "I'm a man on a mission; stay out of my way."
I know. And like I said before, you should try to get over it. There are a few black girls that end up marrying white guys, but overall it's rare.
Even if white guy+black girl your obsession and fetish were still very unhealthy but since white guy+black girl is one of the most uncommon couples out there, your fetish is not only unhealthy but also unreasonable. Why would you be strictly attracted to a group of people that in most cases have nothing to do with you?
You are only increasing your chances of being single because meanwhile you could meet a fine black gentleman that would probably desire you and understand you more.
Just so that we're clear.. I don't say you have to date black guys. I am just giving you an example!
~ "I'm a man on a mission; stay out of my way."
You're absolutely right. And, I keep telling myself that.
How long did it take you to get past your phase? And how did you fight it?
Right now, I'm just keeping my distance and--likebyou said--directing my gaze towards black/Hispanic men. I'm hoping this will work
A few months ever since I started fighting my obsession. Simple.. I started to talk to girls I would normally not. I started to stop watching Asian related stuff. Every single time I got Asian girls in my mind I started doing something that I like only so that the thoughts will fade away.
I basically tried hard not to think about it anymore and just enjoy life!
I have to say.. I still like Asian girls, but I don't like them anymore than I like black girls or latina girls.
I am cured.
~ "I'm a man on a mission; stay out of my way."
Nice! I'm going to give it my best shot!!
Thanks for your post; you gave me a truth I needed to TRULY shut the door and move on. Everyone else is lying and sugar coating; which is no help.
One thing that I learned is that you should never lie if lying is only going to hurt the person you are talking to.
I could have told you: It's fine! white guys love black girls to death!
Why should I tell you that? to raise you expectation only so that you are disappointed after that?
There are always exception, it's always worth fighting for what's truly yours. Maybe you are in fact going to end up with a white guy, maybe you are!
The chance is slim though. Your fetish is part of your attraction towards white men. Your attraction is not natural. It's a result of your fetish that you have developed. It will get worse and worse. Maybe you will find yourself a desperate white guy that doesn't care about race.
Are you looking for a desperate guy? NO! You can do so much better!
Most white guys can't understand black women. Jeez.. I can't understand black women. Never done, never will, because I'm a white male. I do not go through the situations that you do daily just like you don't understand mines.
Science and statistics have always shown little to no chemistry between white males and black females. That's not going to change very soon, until maybe we will all blend in ONE SINGLE CULTURE! but that's not going to happen in our life time.
That's why my best advice for you it's get over your fetish and then move on.
Maybe you will end up with a smart white guy or a fine black guy, but you know? it will be because you love them for who they are!
YOU CAN DO BETTER!
~ "I'm a man on a mission; stay out of my way."
It would make me a bit uncomfortable. Imagine a creepy guy fantasizing about you.
🤔 good point.
No it's very wrong. But white guys can fantasize about yummy chocolate girls. But it works better if she's built like a brick shit house. (I don't make the rules)
That reminds me of a song!
@chocolatecheesecake
@Philyouup
A brick "shit" house?
Wow. Thanks. A lot.
You've never heard that expression? lol It's a good thing. Trust me!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrBx6mAWYPU
I thought were referring to the color of our ( black women's) skin🤨
Yeah, I managed to piece that together. Only three people on this site that can PM me. One is a beautiful black girl. She's amazing in every way. I don't know what more I can tell you. Date whoever you want.
I'm sure the black chick is mixed😂
Well good for those 3.
She's not mixed, and she's one of cutest, and brightest people on this site. Her voice, and accent could bring a man out of a coma! lol OMG Amazing. She should work in the hospital. They wouldn't these those shocker things.
Truth
@ChocolateCheesecake
I never experienced humidity before, until I went to Florida with my big girlfriend. When we walked outside of the airport terminal, my knees buckled. It hit you like a ton of bricks. That's the best way I can describe her voice.
If the Hulk attacked her, she wouldn't need a gun. lol
All she would have to do is smile and say something. The Hulk would be paralyzed.
It wouldn’t make me uncomfortable, all people have fantasies and they really are none of my business. If a girl wanted to date me just, or mostly, because I was white I’d feel pretty objectified though.
Fantasize all you want, act on it if you desire. There is nothing wrong with this. And even though interracial sex turns me off in porn i don't mind if a black girl where to sexually fantasize about me. I'd feel flattered.
First of all, why does it matter if it's a black woman?
Second, it's a fantasy. You're allowed to fantasize about whatever you want. I'm completely fine with it. I love black women.
i have had black girlfriends and i enjoyed the thought of them masturbating over me just as much as any other woman doing it
It's sort of like uncomfortable but different. More like delighted. I guess its the opposite of uncomfortable actually.
You shouldn't lust for them, if that's what you're asking. But yes, you can date and marry a white man if that's to be.
I'd like to add that you shouldn't lust for ANYONE - regardless of skin color or anything else.
It's not lust; it's more so like dating, talking with them in acoffee shop.
Things like that. Guess I should of clarified that in the question.😞
Oh, okay. Sharing a love/romantic interest is fine. yes - regardless of skin color.
I fantasize about lots of women, not my own race, don't see why you can't either.
I just don't get why there's so much racist bullshit from this crowd. I thought we were past this. [shrug]
It's just not about the color of your skin honey.
That's nothing but a compliment. Why would we care?
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