Do girls play mind games with the guys they like?

[Yeahhbro]

I am in a situation where I have no idea if she has a boyfriend or if she is making me jealous. I am confused because I find it stupid that she wouldn't just tell me that she had a boyfriend, instead of shoving some guy on my face and walking away with him, leaving me alone.

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It's like I am in that situation where I don't know if she is making me jealous, or if she has a boyfriend but wants me to figure it out somehow?. Its weird because I have seen signs of attraction from her. But she has blew me off completely already.

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with the guy that I just mentioned.

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I tried to talk to her again yesterday. This time she was more friendly, even though she was acting very serious, she would ocationally look at me not all the time and this time she would talk to me.

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The same guy cama again, he tried to get her away from me. She told me to wait for her this time.

[ArtistBboy]

That's a hell of a pickle to go through.. Which most good guys deal with constantly.. I can't explain WHY women do that, but what I can tell you is this:

If you try to pursue her - You look like your into her for "looks" or any other reason which seems insincere.. Thus the other guy (who doesn't do that) is going to win her over more-so than you will.

If you try to ignore her - the innate feeling is that she's going to become disinterested; but in truth, sometimes these girls who love attention will chase you when you ignore them. Don't depend on it though.

With what I told you above combined with the way I would handle that situation.. Me myself and I, would be focusing more on my own life (which kept me sane).. Things like friends, school, work, etc.. And I'd be "less available" to the heart wrenching (and "second guessing") interactions of this lady.. I wouldn't completely ignore her or walk away.. I would give her the benefit of the doubt by being conveniently "unavailable" most of the time.. If you get what I'm saying. In turn, she has that chance of chasing you.. But in the odd chance she doesn't, then you haven't wasted your time "chasing after a girl who wants games over relationships" and you've actually reinforced what a "good man" would do -> Focus on his life more-so than women.

Don't be cold/rude/etc.. Just be convieniently unavailable.. most guys take this to the extreme of answering a phone call to say blunt short comments: "What did you need?" etc.. But women mis-interpret those things all the time, thinking the guy is pissed at her or something else.. Instead, if you "don't have the extra time" to talk to her right then - THEN it becomes "CONVENIENT" to ignore her.. So you can focus on areas of your life that ARE showing results.

Look man, anyone that gives you the advice of: "Chase after her" OR "Dump her".. These people have their own biases towards relationships. You have to choose what YOU want to do; as a man. All we can do is give you advice.. Like I said above, if you chase her you're probably going to lose her. If you turn away, you've already lost her. The "best route" is obviously somewhere in between - but it's not as easily spotted until you've experienced it through trial and error. P.s. It's really hard to explain because EVERYONE is different.

SO... In turn I've CAPITALIZED a lot of key points that gave you generalized information. If you want specifics, ask your questions and I'll try to respond with what "i think" will help.

~ ArtistBBoy

[ArtistBboy]

Re: Update - Sounds like she's attracted to the "mindgame" of how you "could like her, but there's no gaurantee".. Try noticing something about her (e.g. a compliment: "There's something different about your ___.. *she responds*.. No... it's something else... *curious look).. Then talk to her a bit about it and keep being mysterious.. Eventually you'll win her over HARDCORE and easily without wasting your efforts in her. (This comes from living your life instead of pursuing her immediately)

[ThickRick]

I've flirted with a few girls who have had boyfriends, and the nice ones were courteous enough to tell me they were in a relationship. It took them maybe a day or two. Even then, we are still great friends and respect each others' personal lives. Those are the nice ones, the kind worth keeping in your life.

There was this one bitch who was definitely hot and interesting to talk to, she did some things that lead me to believe she was free game. But no, she wasn't. It turns out she did have a BF, and they get off on talking sh*t about the pathetic guys that get lead on. She was just a narcissistic attention whore, one who knew how to play guys like a fiddle and laugh about it. That type of girl is just not worth your time. They have esteem issues and cannot function without messing with a guy's mind, because maybe they were neglected by daddy.

[Yeahhbro]

true true

[hipnerd2017]

this beech is pissing me off so much right now... and i don't even care what her reason is...

i just really hope s he dies so i never have to deal with her again. i don;t care if she get hit by a car, if she get raped, whatever... i would not have sympathy for whatever bad happens t o her at this point... i feel it would o nly be poetic justice...

[handsomelad70]

Playing mind games with guys is an inherent part of femaleness.

[prettygirlswag]

All people play mind game. The reason why is the true is sometimes hard for others to understand. Its like this she likes you but she don't want you to get the wrong idea about having a boyfriend. If she tells you she has one then you will stop talking the way that you do and she probably enjoy that and don't want to miss out. But then again if she doesn't have a boyfriend then she probably feels like she will come on as desperate.

[BabyB300]

It dependents on the girl she could like you or she could be the type of girl that like guys to play attention to her. She may know you like her and the fact you like her and can not have her she may like that. So do not pay her any attention ,she will either be up front with you about how she feels or she will just stop paying you attention and then you will know that she is just not that in to you.

[flowergirl93]

yes, some girls are huge attention whores and it really boosts their ego to know that they have control over someone's feelings or just to make them confused.

on a rare occasion, she is trying to make you see what you're missing and wants you to sweep her off her feet. in her mind there's nothing else she can do.

[martyfellow]

Good answer. Sorry I lost my temper and blocked you!

[martyfellow]

Great answer ! Sorry I got mad and blocked u!

[Phoenix52]

She's not worth it. She's f*cking with you, and it's not worth your time or your trouble.

You've heard stories of guys physically abusing girls? Right?

Well this chick is emotionally abusing you. She's a f*cking b*tch.

Any girl who plays games with me loses out. I don't like immature girls who try making me chase them. I want love to be effortless and easy.

There was a story I read about once, and this kind of sh*t happens.

A guy brought his hot girlfriend to the bar once. The girl starts flirting with a radnom guy to make her boyfriend jealous. Low and behold, the boyfriend got himself and some of his lacrosse buddies to gang up on the guy who talked to the hot girlfriend. They got into a fight and the guy went to the hospital.

So there you have it - the girlfriend was a stupid b*tch that had an over-jealous boyfriend who played to her tune.

Don't be the same way. Ignore her. She's a drama queen. Looks can be used as a source of power to manipulate people.

[Phoenix52]

ok well after your latest updates, I guess she DOES like you. The guy that's trying to get her away from you = she can stick up for herself and tell him to go away. This guy could be a problem, trying to control her and tell her what to do. Don't EVER be that guy - girls don't want to be forced. If you want her, then start it up by exchanging numbers and meeting up soon.

[markml]

A. Yes, girls play mind games. It's a well-documented fact.

B. The rest of the question is almost irrelevant, because a woman's feelings are never set in stone (particularly the kind that play these games). He relationship status may be though.

From personal experience, one conjecture I can give you is that she may have just gotten into a relationship with this other guy, or she was already in a relationship but it only recently got serious.

That's really the only best-case scenario I can give you where she'd be unintentionally playing these mind games with you. Otherwise, the game is very intensional, and really isn't worth your time playing along. The whole premise of these mind games is it's all about POWER...has nothing to do with who likes who.

[martyfellow]

Yes, for many women, power is the only issue! Of course, the guys are often this way as well.

[xperience]

why bother. don't act it. play the game. no the get played game. don't talk to her. ignore her.

she sounds like she loves attention and thrives on it. she'll come around looking for u.

after that say wth you want. if she says not u. than tell her go fk off. if she wants u. bang her and ditch her

[Billlewis]

Of course they do! I mean, you didn't expect them to just tell you on the first day exactly what they want, and what they're looking for in return, did you? Women and men are both playing the exact same game -- 'I want as much out of you as I can get, and I'm going to give you as little as possible in return'. That's one reason why I decided a long time ago that I only wanted to focus on her interests exclusively, and I've never regretted it.

[martyfellow]

Yes, undoubtedly it's the make-guys-jealous game. I'd retaliate by saying she sleeps with Tiger Woods. Hey there's a one in 3 chance that's true, anyway.

[martyfellow]

In her case, maybe 1 of 2. Now sh'es playing you off against the other guy. Don't get caught in that game!

[adventurous-1]

mind games are a form of control and if a woman is doing that then she wants to use you. She will not truly respect you as you are subject for her to rule over and be used at her pleasure. Refuse to play, tell her flat out to quit playing games or move on. You will not stand for such BS and have no intention of submitting to her crap.

[Kadiboma]

Sounds pretty immature! I've never been into those games but a lot of girls are told we should play them to keep you interested. Can't see the point myself, if you like someone you like them, and that should work both ways round.

[likewoahhh]

yes we do .. when I like guys, I try to make them jealous

to see if they actually care, or not.

it makes her feel good if you get jealous, because then

she knows that you really like her.

i know it might seem wrong, but she's just testing you..

[ACoate3]

@ likewoahhh

That's very selfish. Why would you put somebody through that?

[Jager66]

lol Do girls play mind games with the guys they like?

im pretty sure this is the fairer sex's favorite past time.

[Phoma21]

Who knows, some girls are just kinda mean like that or maybe she looked up something and found that maybe she should try to make you jealous if you like her? She may just want the attention.

[hugo29]

Its simple, you want to know if she likes you and cares for you! Next time she is around bring a random but a girl who is hotter then her to give you a hug randomly and make sure she watches and sees how she reacts. Its mean but if she gets jealous you got her lol! All girls get jealous of other hotter girls, its natural simple test of faith.

100% she will ask who she was casually, randomly say oh her..and do the same thing she does, it will drive her insane...lol

[CaramelShaft]

This is going to sound harsh, but it’s real. Know what you want dude! She’s waiting for you to tell her what you want. So with that being said, know what you want, sprout some balls, and make the move. If she is not interested, dear lord, move onto the next. But sounds like you have a super long way to go and actually need counseling. It will help.

[Gregs]

read the stories in my profile "lets just be friends" and "how to know you are in friend zone" to see if you are stuck there

[martyfellow]

More like in the dupe zone, imao.

[sinful1620]

She doesn't like you. She's just using your for attention. Kick the bitch to the curb

[Anonymous]

We do play mind games, because we normally want the guy to chase us...but that sound too extreme...even mean

[alex-the-iceman]

One thing I've learned over the years is that it's impossible to rationally figure out what a girl is doing and why she is doing it. I have no idea what the motivation for their actions are, it just doesn't make sense.

[Anonymous]

ask some mutual friends what's going on

check out her fb page

[cutieblondie13]

Honestly we do. It's not like we try to but girls are just irrational we can never make up are mind on what were feeling and how we should act

[underdog10]

So how do you counter act that? Hahaha I think that's an answer on every guy's mind.

[toulouse]

lies.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is just using you for attention and validation. She likely has a roster she is working. Do not tolerate this.

[jkjk123]

Yeah, especially if theyre young and inexperienced in the romance dept