How should I talk to girls in public?

[Anonymous]

so im so use to talking to girls on dating apps but if i saw a hot girl in public how would i get her number or social media to keep talking?

[Gottabsavagee]

Well you can mention something that has to do with what she’s doing or something about her. Hey it’s a really nice weather today then if she’s not shy and is interested she will continue the conversation. Then you can switch to about her, so are you going to vacations oh cool who did you go with? Oh nice. I am going there next week. Have you been there? No. Oh where have you been? Nice do you have any brothers or sisters. Oh cool me too. Where are you from.. oh there I've been here before its so beautiful. Do you live with your guy.. (see therefore you'll figure out indirectly if she has a guy and you won't seem like you want something). She says no. Oh that beautiful girl should have a guy. Then she will smile. Then by the end of the talk before you go. you can say hey I really had a good time talking to you. Could I add you somewhere so we can catch up again sometime.

[sageevalentinee]

I won't lie to you, you'd have to do a pretty good job of asking me out for it to work in public. We girls have to be aware of suspicious behaviour, and it will often make a girl extra picky in public.

One thing I would recommend is that once you get talking, don't just ask for her number. Make sure you specifically ask her on a date, and then get her number. Say something like, 'So I can't stick around, I have a busy day. Let's get dinner/coffee whenever is a good time for you.' And then she'll likely offer up her number to stay in contact, if not you can then ask for it. So often a guy just marches up to me on the street and says 'CanIhaveyournumber.' and I'm thinking why? for what purpose? Why would I do that? I don't even know the person.

[OhmIsTyping]

1. When you approach her. Be confident in your voice and your body language. Introduce yourself
2. Observe how she reacts to your introductipn, her facial expressions, her body language
3. Taking cues from her body language and facial expression. Start a conversation, literally about any topic just keep it humourus and civil.
4. Even if you are shy keep talking. Conversing with enough girls in due time will help you get rid of your nervousness.
5. Talk to her, about her, most people love to talk about themselves. Use it to your advantage and then improv from their

Cheers

[Asker]

but what do i say in the first place like before step 1

[OhmIsTyping]

It's all about reading her properly. Observe her. You will automatically realise that from what she is doing to what her body language is. You can start a conversation about anything. Just keep it Humourous and don't say something offensive in general

[Optymistyk]

If a girl is to give a stranger on the street a chance you have to make her feel attracted right off the bat. You have to be sexual and confident, but not tryhard.

My standard approach is touch her on the arm, look her in the eyes with desire, smile a bit and say hi. Just hi. And let it hang there. If she is interested she will engage you back, at which point you can introduce yourself

[rionrion]

I mean... dont be creepy about it. Remember woman are human beings too just like your friends. Just talk to them. Just be like hey excuse me but I think you are very attractive and I was wondering if I could get your snap or insta or whatever your poison is. The problem with this. Is that its a random person. Most people will find that creepy. And its not but thats society for you

[Asker]

so what do u suggest or what do u do

[rionrion]

I also just realized u said u usually talk to girls on dating apps... start with. Stop relying on that. Please for the love of god those apps are cool and all but ussually lead nowhere and that depends on your age. While I'm responding to u rn I can't see what the age range is but eitger way... the little advicd I can give u and this goes for how u should be with everyone. Just be genuine be yourself. As long as you aren't some fake asshat who tries to be something they are noy. You will find somebody dont rush into anything and always always remember relationships come and go. If someone breaks up with u. Let them go (there are special cases to this but rare) because if they dont wanna be in your life. Why try to force them to be. Its just bad energy. I know none of this awnseres your question really. But there isn't really an awnser to it. It all depends on the person you are talking to and since you are talking about a total stranger. How they will react to you aski g for their social. media or number will be mixed.

[Miss_Laura]

just think of the worst case scenario... she calls u ugly once, u try to make it a joke and then ask for her number, she calls u a wanker and u leave. i would say, talk to anyone in public you want to talk to though, dont make this just a girls thing, because despite knowing u probably have good intentions, still seems a little creepy.

[Miss_Laura]

to clarify, the point is dont over think it, just talk to her, women might be different from men but we aren't rocket science.

[nerms123]

just be like hey excuse me, i was wondering do you have instagram, would you mind if i added you? if she's not interested, she can just be like i don't have insta sorry. and if she likes you she could add you.

[Asker]

would that actually work

[nerms123]

I don’t know lol

[imnii]

I can attest to this, it really does work. I work on a college campus, and I've asked many girls for their snaps and actually met my ex that way

[Asker]

met ur ex that way 😂

[nerms123]

@imnii wow cool haha

[imnii]

@Asker we separated for a different reason, and took me ar least 3 months after to start asking again

[imnii]

🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ sorry, tmi

[Flotri66]

I look for something they have that's unique about them. Example I've used: sees shoes that have gold trim to them. I walk up to her and ask "excuse me, those shoes are really nice. Where'd you get them? I've been looking for something similar to those for my sister." Depending what her body language tells me, I either make my move or move on with my day.

It also helps being attractive.

[KacchanExplosion]

Compliment her then make her laugh
Have me you communication
If you ask a question make it an open ended question
Don't be needy or boring
If you ask her out ask her out to something specifically. (Instead of saying hey do you wanna go out sometime say hey do you wanna go to a bar Saturday around 9? Then if she says yes to whatever you suggest then ask for her number)
Or be yourself

[morena9]

Damn I have the same problem lol I get so nervous when a hot guy shows interest in me that I look away

[Asker]

well u better hope i dont look ur way or ur head will be in the ground 😂

[Gavyn]

Casually. Just let things develop the way they do instead of trying to force it. Not only are the results usually better, but you'll make every single interaction more enjoyable and genuine since you're not feeling pressured to make anything happen.

[DAYM3000]

Just be forward, not so much it comes across as aggressive. Compliment them. And most importantly... be yourself! Hope this helps a bit.

[Truthatanycost]

Hey girl... say have ya heard about the METOO movement? (while reaching for your phone)

[thelokisniper]

Be confident, receptive and go for it. The worst thing that can happen is you miss which is fine. Don't sell yourself short.

[Asker]

but what do i say

[thelokisniper]

Unfortunately there is no standard manual for speaking to women, you should try to talk to them about somthing relatable. As stupid as it seems I've had a lot of success with randomly talking about the weather as a conversation starter, especially when it's raining.

[thelokisniper]

I also want to avoid telling y loi u exactly what to say because then you might not learn for yourself how to maintain her interest. You miss every shot you don't take.

[zill420]

Start with subtly try to get eye contact then give a smile, if she smiles back and looks away then good your probably safe to approach but if she doesn't smile and looks away then that's your sign to move on

[Carlos_Dyer]

with honour and respect for without this some may not take u serious enough never play with their heads or emotions be yourself and the true u shall be seen through and through.

[Asker]

umm ok

[Sweatyotterr]

You don’t leave them alone and focus on yourself if a girl wants to talk to you she will come up to you.

[Jigor]

Not in public but always give a girl respect and always consider her point of view in every situations.

[kaluge]

Tbh just be your self women don't want a guy to be a try hard kind guy they want someone normal and genuine

[jojouzumaki]

👍🏻

[Devin5550]

Ok well first off just walk over and say hi start the conversation then as the conversation goes on ask her for her number so you guys can stay in touch but I suggest asking as you are leaving

[Liam_Hayden]

Say hello and start a convo. It isn't rocket science. Just don't appear overly eager or desperate.

[Iron_Man]

Just be yourself play it cool be upbeat and smile at the girl

[Holy_Ghost_Fire]

The same way you'd approach women everywhere else. Be nice and considerate.

[Anonymous]

Read their body signals. If they're closed off, you know not to try

[stormbreaker06]

show them your money.

MISSION ACCOMPLISHED.

[DAYM3000]

That's one way to it! Hahaha

[HereIbe]

Ask her, honestly and directly.

[d1199]

Step 1
Put your phone away

[GhettoGirl]

Oh my God, Oh my God. You are so doomed.

[Asker]

help dont be not unhelpful

[GhettoGirl]

Oh my, Way Too big a job for me. This could take years.

[Asker]

then u shouldn't of answered

[Dongtai]

Ignore her, man. There’s always that one crab trying to keep you in the barrel. You don’t need her help. You’re already on the right track b

[BigSlice]

With disrespect

[yourfavperson]

use words