Why do some girls avoid certain questions, is it mind games?

[g_stuart]

So, I wanted to know from you girls... why some girls act in certain ways. I met this girl & she is hot, like the attention whore" but she's seems to be a nice girl, a party girl but a nice girl ... just too self-conscious. I know her from about two weeks now... & the other day I ask her if she had a boyfriend or if she was seeing someone but she avoid the question completely ... & by her facebook I know she's single but I ask her anyway to see the respond and when I talk to her on fb she cool and eager to talk but I don't know if I messed up by asking her that to soon, it sucks cause she take class with me and now I'm afraid that she's gonna avoid me or ignore me... I mean it was just a simple question. What you think should be my next move or should I forget about this girl?

[Anonymous]

First of all I don't think it would be a great idea to go around calling girls "attention whores" we don't really like that too much. It sounds like she's just very friendly with a lot of people. I have freinds like this and when they start texting a guy and they ask her if she has a boyfriend she will avoid the question. Its kind of like a game for her. It might be the same with her or it might not. You said she sounds nice, maybe she's just a little shy. Ask her something like "so why is a pretty girl like you still single" she might answer to that. I don't think you messed up, like you said its a simple question to answer. during class talk to her more face to face and not over facebook or texting. She might relax a little and open up to you more. Goodluck! :)

[magibai]

That would help if you can meet her, but what if you only met her upon chance

[Thebigdb]

Not the problem is most younger girls/women in this day and age DO act that way! Maybe they don't want to give off the wrong vibe, but they choose the wrong option and present themselves in a negative light! Most women today are very insecure, and they like the attention to make up for those insecurities! Problem is it's a glaring issue that everybody can see, where you can clearly tell that the emperor has no clothes, but trying to pretend that it's not there it's a huge turn off for a lot of men when it's clearly visible to see.

[allison3219017]

mayb she got outta of a messy break up D:..cuz I was like that after a bad break up that I didn't even wana tlk about dating anyone it made me sick..or mayb she likes you and is scared your gona ask her out and she doesn't kno if she's ready?..just dnt give up on her be patient if you really like her..let her get comforable with you and I'm sure she'll warm up and come around..give it time is my best advice (: and if she really likes you doubt she'll avoid you lol

[Thebigdb]

And of course this damn side of the crash on me!

Why not right?

Let's try this again..

I'm 48, so my approach may be different than somebody who's younger than me, but one thing that I learned over the years is to really keep a woman's interest the thing you have to do as a man is go against your nature. We live in a day and time where I think most people think about themselves first then the other person. Which is why I think a lot of people have difficulty getting with each other and relating as people.

By nature you probably want to be affectionate, nurturing, protective, which by nature is not a bad thing to be. Most women would say that something attractive and they would like to find in a man, but if you do it too soon that's probably one of the quickest things that will chase a woman off.

Don't know if you've ever been in this situation, but I always found it funny that if you ever went to a restaurant or a bar, someplace it's a semi pickup joint, the guy that tries to get serious with a girl too fast where she hasn't made it known that she's willing to commit, she will push the guy that's trying to be romantic away from her, and you can literally hear her vagina start to crackle and dry up like Sahara desert. Where is the other guy that's at the bar who semi comes off like a dick, but has that indifferent funny guy vibe going on will have usually 5 to 10 girls trying to crawl over each other to get to him.

Unfortunately live in a day and age where people are very self-centered. Most women today I think are more interested in you for what the things you have then who you are as a person. This thing about being in bad situations or having your feelings hurt from another person and afraid to make a move to me is absolute BS. To me that's just insecurity. Not shyness, but being uneffective in terms of dealing with other people. All the women I've known in my life who showed those traits to me could never keep a relationship. So coming from a man who's dealt with many women like that, something to take a note of.

The one thing that you need to do is stick to your guns and to your ideals. Once you give up your leadership role and are willing to compromise, most women will lose respect for you. Or at least attraction. Sounds counterintuitive but one of the things that women find incredibly attractive in the men, is if he's willing to walk away from her. So you need to know how to stand your ground and be confident with your decision if it doesn't work out.

I suggest getting your hustle on and really get your grind going in terms of your professional and personal life before even even really worrying about girls. The more successful and more established you are, the more women are interested in you. Dating is backwards for men and women. Women tend to be more than that when they're young, but men are more in demand when they're older and more established.

I don't know who said this initially, but there was a guy I heard one time that said that when it comes to being with women, you need to be stingy with your M. E. A. T. it's an acronym for money, energy, attention, time. And he's right. The more you withhold that, more women want you. And more established you'll become.

Personally I'm an anti-feminist. Saying that doesn't mean I'm anti woman, it just means I don't agree with feminism. Apart from divorcing you and being able to give you a sexual assault, feminism I don't think has empowered women in any way shape or form. If anything I think it's left them in a disadvantage. I think it's made most women horny, lonely, and scared as hell. Hasn't given them strength. If anything it just gives men the opportunity to not commit or just the ability to walk away instead of working with each other. I think that feminism, social media, and online dating have just wrecked relationships in terms of people being able to relate with each other. So I don't think it's done very well for women in that sense.

I wouldn't focus on one girl, I casually be talking to several, and be focused more on your life than her. When she's an option and not a priority, more women are more receptive to you when they're put in that role.

Hopefully this device helps you because it's done me well. This is what I would suggest and say. Keep talking to her if you like but there's certain wisdom and not putting all your eggs in the same basket and always keeping your options open. That's what I would do if I were in your shoes.

[kaseykahneno1]

By you saying that she is self conscious, she may be shy or scared to do stuff in person. I'm like that. Sometimes I'm OK texting something but I'm afraid to say it in person. Its a shy thing.

[05Jueey]

She want's to keep you interested, maybe.

[g_stuart]

that could be it. But now I feel like I messed up by asking that and that kind of turn me off because If I start hitting on her she might start ignoring me & now I haven't talk to her by that reason. But if she's doing it.. so I be more interested in her , she's just confusing me.

[05Jueey]

Well it's up to you to take a change and talk to her, or you can wait and see if she contacts you. It's probably not a big deal to her. Maybe she get's around?

[05Jueey]

Chance **

[Thebigdb]

Yeah man.. I might be old school but I believe that when it comes to making a pass, it's a man's job to let a woman know what his intent is, and if she's actually interested it's her job to make a move on it. Once you make it clear what you're intent is, your job is done in terms of flirting. I get the point of being scared or a little nervous about stuff but if a woman has difficulty talking to me about the basic stuff, isn't able to address her feelings with me, it ain't worth it. It has to be a two-way street in relationship, and if only one of you is doing the work. What's the point? Could be because the fact I'm an old goat and I don't have patience for indecisiveness, but it shouldn't be that difficult. Like I said in another post, most girls who have hangout issues about past relationships and are continuously fearful of certain things, can never keep a guy in long term. When they jump from relationship to relationship. As a guy why do we need that? She could be young and naive and not very experienced, which is fine, but the most important things to be able to address what you feel, and if you can't do that, what can you do? But that's just me!