Can a girl and a guy cuddle without starting to like each other?

[roxygirlskier]

I guess this is just out of curiosity. I don't really have an explanation haha. If they're just friends to start with!

Yes

No

A total of 198 votes were cast: 129 girls and 69 guys. See detailed results

[girly1986]

i thought it was possible. but now I don't think so anymore. I also asked a similar question here fey days before (you can check it out, if you wish).

but the fact was that I ended up liking him very much

i think, that when you want to cuddle somebody, then it means that you already like him/her on some kind of physical level. and when you have cuddled him/her, then afterwords you may even feel more connected with that person.

for example, I wouldn't like to cuddle one of my best friends, cause I'm not attracted to him and I don't like, when he hugs me that often..

[roxygirlskier]

yeah, I think it's hard not to like the person. I don't know my best friend and I liked each other and we used to cuddle all the time. we stopped liking each other but I still want to cuddle! I don't know if that's wrong or not!

[Anonymous]

I think it's possible, just not likely.

I used to think I didn't have feelings for my ex, but then we kind of... spooned a little? And all of those old feelings came rushing back. That's a different scenario, though.

[roxygirlskier]

yeah, I'm sort of afraid of that, which is why I'm asking this question I guess. I think I'll just choose to think nothing of it if/when we do cuddle

[Opinion Owner]

I wanted to think nothing of it, but that didn't work so well :P But really, it all depends on the two of you.

[roxygirlskier]

yeah, I think we thought something of it and then when it came down to it we both got kind of hurt because a real relationship wasn't what we actually wanted. it was weird and confusing

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the guy or girl. There is only one guy that I'm friends with that I know we could cuddle and still just be friends. However, he falls easily for other girls and I fall easily for other guys.

[roxygirlskier]

and you don't fall easily for each other?

[Opinion Owner]

oddly enough, we don't. I don't know how it happened but we're like brother & sister.

[roxygirlskier]

aww that's awesome! I wish I could do that! I don't think I can though haha.

[Opinion Owner]

if you know that he cuddles with a lot of girls he's either a player or a human teddy bear (like my guy friend haha). Either way, he probably doesn't develop feelings for these girls, so keep yourself guarded & don't fall for him.

[roxygirlskier]

I think he might be a little bit of both? but more of a teddy bear if anything. I like to think of the best of people. at least I know the truth now.

[smallz660]

I wouldn't cuddle with someone I wasn't interested in on some level. Even if I wasn't looking for a relationship or sex or anything it would still probably mean I was attracted to her.

[roxygirlskier]

huh. that explains a lot lol. so maybe my guy friend is just attracted to everyone apparently

[smallz660]

I don't know if he's actually attracted to everyone he cuddles with, but at the very least he probably doesn't find them unattractive. Is he normally really? If he cuddles with everyone then maybe he's just that really outgoing type of person.

[roxygirlskier]

yeah, he's also never had a girlfriend so I think he's very curious about what it's like to be close to someone

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Cuddling is intimate... if he's cuddling with everyone there's something "eh" about that. Basically, no they can't.

[roxygirlskier]

is he being a creeper? lol

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Prolly being a player

[roxygirlskier]

that's a bit hilarious! I never thought of this guy as a player!

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

He could be, or trying to be. I dunno. A lot of girls think a guy isn't a player because, guess what, he's not showing how he's a player to the girls he's playing. Kinda obvious really.

[roxygirlskier]

woah, that is a tad confusing. I'm not really sure! He never came off as the player type. he's played like ONE girl before and I think it was on accident? he didn't want to make her feel bad so he played along like he liked her. he also wanted a girlfriend so I think he just liked the idea too. I don't know what that says about him though

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

How does anyone accidentally play someone? If the other was leading themselves on that's one thing, but no one accidentally plays another lol. I dunno, he sounds kinda... eh.

[roxygirlskier]

haha aw really? wow I feel like I'm painting him to sound so bad! okay, maybe it wasn't playing? he just felt bad telling her that he didn't like her... that's not very nice is it lol

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

No it isn't nice. Especially if he got really intimate with her :\ in which case meh. He still sounds like a jerk, immature, stupid.

[roxygirlskier]

well, I don't think they ever kissed. I think he stopped there. They just cuddled and stayed up all night telling stories and had play fights and I don't know gave each other massages. They never kissed though. I think they almost did and he was like no... but you can kiss me. Do you really think he sounds like a jerk or just immature? That's so sad! I'm his friend, what do I tell him!?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Tell him to not be so intimate with girls he has no wish being more than friends with. And tell him he better decide on one before being intimate with more than one girl (and I don't mean sex, I mean intimate in anyway).

[roxygirlskier]

Okay, sounds like a plan. Thanks so much!

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

np

[ilyurbella]

Sure, I guess someone out there can cuddle with their friend and not like each other. As for me, I couldn't do it and I don't know anyone who really could personally.

[roxygirlskier]

interesting. I think I agree, but I want to get a good general idea of what other people think

[aestuum]

Ive cuddle with a couple guy friends, just cause we like to cuddle! Its fun

[roxygirlskier]

It is! But is that just you and one guy or you and a bunch of guys at once? I'm talking more like, one on one I guess. I don't know. Do you think there's anything to it?

[aestuum]

One on one. I know one guy kinda liked me, and we were both a little tipsy so we just ended up spooning, but nothing big happened. The other time we were both like...hey we like spooning and its late and I am tired, so I just stayed over and we cuddled. No big deal, at least from my side of it. I think if the guys wanted to make something of it, they had plenty of chances to act.

[roxygirlskier]

yeah, hm. maybe he had some hope of something happening

[Anonymous]

I have not cuddled with any girl I was not at least physically attracted too or had a bit of a crush on

[roxygirlskier]

ah, interesting. did you start to like her more when you cuddled with her?

[Opinion Owner]

yeah because it let me know she at least felt comfortable being physically close to me more so than you think a friend would want to be

[roxygirlskier]

huh yeah. I guess that's true.

[Spacemen3]

friends don't cuddle, I think.

[roxygirlskier]

Whaatt, really? My best guy friend likes to cuddle with like EVERY girl. Is he just trying to hit on everyone?

[Spacemen3]

I think so.

Cuddling is pretty hot/intimate.

[Spacemen3]

link this type of cuddling?

[roxygirlskier]

Minus the kissing.. pretty much...

[Spacemen3]

I think he's hitting on all of you then lol

[roxygirlskier]

hahaha so he's basically a player!

[Spacemen3]

yes, careful girls

[roxygirlskier]

hahaha I feel like as his best friend I should probably make him aware of this minor detail, no? haha

[Spacemen3]

Hes' going to say: "you're making a big deal out of nothing, its just cuddling jeez" lol

[roxygirlskier]

hahaha so true! great, so I have a player/creeper friend and I can't do anything about it!