Cuddling for hours, yes or no?

Question

Have you cuddled with your boyfriend or girlfriend for literal HOURS?  Did they mind?  Do most guys mind this?  If the girl wants this, does that make her "needy?"

Jawless · Accepted Answer

I am in a long distance relationship as well, like you, and I do find the need to cuddle for hours, as well. So cuddling for hours, I say yes, I have done this before - many many hours and many many times...it's wonderful. You also get to stroke each others backs, and other soothing things which help people sleep. I've fallen alseep in her arms and put her to sleep in my arms before, as well. And then we've slept for a good six hours in the position, too. :)

I like to do this because I miss them lots, and I don't get much change to spend time with them, either. She loves to cuddle as well, and it's nice, you are close, you are in love, you become warm, it's nice for both of you.

My girlfriend doesn't mind, because it is something she wants, as well. I don't mind this, because I love her and need to be with her, but I can't say the same for other guys, because they might just want the relationship for sex or a status symbol. You'll have to wait for their opinions on that matter.

We don't mind about cuddling unless we are too hot, or there is something that needs doing - it's still nice to cuddle up to your girlfriend when she needs to go toilet, and she enjoys it to, but she'll break of eventually or get a bit annoyed if I don't let go when she is trying to detach herself. Other than things like that, we both enjoy it lots.

I've considered my girlfriend a little needy before, I have to agree, but I like it when she is. There has been times when I've been busy, either sitting on a chair not the bed, and she's made annoyed noises and held her arms out for me to cuddle her, and I've told her I'll be over in a minute, and she's made a little annoyed sound. It does make me think she is slightly needy sometimes, wanting a cuddle and not finding something else to do, but it's a nice sort of thing, as well.

From your updated message, I don't think there is anything wrong with you really, you are just one of those touchy feely types of girls, and you've formed an attachment with your boyfriend. You want him to hold you and you want to show him you love him, and an acceptable way to do this is cuddling him - it doesn't hurt, and it's not as demanding as kissing him constantly. I've known women to still enjoy cuddling up to their partner all day, but the issue vs. girls to women is the life issues, mainly, do the women have time to cuddle up to their boyfriends, or not? I'm sure they would still like to if they are in a loving relationship, but they just can't find the time - and neither can their boyfriend.

oh_henry_oh · Accepted Answer

Most of the guy answers here come from guys I disagree with -- well, I'm older. But I was young once and my experience is that necking, cuddling gets to be painful for the guy.

Eventually I thought of a solution -- not masturbation -- but something else. I didn't like getting hard and not releasing, it is actually painful. Maybe other guys are different, don't know, am not sure I care. (But I don't think they are, I think it's same for all of us.)

I had taken this wonderful woman out, our first date. I had gone to her home (this was our first meeting,) and, at one point, tried to embrace her.

(Truth: I had dated her roommate a couple of years prior, I had gone to the apt. to see her roommate. But that girl had moved away and I was improvising.)

So I tried to embrace her. And "No way!, Jose." And she told me that if I tried to touch her again I wouldn't be going out with her. Well, it was several days, five days I think, before she would have the time to go out with me. Exams and such.

(By the way, girls talk!, later I could tell that girl#1 told girl#2 what I liked, who I was, etc...)

We went to the movies and then I drove us to a nice spot for necking, etc...

I had just finished college and in college had scored on every date, first dates too. But now that I was out of college I had been finding it hard to meet the nice girls that I wanted to date. (Yes, I'm particular.) But I also am a man and was very horny. I didn't want to get the cold shoulder and a request (which I would accede to,) to be taken home.

To the person who asked this question, I suggest that you either get on a plane, or get in your car, have it checked out first by a good mechanic, then go there! Go find your boyfriend. And show him a good time, give him a lot to smile about.

To everyone else, I've written up what happened on that date and I expect to post it as a story.

I once managed to turn a cold winter into early summer for myself and this wonderful girl. And, in that season of my life I learned that the world really does stop when you're in love. I know, people think that's just an expression.

No. It's true. The world really does stop.

If the lady who has asked this question about her long-distance romance goes a-traveling, maybe she'll find out, I don't know.

toulouse · Accepted Answer

@If the girl wants this, does that make her "needy?"

if you are with a guy who thinks it makes you needy , and it is something you want.. then you are with the wrong guy. do not get another human beings perference let you determine your level of sanity.

some people love touching, others not tho both could feel equal love -but one just does not like touch.

touching is essential to human health. psychologically, spiritually, mentally... people who think they hate it , have often been abused, or are disconnected from their true needs. Often later and life develop cancer or high blood pressure or commit suicide etc.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

if you're a serious cuddler make sure you find another serious cuddler because you'll never be satisfied with someone who isn't as into it as you are into it.  my daughter is a big time cuddler and I told her to never marry(or seriously date) someone who doesn't love to cuddle as much as she does or she'll feel lonely in the relationship after awhile because she needs to feel close to the someone she loves, even when she sleeps and if he doesn't like it in the beginning then he isn't going to change as time goes on and she'll be resentful that she isn't getting what she needs from the relationship and it won't work out.

kkandbb · Accepted Answer

We cuddle for 8 hours when we sleep, we hug all the time, we cuddle up while watching movies lol really the only time we're not cuddling is when working, working out and studying.

We both love it (I've asked him before and he loves it too). He's usually the one cuddling me when we sleep, except when I have a sore tummy (I think I have GERD or something) I cuddle him and use him as a hot water bottle :P We don't view each other as needy or clingy.

cun7n1nja · Accepted Answer

I have, and I definitely enjoy it. It's one of my favorite things, and I never feel safer or warmer than when I'm tucked into his arms. My guy values that time together just as much as I do, but if he didn't care about me like he does, or if I were someone else, I think he'd find all the touching excessive. It seems like he has just as much of a 'need' to be touching me as I do to be touching him.

italykam · Answer

Aww it's  one the best things in the world. It's totally normal to want to do this, it gives off such an amazing feeling of comfort. The guys I have been with, for the most part, enjoy cuddling just as much as I do. The guy I am with right now never wants me to leave because he likes it so much. I don't think it would give off a "needy" vibe at all, unless it happened 24/7 or somethin crazy.

girloncue · Answer

I used to have cuddle sessions watching TV with my ex. it wasn't as good as making out, but it made me feel appreciated and loved.

as far as long distance, I've been there. you need him there to touch. My best idea is for him to send you something that smells like him to hug, it REALLY works good, specially if it's a buildabear he made and slept with. HOPE HELPS!

babygurl456543 · Answer

ME and my man, we have made out for 8 hours, no joke, and he was the one wanting to, and me and him cuddle for about 5 to 7 hours a day, and we talk probly 16 hours a day for 9 months. I spend from 10 am til 9 pm with him, omitting random days when he works or I have other things I have to do with out him, like going to doctor places and family only things.

TimeAndTimeAgain · Answer

Depends on how what I have to do. I would love to cuddle with a girl I have feelings for, but unless it's nighttime, I think I would get bored and feel like doing something else after a few hours. Unless we're talking about stuff while cuddling.

I wouldn't mind coming home every day after work, having dinner and then just cuddling with her on TV or something while we watch a movie or tell each other things.

soccerguy90 · Answer

i would love it so much to just hold a girl in my arms for hrs and look deep into her eyes and just fall asleep together and when  I wake up the first thing I see her beautiful face sleeping and still within my arms :)

Anonymous · Answer

Cuddling has to be my favorite thing about guys. Even though I do not have a boyfriend, I have been talking to someone. I was with this guy actually just last night and we cuddled for infamous hours. I love the feeling of being in a man's arms. Thick or thin, strong or slim, I love it no matter what=)

Levin · Answer

Surely depends on the context? Like during the start of a relationship, when you haven't established much affection, it may be perceived as being rather clingy. Same if you insist on doing it at every possible moment. Both people need space in a relationship. Having said that, I love cuddling. I'm pretty sure I could do it for the entirety of the day and not get restless, if I like the girl. :D

assembledtoy · Answer

I love cuddling, it's not to know that my girlfriend feels as affectionate as I do in our relationship and she enjoys it too, I would cuddle with her for hours if so. It doesn't seem needy all because it's a form of intamacy and comfort.

Anyways that's just me. :)

VeritablePlethora · Answer

Yes I love cuddling. Every girlfriend I have ever had has loved cuddling. If they didn't like cuddling I'd probably be weirded out.

However

Occasionally I wouldn't feel like cuddling, and being forced to cuddle was annoying. Ya gotta read his mood on the matter

Belgie · Answer

If she doesn't wake me, she can cuddle me all she wants.

But just lying there for hours, cuddling and doing nothing while you're awake? I think that's the definition of needy. I really think I'd have to break up with someone who was like that. I can't even sit still for hours, never mind cuddle. Get off your ass and get moving and do something with life, that's my motto.

ShootingStar5 · Answer

My boyfriend and I have cuddled watching TV for a few hours more than once. We're both suckers for cuddling. Sometimes he falls asleep and starts snoring, it's adorable :)

arashmenalagha · Answer

if they would let me drink water and go to the bathrrom everyso often yeah sure I beleive everyone gets healed like this.

Anonymous · Answer

hours being awake? no. I get bored easily and he moves way too much :(

hours and counting falling asleep? yes. but that's usually me spooning him or when he's extremely tired.

i liked it when he holds me/cuddle but then he won't be able to get comfy... either its the pillow, my hair, his arm, something has to be wrong for him :(

Brav326 · Answer

I´ve cuddled for 3 hours while talking and kissing. Time seemed to stop and it was only both of us in the world. We had decided not to have sex and I´ve never had a more comforting, soothing, warmer and closer experience in my entire life. It was a bit hard to find the time for this, but it was worth every second. She said nobody could feel more loved or pampered in the world.
Brav326

Malcom_Reynolds · Answer

Unless I have something I need to be doing at the time, then go right ahead, I love cuddling.

datboi10 · Answer

Yes, I love cuddling for long periods. Just this weekend spent almost 18 hours nearly continuously if you include sleep, only stopping for food and bathroom, otherwise we were always in each other's arms. I don't think a girl is needy if she enjoys cuddling for long periods at all, as long as both people are comfortable with it.

Thiezz · Answer

How often? Do you want to cuddle for hours each day, or once a week, or every few weeks, or three times a year?

beastman88 · Answer

i don't mind at all, I've been known to cuddle for a whole days, only getting up to eat and go to the washroom. very nice and relaxing I find

sunmonster · Answer

I love cuddling, but lets face it- we all have busy lives. Maybe at max for like an hour or so, but not hours!

Anonymous · Answer

I had some guy that liked to do this and he didn't consider me good enough to be dating material.  Some guys like to cuddle. If the guy gets up, he wants to stop.  If he stays there, I'd imagine its OK with him.

bel42 · Answer

i love cuddling , I don't mind doing it for a couple hours while we are talking, watching TV  and other things in that category.

Caliboy · Answer

I love cuddling. Being close to someone you like/love is so romantic. But all guys are different. If he's your typical douchebag guy, he probably won't find much joy in cuddling.

colombo21 · Answer

yea its amazing. sometimes you just cuddle and talk for hours and its like the rest of the world never existed

ihatework · Answer

hours is a little much. there are other things to do in a day sometimes.

kermitthehog · Answer

I've cuddled for hooouuuuursss before. Sometimes I'd be cuddling with my girl and we wouldn't even know 2 hours have passed.

amilleman · Answer

I would love to do this sounds wonderful, never had the chance to do something like this tho ];

erekmax · Answer

i like cuddling.. I've done it a bunch of times for hours. a lot of times with a movie though

Cailleach · Answer

Hell no. I have better things to do in life then lay there bored and hot for hours on end.

Dom163 · Answer

Like 3 hours is a little much but I could do 2 hours I think not all the time though lol

Anonymous · Answer

Don't mind at all!  This feels very nice--after I've just cum.  Otherwise, probably not going to go on that long.

Anonymous · Answer

If only I could get the opportunity.

Littletad · Answer

Wish I could do this.

thoronmegil · Answer

Yes, I have. It was wonderful :3

sumina7 · Answer

No it is fine. But not all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

when we're watching TV or just in bed

Shadoww · Answer

not for HOURS! tho, love to cuddle.

Cailleach · Answer

Not at all.

wolflover17 · Answer

hell to the yes! :)

InMyHeart · Answer

I would LOVE it.

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