Dating my stepsister's ex boyfriend!

[Anonymous]

OK, basically lets not talk about what's morally correct. Here are the facts, I know there are 8 other billion people in this planet, but I have come to realize that I only want him. He left her 5 months ago, and it wasn't until two months ago that's things started to get serious between us. I have dated and met many guys, made many mistakes, which doesn't make me an expert on relationships but I am certain we have a special connection. Its something I've never felt before, and I'm not kidding! It scares the sh*t out of me, because the weird circumstances that brought us together. What if I love him, and we can't be together? Like I said, his ex is my step sister! And even though she is dating other guys while she was with him and now she is also dating other people, we have decided to respect her and not make it public or tell her yet. I know for a fact she still has feelings for him and he swears that is all over. I can certainly wait, Because this guy is one of a kind. What do you guys think? Should I wait, to see if I should ask later my sister for permission? Is it to much trouble? How long should I wait? I mean... I know it isn't that coherent, but basically I'm talking about a guy who I have really made a connection, and he make me so happy and I know I can give him what he deserves... Wow! Advice please :)

[josiemartin87]

How can you start by saying "lets not talk about what's morally correct." Well that goes to show you already know the decision you made getting involved with the person was wrong. Your feelings about this person is completely irrelevant, you should have never allowed this relationship to cross those boundaries. And what about your stepsister or your family..Im sure this is causing friction with this person and your family. It's not fair for you to ask your family to just accept your new "relationship" it's actually quite selfish and dysfunctional. Like you said there are other people in this world, you should try and find someone else...most likely this relationship won't work considering most relationships dont; especially considering you started this relationship with uneccessary drama. That almost seals the deal that this relationship will crumble and blow up in your face. Honestly you deserve it to. There are words to describe people like you: ignorant, low class, slut, uneducated, insecure, trashy. It's really disgusting that you would sleep with your own stepsister's boyfriend, they say you sleep with every person your partner has slept with...ewww that's really disgusting you should be ashamed. You must be from like Alabama or West Virginia or some other place where uneducated people breed with each other. And god forbid there are any children involved, WOW, I really hope not for their sakes (but if you really are that stupid to get involved in this type of relationship when children are involved, you or your relationship should not be allowed around them and if they are your children your putting yourself before them and you suck as a mother).

Break this relationship off immediatly, he was never yours to begin with!

PS You didn't decide to keep the relationship a secret to "protect her", it's obvious you don't care anything about her or anybody else involved. People keep secrets to hide things they are ashamed of..and the smiley face at the end. Either you are very immature or you are just that stupid because the situation you are in is neither cute nor funny.

All the best

[josiemartin87]

I'm sorry I didn't mention the guy. He's obviously not a good one (even though right now you seem to be worshiping the ground he walks on). Just think about it, If he can do this to your stepsister who knows what he is going to to do you. Guys can be very tricky, don't buy into what he is selling.

[TennesseGuy26]

Obviously you are starved for male attention so I am going to give you some with a side of advice. LEAVE HIM all you are is just a nicotine patch for the guy. By dating you ,who is probably similar to the stepsister, it is helping him slowly get over her. Which is really sad and pathetic on both parts. Once he realizes he is done with her he will be done with you. It can't work and trust me it will not work. The bad thing is it will explode in your face! After the ridiculous relationship is done you will never again be in good grace with your family but guess what he gets to dip out unscathed. So I mean if you fill the need to really jump after your step-sister sloppy seconds and claim them as your own go ahead but be warned it's wrong, disgusting, sad and the only one who will lose is you. Well good luck with destroying that obviously weak family bridge and have a blessed day.

[imhelpful]

OK, OK. all these people here saying "your making a bad decision, you have bad morals" are completely wrong. You are in no way a slut, trash, or whatever. Here's what you have to do. Talk to your stepsister. Ask her how she feels about it sand if she is OK with it. And DO NOT make your relationship private. She is dating other guys so she is probablly over it. If she us mature, she won't care, and relics that it's what you want. But tread lightly. If she really does have feelings for him, you might want to wait a while.