For starters I’m completely aware of how dumb I look coming on the internet asking strangers for advice on this but idgaf 😂. I’ve been talking to this girl for awhile & I really like her & want to move things further. I just found out she got out of a serious long term relationship 6 months ago. And me being the overthinking , anxiety having ass that I am , I’m a little worried if that’s long enough to get over a serious relationship & come back to yourself. My general rule is that I don’t pursue people unless they’ve been single at least a year , because I like someone that can take time to get to know themself & isn’t dependent on the validation of having a relationship, but for her I would def make the exception. I guess what I want to know , what do y’all think is an appropriate amount of time for someone to really get over a long term relationship before pursuing another one?
The amount of time doesn’t really matter because it depends fully on how her previous relationship was, how it ended and what it meant. You should try to have an honest conversation and tell her your feelings and if she’s ready for a relationship and if not you could just stay her friend until she’s ready. :)
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If you haven’t already made a friend of her, start there. You’ll be able to learn enough about her to know if she’s over the breakup and whether or not you’re a good match. If you have already made friends bide your time. Once she trusts you enough to confide that stuff, make your move. That is if you’re still interested.
What really matters is whether they have moved on emotionally, and there's no set timetable for that, although I think one year is much longer than necessary. I'd say three months or so unless it was an abusive relationship.
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Honestly their nothing wrong with asking strangers for advice. I agree with your year wait to date someone and honestly she may be ok. I would wait a little longer, but if you want to. Ask her out on a date and see where it takes you
Where'd you get the year thing from? Some people are fine hours after. Some people are never fine. But it would be unfortunate that you let this opportunity pass because YOU think she needs more time.
There is no set time limit for these situations. If you feel you are ready, then make a move.
ask her out on a date. Tell her it’s just a date. feel her out. sit around and you might loose out
"Follow your Heart" before she finds a rebound relationship the Is NOT you...
In my opinion that one year rule is dumb. If you like be with her. Ask her out.
This is a same-sex pursuit?
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