Girls, If I really love her, should I just let her be or should I pursue?

[JudeJericho08]

I have been in love with her for over 12 years. We are good friends and I have seen her crush on many guys and I have seen her with many guys, She doesn't seem to be into me like that, Tho it's not for sexual purposes but for Romantic and then eventually more intimate relationship, because I do care deeply for her. I'm just letting her be and if it's meant to be, I guess it will be.

[SueShe]

If you truly love her, then you let her be because in all those years, she did not seem to want to be more than just friends with you.

I would imagine that she would have had enough time to develop feelings for you in 12 years but she apparently did not. That should have been an indicator that you are just not her type or that you may perhaps not do the right things.

It hurts you more than anything to hope that this will change yet you know it will not. Why hurt yourself even more. By secretly loving her, you prevent yourself from finding someone that does truly love you in return.

[JudeJericho08]

We have lived apart for most of the time tho but did spend a number of summers together as friends.

[Ghen30]

I'm sorry she doesn't feel the same way about you. You deserve happiness, so my advice is to find someone who will give you that kind of attention. If you remain in her shadow, hoping for something that might not ever come, it will leave you heart broken, and you might miss your chances with someone worthwhile. Be strong and be happy.

[JudeJericho08]

Thanks for your feedback, it does hurt because I don't think I'll ever love another girl as much as I love and care about her, even if i do end up with another girl, I will always care about her still.

[Secret6620]

I think you should just "let this be".

Especially if she doesn't reciprocate your romantic feelings. If you confess now after all this time, there's a chance it could ruin your friendship.

So just make the best decision.

[JudeJericho08]

Thanks for your feedback, it does kinda hurt thinking what if but then there is the other what if, and I'd rather have her as a friend then not at all.

[Secret6620]

💜💜

[TacosRAwesome]

You need to shoot your shot. Either you get to date her or you get to know she's not interested and can move on.

[JudeJericho08]

What if i'm willing to wait as long as it takes? The only reason I haven't shoot my shot is I'm afraid I lose her as a friend.

[TacosRAwesome]

You can do that but are you just waiting for her or are you open to meeting other women?

[JudeJericho08]

If I meet another woman I will still love her, prob > than another girl. It's kinda tough.

[scarletyes]

Awwww this post literally broke my heart. :( Poor you, you are such a good and loving guy. You deserve so so so much better.
Oh my gosh I'm gonna cry.

[JudeJericho08]

I know it can sound sad, but it's the truth tho, I love her and if her being her happiest is not with me tho it would hurt, I still would love her. I would love for her for to be mine but I rather have her a friend than not at all.

[scarletyes]

Noooo:((( I'm sorry you have to go through all this.

[SnakeBoop]

12 years and nothing has happened? yeah, leave it