So I just moved to a new town and got a gym membership at the local place, and it's crawling with 10/10s. Does anyone have advice for how to flirt with them?how do you hit on girls at the gym?
How do you hit on girls at the gym? With caution. Lol. Don't make the same mistake I did.
When I was 22 (I am now 29), there was this hot receptionist at my university gym. She was the perfect size, in shape and I was just in awe with her beauty. I talked to her a few times when she was checking me into the gym, but nothing major.
I remember the semester was coming to a close and when I saw her at the gym, I decided to make my move. It was now or never. So, after my workout, I went up to her at the desk and said... "Hey there... this may sound strange, but I think you're really pretty."
The girl just looked at me for a moment in silence with a blank expression on her face. She then said, "Ok... thanks." It was hella awkward, so after she thanked me, I left. LOL. Again... I was 22 at the time and didn't have a lot of experience with women.
NOW... let's go to the present. To me, currently, the best way to meet a girl at the gym or pick her up is during classes. Get involved in yoga or a class with a lot of women. If you chat women up during gym classes, it will be less creepy. However, if you chat women up during their workout or when they are in the sauna, they will look at you as a creep.
I did a couple yoga classes after college. I took yoga not to meet women, but as a way to get mental clarity. My yoga teacher, always before class, had us introduce ourselves. Then, after class, she would have all of us go around and say namaste to each other. So, there was some social interaction involved in the class. And sometimes... when we waited for the teacher to come to class, we would all stand outside the door and talk. So... taking classes is the perfect excuse to talk and be social.
make yourself very avaialble in how you project yourself. project your interest without imposing.
Some lamer approaches: as for advice, make an appropriate comment. I commonented on a girls quads once... that seemed to work. Some may not like that. It has to be genuine, confident. Common on her clothes or something noticeable. If it is dorky, imposing, low energy... it will bomb bad and she is the worse. If it is done right, she may feel good about herself and it's positive.
Females pick up on signals, like communication without words. Hard part is not imposing or freaking them out... which is easy to do and wrong since so often, they just want to workout, feel yucky, may not want to be approached. Some do. Nobody said was easy being a male!
If you can get to the point of inviting one or some group even to coffee, you are in business! If you can pull that off at 19, you got game:)
But honestly, most girls do not want to get hit on at the gym. I'm not saying I absolutely hate it, but when I go I want to be alone and focus on my training. I activate my body but shut down my head completely. Most of the times gym helps me to "recover" from daily socializing and just get lost in my own universe. It's a remedy for stress, but it can add to a stress when people in there try to socialize with you. It'd be the best if I had the whole gym for myself only. But I believe it's possible to find love anywhere, so I'm not excluding the gym either. It only because a problem when I'm not interested in the guy hitting on me, it sucks if they keep trying. I'm very obvious when it comes to this, I just shrug him off, refuse help or talk and pretty much pretend as if he's invisible, hoping he'll get the hint. If he doesn't continue then we're good. When I am interested then I'd reciprocate. Basically you just need to know when to back off. Try subtly once, and if you don't sense a positive response just back off forever.
Im sooo hypocritical on this, but the best way is to invite her to a group event or something along those lines. Dont immediately give the impression that you were just thinking about having sex with her. Thats what tinders for.
If you act creepy or stare from across the gym for half an hour, then ask for a one on one date, its not going to have the best results.
Again im the worst at taking my iwn advice because its easy to say, harder to actually do unless you're a super outgoing confident person.
@Robertcw i agree on both points, but in real life its still creepy if you hit on a girl the way you wouod on tinder. Dont just beeline toward a girl you think is pretty and ask "will you go out with me?" I mean there's being forward and confident, and then there's being socially awkward.
Social awkwardness is relative. Some social groups have opposite expectations and norms within group.
I try to understand social convention but am generally bad at it. No doubt this affects my life and the lives of people around me, but it's just not objective.
Even different cities have different social expectations and cultures. Seatle is different from LA, for example.
Don’t. I go to the gym five times a week and I DO NOT want to be hit on. I have been hit on but I keep my headphones on and look straight past them when guys try. Any girl you hit on is just going to hate you. That’s why my local gym made a “woman’s only” section.
If you really have to, I wouldn’t hit on them but maybe just ask a simple question. Like what machine they recommend for arms or legs, etc. and if they tell you just say thanks and maybe compliment their shoes. Do NOT compliment their ass or legs please. They’re gonna see right through that and never speak to you again. Complimenting something they bought is way better than their body. And later on if you see them at the gym, they might be more inclined to talk to you again. Then you can work your way up to it. But don’t do it as a start off point. You’ll probably get kicked out of the gym for harassment.
Please don't do this. Some of us take gym seriously and it's pretty annoying when a guy walks up to you to chat you up especially when you see me with headphones on. I get into a rhythm that just gets broken every time a guy comes up to me. This is why more and more gyms are getting a women only section to them
You have to take it gradually, and you need patience (seriously.) Last thing you want is to be known as the creepy new guy at the gym lol then you will have to find a new gym.
Pick one girl. Start showing up at the same times as she does as if its a coincidence (you both must have busy lives right? She won't question it). Then start smiling at her when you catch her eyes. Purpose of this is to assure her your friendly, you are working out (and not perving on her *wink wink*) and minding your own business. Then once you get the feeling she's okay with you, or even better she says hi to you, say hi back a couple of times and thats when you can converse in a friendly way. Then once you think she likes you, you guys get along etc. Add her on facebook or instagram and let the magic of flirting and fun begin 😉
Patience is crucial. Trust me. Those guys who throw themselves at gym girls will get humiliated, crushed and... well thrown out of the gym lol.
Lol the way people are going on is as if all guys lurk in gyms like sexual predators... Waiting to pounce on the next sculpted booty they come across 😂.
I'm amazed by the amount of girls (and guys) saying they don't wanna get hit on in the gym, I just wonder how many people on this thread have ever stepped into a gym, least not a commercial one.
I only lift these days as a supplement to boxing, but I have spent years from a young age in bodybuilding/strongman type gyms and have always been glanced at by attention seeking women.
Women are the worst, you'll stand in front of guys like me and accentuate every part of your body whilst staring at me through the mirrors. So don't go telling me you don't wanna get hit on 😂👌
Easy... Make eye contact a few times on different days. Not a creepy look! Just like pretending you were looking around and your eyes happened to met. If possible one day if she is in a machine you want to use ask if you can take turns or how many she as left. Don't enage in casual conversation yet! You are both there to train! This is just for her to be aware that you exist! She will recongnize you as the guy in the gym if she sees you on the street now. If you ever meet in the lobby after that say "good evening" and smile. See her reaction. If you now catch her looking at you, if she also says "good evening" and smiles if for any reason you think you may have a shot one day OUTSIDE of the gym ask her out. After a workout is the best moment.
Begin to talk with someone that appears to be approachable when she isn't working out.
An other thing is to ask for help/advice on something.
Be little laid back with the compliments, especially on shallow thing's like looks. just don't throw them around or at all un less she deserves one for real on something real that isn't shallow.
Female's are more prone to be open and on after they are done exercising due to hormones.
You also have a funny thing. If you totally ignore everyone, totally focus on yourself and what you are doing they usually get crazy and tries to get your attention, to make you show you find them attractive. Majority of female's are stupid on this point have I noticed, especially those you describe since they miss internal confidence and selfasteam, they are insecure, some of them overcompensate by overd the opposite what they are.
Gotta agree, don't go into the gym with the aim of hitting on girls. Go to work on yourself. You can also go with the goal of making friends and workout partners, but respect people's space. If they've got headphones in and are obviously not engaging anyone else leave them alone. If there actively looking around, making eye contact, smiling THEN you can say hi and strike up a friendly conversation. Just don't expect it to go anywhere.
At the gym working out should be your primary focus so don't go out of your way to flirt or be to direct. However if you get the opportunity, like your in between sets and she's in conversation distance or standing around the water fountain, just be friendly, warm, and outgoing and chat them up. As time progresses and you get more familiar with one another, say you start getting on first name basis and she starts coming up to talk to you, or she give you signs of interest then ask her out. Take your time.
That's the only thing you can do. If you're hot, anything you say or do is considered cute. If you're not hot, anything you say or do is considered creepy.
I’m laughing at the responses of these Westernized girls. They might as well go to the gym wearing a nun outfit.
My opinion, The ones that want to get approached will want to get approached. When I did my time as a martial arts instructor for a rec center, I did a lot of observing with the people and students I worked with.
Some girls like to have a convo with a regular or stranger, and some don’t. Just look and feel her vibe, if she wants you to back off, then back off.
Become a regular. Talk to people in general. Sort out the girls you like best. Flirt lightly over a period of time, before inviting a girl out to anything. You want to maintain a good reputation And it's better that other people like you should things go sour
lol you don't at first, you work out there for a while, get some results, then start chatting, they'll notice your progress and you'll have a better chance hitting it off
@Bananaman177 gym is a place where people go to EXERCISE and not HIT ON people. If you want to hit on someone go to some club or pub or some other place where you find girls. Not. The. Fucking. Gym. People. Have. Things. To. Do.
@amartna maybe control your dick first? Oh wait, who am I talking to, men who think with their dicks. Or else no one with a sane mind would ever hit on a girl at the gym. Fucking sick people.
The answer is that you don't. The majority of women don't like being approached at the gym. You could eventually find a few that are open to it. Just be prepared to annoy about 95% of the ones you do flirt with. It also depends how you look and how you flirt.
Build over time. Start slow with a shared look. Figure out who is a regular. Make some small talk to develop a connection. Eventually after the workout see if they want to go get a drink. The key is to do this over time and not interrupt their zone.
Hey there, They Call Me The Siverfox, and I dont know if you are aware of this , But, umm, uh- I'm kind of a big deal around here if you didn't know, touch her lip with your index finger and whisper. Just dont, dont. turn and walk away from the poor thing
Don't bother them while they're exercising. Nobody likes being distracted. Best chance would be when they're leaving the gym. Dont stand outside the locker room waiting like a creep though lol. But after a gym session the likelihood of her being in a good mood is pretty high.
Dude, you don't. Best thing you can do is complement and talk about workout and nutrition with her trading information and advice. If she is on the bench with no spotter then ask her if she would like one. If she isn't interested, don't be offended, then go away, and don't make it a habbit, like some of the commenters said, they are there to workout, not flirt or be harassed.
Use a lightweight rubber coated dumbbell and a light glancing blow should do the trick... then just drag her out by the hair... it worked really well for early caveman. I am just joking by the way.. please don't try this in reality
The gym is for making gains and getting swole, not to hit on girls. No one likes a distraction especially when they're in the middle of sick pump. If you want to hit up girls do it after you finish working out, not in the middle of a rep/set
I've never hit on girls at the gym. That seems like their time to work out and be alone. If they show showed some interest, then of course, it would be OK.
I go to the gym to solely workout.. Sure I see some nice lookin females, and some even eye me.. But, I mean I would think ain't lookin for no dude to interrupt they workout just to talk to them.. Lol..
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I don't think gym is an ideal place to hit on people. Maybe you can try to talk to them in a more relaxed setting, for example if you see the same girl from the gym at the grocery store or something?
only approach when they look at you. if they blatantly look at you it meant they like you. Often women unconsciously look you in the face because they like you. Sometimes they do it on purpose to signal to you they like you. If they don't then they are not interested.
Simple make a approach of small talk for a couple of days then stop don't even look at her have a look on your face as if something is bothering you her mind will start turning and she'll start wondering if she did something wrong or if your okay woman work like that and curious it's a attention thing woman can't stand it she'll approach you
Wait until she’s not in the middle of her workout. If she goes to the water fountain or is resting between sets would be perfect.
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Start running on the treadmill slip dramatically whilst screaming and holding your knee. You’re bound to attract some female attention. Jk, just make lots of eye contact and show you’re interested.
Oh no dont do that, thats the worst thing ever when you catch someone looking at you multiple times and its just like "take a picture itll last longer"
Start with 'hi', or 'hello'. Most are there to work out. And most think 'hitting' on them is 'creepy'. Pretty much everything is creepy to girls your age.
Scream and grunt like a maniac when deadlifting heavy ass weights... The chicks will be swarming man.. swarming. If they don't who gives a shit you are a powerlifter and don't give no shit about no puny females.
The best way to start is to have them spot you while lifting. That way you can both show off to them and engage in conversation in between reps. From there, maybe you can hit it off.
Ehhh... unfortunately, generally speaking the answer is "don't." I mean, girls don't usually want to be hit on at the gym, sadly. So they'll rebuff you no matter what, usually.
I don’t hit on girls, ever. I only hit on em when they ask for help but I don’t waste my time hitting on girls. There’s plenty of men and stupid PUAs doing that shit. I’m more worried about my form than picking a girl up at the gym
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There is a time and a place for everything. The gym isn’t it.
@morimeme1 I don't go out of my way to flirt with women in the gym, as I'm busy working on myself. But the hypocrisy from girls here is insane 😂. I've had countless chick's ask me for help, or stare at me through the mirrors while doing some kettle bells or best yet... The dreaded squats! 👍
@morimeme1 Yup. Whilst I agree gyms are for hard work, I just think it's pointless denying sexual biology. Chicks will always admire my pulsing muscles the same way I can't keep my eyes off a pretty face with a sculpted body 😉
I dont, would love to, but let people work out man. I do bother everyone about tips and exercises though. Sometkme girls do have a worried look because they think I'm going to hit on them.
You dont. I've spent lots of time at the gym. Most of these girls are just trying to workout. Unless they come to you, which has happened to me countless times.
@Syrian_survivor uhh. Yeah dude. Literally every gym I've been in I've attracted all types of females. Once a dude wanted to fight me cause his girl was stalking me at the gym.
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