You are walking and a cute guy/girl is coming towards you?

[ImSoSozzled]

and you are about to pass each other. What do you do?

Avoid eye contact

Briefly make eye contact and then quickly look away

Extended eye contact

One of the above and then look back at them once you've passed

Other (explain)

Updates

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I'm in college and I pass tons of girls on the way to my classes every day and I was just curious about what goes through girls minds.

[honeyltsme]

This is a tough one. I hope you use this for good not evil. If you want to meet this person, do this:

0. When you are about to pass a nice girl by, it is usually too late to do anything. So you have to look well ahead. If you see somebody you like, who is not in an extreme hurry, try to quickly see if there is anything about her appearance that she takes a pride in. A great hair style, sun shades, tan, shoes, shoes matching the purse, any other SPECIFIC aspect of her outfit. Anything of interest she is carrying. Understand that unless she's dumber than a sack of bricks, and perhaps even then, she will definitely know what this is about, i.e. not at all about the shoes etc., but about you meeting them. Most girls will play along even if at a first glance they like you only slightly, because they are impressed with guys who put in the effort, and especially rise to the challenge in what is a difficult situation.

1. Start from relatively far away. Many girls are easily spooked by sudden developments, and are shy, and they get more shy the closer you are. So from relatively far away give them an open, warm smile, making it clear that you, a stranger, will talk to them once they get a little closer. If you give them the eye contact and a nice smile for a couple of seconds and then stop a few steps ahead of them, they will stop in front of you.

3. Just say: hi, you should know I could not help smiling because (insert here what you noticed about them earlier). They'll say "Oh, thank you". You follow up with a question about it. Not some random question where she got the shoes - you can ask if the shoes are comfortable, etc. (although it is a fair question where she got that haircut esp. if you can talk intelligently about the better hair salons in your town).

4. Remember everything she says, every word.

5. Say you'd love to talk to her more, but you are in a hurry, so would she be okay to grab coffee together. She may ask for your name at this point - you did not pointlessly volunteer it before did you? Give your name to her and ask for hers. Compliment it if it is rare and beautiful. Do NOT if it isn't. Do not ask for her phone number or facebook or email, do not offer yours. You can either agree to meet at a time / place, or she will at this point offer you her contact info.

6. Do your homework on anything she has told you, so you remember it and can talk intelligently about it the next time you meet. How do you talk intelligently? You shut up and listen, only from time to time asking little informed questions that tell her that you get what she is saying and you are interested in it.

Did I say I hope you use this for good not evil? I looked at your other responses, you sound like a nice enough guy. In my book nice guys should be equipped to meet nice girls (to what end I am happy to share what I know) as more often than not they don't get their fair share. Good luck.

[ImSoSozzled]

awesome thanks a lot! I'll definitely try it sometime if the girl I'm talking to doesn't work out

One question though: most girls will see me from far away but then they will avoid eye contact (so I can't smile or "warn" them I'm going to talk to them) until we pass and then they will either look at me for a split second or keep walking. Should I still just try stopping and seeing if they stop or something or should I only try this for girls that hold eye contact?

[Brando]

As I'm about to pass them, I look them in the eye. This is when the girl always looks away, straight ahead, down at the "text message she just got/is about to send", or something else like that...she walks past and if I'm lucky, I get a quick glance. I'll sometimes look back if she looks really good or whatever, but usually I just keep walking.

[ImSoSozzled]

haha that's usually exactly how it goes for me as well

[Brando]

Shit sucks, doesn't it?

[ImSoSozzled]

lol yep. The thing I hate the most is I'll get in an elevator and she will look at me and smile...and then get out her cellphone and act like she's texting as if she has reception

[Brando]

I heard this from someone on here. If a girl fakes the phone crap, pull out your phone and start writing a message that says "this girl next to me is pretending to text no one at all...she must not have friends" and hold your phone so that she can see it. I still haven't been able to try this one, but I want to.

[ImSoSozzled]

lmao yeah I totally remember telling you that one. The thing is that works best if she is beside you so that you can make sure she sees it without being too obvious and when we both get in an elevator, the girl will ALWAYS stand against one wall and if I don't stand against the opposite wall, I guess they feel uncomfortable and they never look at me. Plus I don't think Id have time because I live on the lowest floor that it is acceptable to take the elevator to.

[Brando]

Oh, that was you? lol Well regardless, follow your own advice.

I've tried to keep talking to a girl even when she's being shy, but they never seem to loosen up and the conversation quickly dies. I've done/doing my part to overcome the apprehensiveness, ladies should be doing the same.

[ImSoSozzled]

Yeah if I am having a problem with a girl, I usually type it out and then look at it from an objective person's point of view and just answer it myself lol

And agreed on the second part. I hate it when you can't tell if a girl is uninterested or just shy. And even if she is uninterested, is it gonna hurt her to have a conversation with a guy? I mean for all she knows, he could be a really funny, smart, pretty much perfect guy but she'll never know because she's judging him before she knows.

[Brando]

I guess after a while we'll get good shooting around in the dark lol. That, or start going after older women. They talk A LOT more freely, plus it's just awesome to flirt with them haha

[ImSoSozzled]

haha I might have to give that a try

[studmuffin-perfect10]

yes or smiles which mean your cool and not creepy lol

[GymNasty19]

D. I make extended eye contact, maybe a little hair flip, and once they pass subtly look back at them.. And they usually look back at me thinking I won't notice. I also think "I hope he talks to me". Haha, but there's nothing to worry about because it's just a random hot guy that I will probably never see again. But he usually says hey and I will say it back, but that's it. Haha.

[Livvypuent]

ALRIGHT GUYS...just approach..please...and start talking about anything..

I always end up smiling because I am friendly...but I don't want to make it look like I am interested..because I am used to being the chick that hangs out with guys...not the chick who dates them...

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Cause, you know, you couldn't TOTALLY talk to them first or something.

What is with women... :\

[Brando]

You may be an exception, but it's really tough to talk to a girl that is hardly talking back. I understand that she may get shy and clam up, but I fought through the nervousness of approaching her, she can return the favor and overcome her shyness as well.

[Livvypuent]

I guess I could...and sometimes I do...(one time my mom and I were at a festival watching some band play and she said she would pay me 10 bucks to go and talk to this really good looking guy...so I wanted 10 bucks you know? I mean..I thought why not? So I did..I walked up and starting making friendly conversation with him...and quickly regretted it...he had this look on his face that he couldn't get away fast enough)..Lmao..so since then..I have been a little hestitant...to be the approacher...

[bprox]

yeah, know how it feels =P

[Greeneyes4242]

Avoid- not because I want to but because I always do when I'm nervous without even realizing it. I might try to look at him for a few seconds, but would immediately look away if I realized there was a good chance he'd see me.

[AlbinoBunny]

Keep walking. I would do eye contact, but I always feel 'rude to stare'. As a kid you stare and I was told to stop, so now if I don't know someone and look at them, if they look at me I look away. I've been told this makes me look unconfident, which I'm not. I just feel rude doing it... :(

[ImSoSozzled]

Well it's not staring if you just make eye contact for half a second...how else will you know if she's checking you out ;)

[AlbinoBunny]

I do that, but I don't maintain eye contact.

[palek]

I'd do what I always do. give em a big whack on the noggin with my boola, tie her up tite and tote her home in the trunk. If she does my favorite things good the way I like I treat her right an give her cake and puddin. If she don't I stuff her up the chimbly with the rest.

[steveman2008]

when on approach I will look up and down discreetly. then while passing I will either pull my cell out and act like I had just got a text or I will look at a sign that's on my side of the wall. after she passes I will wait a couple seconds and then turn around and check out the back side. but if its a girl that I see every day I will say hi as she walks by with a head nod.

[Hazel63]

please god don't let me trip please god don't let me trip please god don't let me trip *trips* gosh darn it! why!?

[Brando]

lol

[AdamBH]

that sounds exactly like me XD

[Hazel63]

it happens all the time I swear. <_< especially if I'm really attracted to that person. lol

[powerpsi]

I stare them down. They either look away indifferently, look away quickly and look back to see if I'm looking, or the best result.. they stare back. If we're staring for like 3-5 seconds I'll smile. If she smiles I walk over.

[Beastieboys95]

I smile and they usually just smile back I never look back to look confident and stuff XD they never talk to me though :/ sad face

[snackeyg]

Eye contact with a smile and keep walking. I don't know what's considered "extended."

[ImSoSozzled]

To me, extended is where you make eye contact for at least a few seconds and pretty much hold it until you pass each other.

[snackeyg]

Oh OK. Not extended then.

[blufrenzy93]

D. I'll avoid eye contact, but look back when he walks by.

[eve16]

If a see a cute guy, I will look his way. In my mind, I will be like "wow, he's really cute!"

[Yeahhbro]

Extend eye contact, look up and down in a discrete way and after she has passed by look back and look up and down again.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I pretend I have no perifeial vision sometimes I look at them once a girl just smiled at me lol I had a class with her and she told any I'm really cute she has a boyfriend tho

[Killfest400]

Look and see if she makes eye contact. If she does, smile and give a flirty eyebrow raise.

[yesthisisme]

Make eye contact and if there is enough time a quick smile.

[AmberChick]

E- smile and look away, he can approach me if he wants :)

[snackeyg]

And why can't you?

[AmberChick]

Afraid of rejection probably. Lol I can be shy haha

[Brando]

Hey man, being open to approach is loads better than then turning shy and avoiding you.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

ya, I'd say try approaching him if you're interested. We men have to suck up the "don't want to be rejected" feeling, you women should start bringing equality to the social side of things :P

[PatrickRory]

i feel like both genders are timid...were all scared to make that move and unfortunately men are expected to make the first move...most girls think this way because that's how it was not so long ago and that's how it majorly still is. Even if you do get rejected you walk away and say "hey I tried" rather then walking away not having tried at all.

[dreamtime]

C+Pössible followup of actually talking to her depending on.

[Anonymous]

make eye contact, and I might smile if he's really cute

[bprox]

ehh look at her before and after we pass each other... then leave it be. if she wants to talk to me she will

[mysteryyy]

B. brief eye contact and probably smile

[gummybear888]

i think 'i hope he talks to me'

[Camilus]

Check her out, obviously.

[IdontWantToBeMe]

I look down or away because I'm shy

[bassmasta999]

smack her on the ass... yeah I'm going to jail