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GUYS age 22-32: Would you date a woman with a kid? (Page 3)
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I decided a while ago that if the girl I liked had a kid I would still like her...
it depends on how you tell him and how he feels about having a kid befor having sex...
If you find a guy who likes your for you then it dosnt matter what baggage you have...
I had the chance to go out with a girl who had a kid and she was beautiful. Her kid was awesome as will. she wasn't looking for a father replacement and was in to me. I was 21 so it kind of scared me, but if I had the chance I would date that woman.
Sometimes I would imagine playing video games and football with the kid just as a friend.
i guess a poll would do better here, I'd date a women with a kid, and at that point I wouldn't take the women serious but just fun. for a serious relationship I'd try to get me a women with no kids and there should be some... now if I already fell for one with a kd, if she's really worth it I'd stick to it. All in a figurative way.
Guys like you suck. You don't seem to realize that most women with kids don't do "just for fun" so well. Not saying you have to immediately want to settle down and get married but screwing around and going out a couple of times then dropping out on her will only doo more damage to her. If you're not going to take a woman seriously then you shouldn't bother wasting her time.
dude you have issues, don't take em on me.
you asked a question, I just answered.
i WOULD date a women with kids (I have) but I would_NOT_look for a woman with kids if I wanted to settle down (serious relationship)... now IF I already am dating a girl with a kid and IF she wants more than just fun (not meaning just sex, idiot) I would_NOT go for it UNLESS she's worth it.
I wasn't saying screwing around in the slang sense of having sex I was actually using it how it was meant to be used: as an idiom for wasting time. Which if you date someone you have no intentions or desire of marrying or settling down with you're wasting both their time and yours. It's one thing if you go out for a bit to see if you have a desire for something more but as for just having fun, you'll find that most girls who just want that either have issues, no self worth, have an std or two or
or are just generally "not worth it". All I'm saying is that most single mom's aren't looking for a little boy who just wants to have fun but if you present yourself as a man who has potential all you'll end up doing is hurting them. And there are already enough bitter women in the world. Why keep going around causing more. You're actions have very real consequences. You could be more considerate. Just a thought.
comment accepted, but believe me, being "worth it" for me is like she fulfills my needs, (not sex limited at all) like my current girlfriend, even if she had a kid I'd stick up with her, cause she is worth it to me. I think you didn't quite get me, I have dated a women with a kid... anyways, peace!
Been there, done that! It isn't a problem - but be careful you make sure he knows how much of a dad/stepdad he is to be, and don't introduce the child to him until you are sure the relationship's going somewhere!
i don't mind but the thing that scares some guys is not only do they have to "impress" you but your child and if your kid doesn't like thim then there more stress on the relationship. Also if the guy desides to breakup with you then he also may feel like he's hurting the kid to, but that's later down the line of course.
Well am under your age list ( 24 to 36) and no I would not get serious with a women who has a kid, I mean we can talk and come over but nothing serious as in feelings, even if I was 24 years old or older my mine set will never change, I may even be worse, What you don't under stand is when a guy see's a kid they run cause they think she just want money for the kid like really
Oh I understand it quite well. I just think its sad that men are so willing to "see" (date, hang out with or talk to without thought of pursuing an actual relationship) a woman with a kid but not take the time to give her an actual chance. Yes some women are out for money and have wicked ulterior motives yet the majority are good women who just want a good, solid relationship.
I mean here is the thing, your never going to find a guy who is in ther early to late 20s who wants to date a women with kids, I mean honestly if a man was in there mid 30s then yea I can see that happening, Cause I would but only if I was in my Mid 30s , but since am in my 20s then not a chance, and how old are you by the way
Still 21
I would be hesitant. A person would be afraid of paying child support for the kid that's not mine. Its just luggage. Nothing against the kid but a guy wants to start a fresh start when going into a serious relationship. If the kid is older then it might be alright. Everyone pictures a good family with their own kids and not having strings attached to other kids outside the circle and dealing with the ex. One thing a girl can do to get a guy is look super hot. Aim to look hot. Turn on the guy a lot. Just go all out. Make yourself as real hot for that can be the exception to the kid. Super hotness over rules the kid in a lot of situations :). You gotta give a reason for a guy to over look the kid. If you are out of shape and looking for someone then the kid will tear up your dates to shreds. Just put yourself in a guys shoes. If the girl has good looks to offer still then its a good possibility. It shows she's willing to make a new start. To start good and clean also.
I'm 28, and yes, I would. Although I'm sure some guys wouldn't.
I love children, playing with them and all that but I've always been afraid to have my own, it's a huge responsability. Thinking of that you having children could be a plus but it ain't.
Men and women, we are all possessive and I'm sure you can never give a man all your love when you have a children of your own, if the guy you'll date doesn't get attached to your kid he might feel jealous sometimes.
i have a 3 year old daughter. I've been asked out alot, even proposed to by few. and two of them are serious. to father my kid. and theyre my age. but I have no time for love yet because I wanna get my own life and my kid's together first. yes I do take care of myself like looking my best for myself not to get a daddy for my baby. and honey, a lot of guys would do anything if you are worth it. and I know you r. :)
I'm 21 with a 2.5 year old who still sees her father regularly. I have a new boyfriend who is amazing with her, never had a problem dating guys because I have a child, it just sorts out the ones who are just there for "fun" and the ones that are wanting "commitment".
I also have a 2 1/2 year old and recently was in a short term relationship with a guy my age (23). He was okay with the entire situation and then later "realized" he didn't think he could handle it. Because we are mothers, we may have to be a bit more cautious than women who aren't mothers, but like Seraphim said, some guys may dismiss a potential relationship with someone who is a mother, and that's their loss on a possibly good relationship. It really just depends on where a guy is at in his l
completely agree peacegirl
you guys are giving me hope x
I definitely agree! Guys need to realize that when you have a child you come as a package. Mature guys who are in it for the right reasons will understand
but I think most guys don't want to take on the responsibility of other people's mistakes.
"I definitely agree! Guys need to realize that when you have a child you come as a package. Mature guys who are in it for the right reasons will understand"
So by that statment you brand any man not wishing to settle with a single mother as imature.
How mature of you young lady
@7121uc: Are you really calling kids with single parents mistakes? You don't know why that person is single and calling the child a mistake just devalues their life. Wtf
Mistake? Just because someone isn't with the father of their child doesn't mean that child was a mistake wtf dude.
My daughter, PAL is no mistake.. she's amazing, beautiful, intelligent, funny, sweet, kind, adorable all rolled in to one, the best thing I ever did was have he,r whether her dad left or not. The only mistake around here was your comment.
@7121uc - How can any child be a mistake? What would have happened if your dad walked out on your mum...wouldn't that have made you a mistake? Seriously WTF!
Some of these comments amaze me. Men that are looking for commitment are not necessarily looking for kids right off the bat. Also, you can't measure a man's maturity based on weather he wants to be with you because you have a child from a failed relationship. I have made the choice to NOT get any woman pregnant by practicing safe sex, and I wouldn't get any woman pregnant until I was certain that's what I wanted. It's called discipline, self-control and it's the highest sign of maturity.
Babies need to be conceived intentionally, by married couples with secure jobs who are in their late 20's, preferably in their 30's.
Otherwise what's really going on is people are making the best of a bad situation.
Ergo, a mistake.
@7121uc You are REALLY mental... Kids are mistakes? Oh bull...
@ 7121uc when a singlemomhave a child it is not a result of mistake, I don't know how could you say that!
I don't think he meant it offensively. Maybe he meant like...mistake as in you didn't get pregnant on purpose
I'm 30, turning 31 in a couple weeks. Would I date a woman with a kid? Yes. Would I date a 21 year old? I wouldn't rule it out completely but it's highly unlikely. The age difference would be more likely to kill it for me than the fact that you have a kid.
You will definitely find someone to date but it will be tougher.
I had a chance with a woman with a kid and I blew it because of of a weird reaction to not wanting any perceived additional responsibility, despite her not pressuring me at all.
My friend had a girflriend with a son and he always told me it was a bit more constrictive but fine.
Your child is the most important thing and you will need a thick skin to find the type of guy that is cool with it.
yes I would date a woman with kid,s as a guy with a son and no wife
i know how hare it is to find some one that will date a guy with a kid
so I know how you fill it can be a pain in the but and most guy I know
like kid and would not care if a woman had kid,s because there will be
less game and less game,s and have the kids can have fun going to place,s
and have lot of thing to do
I would take a girl out with a daughter, no worries, but I would be concious all the time of the changeing nature of the relationship. If things started to get serious, I would assume to eventual meet the girls daughter, but then I would have to decide whether I see myself with this girl as a long term/marriage material. Cause I couldn't be in a serious relationship and not care about the kid, or provide financially for them, It would just be weird.
I'd date a girl with a kid, but she better be clear about her expectations. Also, I wouldn't want to meet the kid unless the relationship has gotten really serious.
all about the guy and if he shares your interest of raising a family. personally I don't wanna be tied down, iam too young yet, I feel sorry for people my age and teens that have kids. a lot of responsibility, because your not #1 anymore.
id make an exception if the mother was exceptionally good looking, just like honeyitsme has said. then id wanna stick around, and maybe have kids with her
Yep as long as her p**** wasn't blown out. Sometimes the p**** is better after a kid though. I would hope she'd keep our relationship discreet as far as the kid goes at least at first. Probably not a good look to be dating various guys in front of your kid.
i am 23 years old. I would date her casually but I would have -----NO----- interest in anything long term
If you aren't interested in a real, long-term relationship then you shouldn't "casually" date her. For most single mom's there is no such thing as "casual".
why do I care? she should of been more careful is she wanted investment.
Why is it always the girls fault yet no one ever considers the fact that there were two parties involved? Douches like you are why girls think guys are such heartless, asses. I hope karma drop kicks you in the face for being such a creep.
lol if anyone is being smited by karma, it is you.
you made your decision, you got knocked up. you no longer have the value you would have had if you were without child on the dating market.
get freaken over it
My "value" is the same regardless except for to immature little boys like you. Grow up.
immature? you mean men that have the money, looks, confidence and success to know what's worth it.
... you... you REALLY believe a child-heavy 21 year old has the same value as a girl who's the same age with a college education who hasn't banged around?
wow... just... WOW!
I may have a child from a previous COMMITTED (at least on my end) relationship yet that has no bearing on my intelligence, ability, or confidence. Also I look better than I did before and I'm financially stable which is more than I can say for a lot of "girls" my age. If anything being a mother makes you more mature and if you have your head on straight makes you get your business in order so that you can be a great role model and provider. Obviously you have your prejudices against single moms
which is unfortunate but I?m sure they?re based on stereotypes and assumptions. Of course most stereotypes are perpetuated by a surprisingly large percentage of women who are misguided and possibly delusional. Yet judging every woman in that category based on the actions of a few is wrong and treating them like they?re worth less than ?normal? women is disgusting and disturbing. I?m sure you?ve made your share of mistakes and have been used or let down by others in your life so why disrespect
women who have done you no harm based on your assumption that they?ve ?banged around?? Also if you?re honest with yourself most girls you mentioned above have been ?banged around? a good deal themselves. Just saying .
hey dx021.. do you know the amount of women who have abortions yearly? how much you wanna bet half the girls with "value" just decided to "get rid of it". I'd love to know how low your value is if you score it by wether or not you sleep with people.
if I was in that age range I would. but I would want a real relationship. but I would want the relationship to go somewhere. I wouldn't just want to be used to take her out and that's all. because then that's just like being a buddy friend.
I'm not saying I don't want a relationship. My point is that I'm not looking for someone to "be a father" right off the bat. I just want to be given the chance to go out, date someone and persue a relationship but societal stigmas tend to go against single parents and as a result a lot of guys avoid single moms like the plague. How can one persue a relationship if they are never given the chance to do so?
you know I see your point. but there are some guys out there like me that would give the chance. that's the hard part about most guys. they judge people right away and its not fair. but you know keep puting yourself out there and show your personality and the right guy will come. one who you deserve:)
Thanks
Btw you sound very mature for your age. Kudos to you for being ahead of the curve :)
Thanks:)
Thank you:)
It's not what idealize when they think of who they want to marry, but if a guy really liked, I don't think a kid could stop him from being with her. When think they wouldn't want to marry a girl with a kid, but if they found the right woman, that could change. Good Luck!