Should I marry the girl who adores me even though I'm attracted to other girls. HELP!

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I spent two years together during which she took great care of me and treated me like gold. I loved her in the beginning but with time I think it faded away. The most important thing here is that we used to connect in the bedroom but she was never the sexiest woman for me. She is very cute but just not sexy. I'm 26 years old and I've been in only one serious relationship before her so I don't really have a lot of sexual experience with women. So when I was with her I would secretly desire or fantasize about someone else and it wasn't on purpose. Now she wants me to marry her and I am just confused as to what to do. She is the most perfect girl ever I'm pretty sure I would never find someone like her because she has the best personality. But again I feel as if I'm missing out on something even though I know I'm a serious relationship kinda guy and I could never go chase women in bars for one night stands. All this is making me so confused. I'm feeling depressed and I'm really afraid that I'll regret my decision. Please help me!

[soxfan94]

On the one hand, if you don't truly love her you shouldn't marry her. On the other hand, chasing girls and being single will quickly lose its appeal (and you will almost surely not be able to find another great girl who loves you and treats you great as a result of chasing tail at the bars).

My opinion is this: If you feel that you are settling for a girl who is not as hot as you could possibly maybe hopefully get if you tried to find someone else, then you should get your head on straight and realize that you can't chase hot girls and expect anything lasting...there will always be a hotter girl somewhere. But if you feel that you are settling for someone that you won't truly be happy with, who you don't truly love and who you think may not truly love you (and in all this I mean love as both emotionally and physically), then you might want to think long and hard before such a serious commitment as marriage.

[ryanontario]

its normal to be attracted to other girls , I'd actually say it be out of ordinary for you to not be . not really sure why this has become such a problem . as long is your not trying to have sex with these other people there is really nothing going on other than some minor fantasies which don't amount to much in the end

[Asker]

the thing is that I wish I could have something with these girls! I think about myself never having the chance to sleep with an attractive woman before getting committed for life.. it is very scary!

[tammymac]

No don't marry the girl you can't see yourself with for life

[Shane1017]

Are you still in love with her or just love her as a person? Some people just fall out of love and there is nothing wrong with that, you can't help yourself. If you're not in love with her anymore you should break it off before it gets to the next level.

[Asker]

there is just no spark anymore. I know that she is an angel but again I find myself wanting other girls and wanting to be with them and that is hard because it is kind of a dilemma really!

[Red_Arrow]

Your statement, "The most important thing here is that we used to connect in the bedroom but she was never the sexiest woman for me," says it all! For marriage, there has to be love. And the taking "great care" has to work both ways, not just one. You are measuring this relationship strictly on what she can do for you. It is not healthy.

Do her one big favor. Set her free! It sounds like she deserves a good/great guy, not a user like you.

[Armada]

She sounds perfect. You sound like a douchef***.

[Asker]

Thank you for your response. It is not like I did it on purpose. I suffer from a problem and I'm seeking help and you're certainly not helping me!

[Anonymous]

Cute girls suck find a nice hot girl to marry lol