Will you date a girl only once a month if you like her?

[Anonymous]

Thanks for reading my question. I am really confused and would like to seek your advice.

I meet this guy 4 months ago and dated for 4 times only. He calls in infrequently, sometimes as long as over a month. I do think he is fond of me from hints like showing interests in my daily norm, texting me while he is on business trip in other country (but once only), praising me, catching up my steps tightly in crowd...etc. Am I thinking in the wrong way? Does he really like me?

He disappeared for another month by now. I texted him to say hello and he replied that he is being up with heavey workload. Will guys be totally absorbed in works that he will forget everything? or he is just not that into me?

[Tamikaze]

He is just not that in to you. Even if you wanted to debate that, ask yourself this: Is this working for you? It wouldn't work for me. Bleh! I mean, if this is the most interest a guy can show in the beginning, how bad will it get later when things cool.

He obviously likes you on some level, but not the level that is getting you the treatment you should have. Good luck!

[Asker]

Thanks! This is the truth that I need to accept. But every time I decided to give up thinking of him, he will show up again! My quiet heart will then be distrubed again and find excuses for him like he is busy, he is just not a romantic man...etc. How can I end this repeating cycle? May be trying my best to charm him in the next date (if any) and

[Tamikaze]

I have had this experience. Nothing ever got a guy like this to get better. We are our own gatekeepers and if we open the gate to our hearts for someone who is this weakly interested, well we get what we get from them. You cannot change him or get him to be better. All you can do is get to the point you are irritated enough with this treatment that you are able to ignore them when they call again.