Is being 6 feet tall a huge advantage? I'm ugly but girls still like me?

[Anonymous]

I'm goofy looking. When I meet other guys, they talk shit to me and will make snide remarks about how I "probably can't get pussy." Or how I must be a virgin. They can tell as soon as they see me that I'm no good with women.

I'm extremely shy with girls. I'm awkward, I'm weird, I'm not cool whatsoever. My head is shaped funny. My smile is awkward and fake due to my extremely bad social anxiety. I'm also pretty damn sure that I am ugly. What inspired me to make this post, was a female friend of mine uploaded a video of me onto her snapchat. Today's my birthday and the video was of my last birthday, and them singing to me and giving me a cake. And I'm looking at myself in the video and I'm like "uh wtf? Is that what I look like? I'm fucking ugly as hell."

But for some reason, I get attention from girls. I've had girls ask me for my number many times. I always said no out of social anxiety fear. I've been cat called by girls. I had a car full of girls drive donuts around me in a parking lot as I walked to work. Trying to get me to get in the car with them.

I've been approached by girls in bars and clubs. They come up and just start talking to me and touching me and flirting. I'm just a shy weirdo so obviously it goes nowhere.

I've gotten hugs from girls for no reason. Just asking me for hugs. Girls touching me and getting close to me.

At one point I started to wonder, "am I actually attractive or something?"

But no I dont think so. And I can't imagine what has caused all of these events for me with girls.

The only conclusion I can draw is that I'm 6'1. That's really all I have. I'm not thin, I have some muscle and even before that I was always athletic I suppose. But now I'm like, a fat with some muscle lol. Other guys will make comments that I must be strong and such. I have a big gut though.

I just can't figure out why girls seem to like me. Not like it matters. I'm too shy and weird anyways. But it's just such a strange thing.

[MCheetah]

Is being 6 feet tall a huge advantage to getting women? YES!

Society is fickle as sh*t and shallow as f*ck. People suck and they pretty much always have been. While the biggest requirement a man needs is ego (super, extremely high self-pride and a "love" for one's self, everyday), not being smol and weak is also required. Six feet tall/183 cm is often the bare minimum women will accept nowadays in a man. Anything less than that is seen as 'girl sized.'

This is how women think.

This is also how women think.

Men and women are both guaranteed shallow. But women are more shallow! Why? Because they can be. No one ever expects a lady to do the chasing and impressing and humiliation out there. While women aren't as visual of creatures as men are, they are the ones who get pregnant. Thus, are hard-wired to care more about things men don't need or want in a (female) partner, like "confidence" or a sense of humor. Men don't care about how big or strong a woman is (unless she can emasculate him), but women care about it as one of their three requirements in a man.

These three requirements are: HEIGHT (tallness), SOCIAL STATUS, & EGO (aka "confidence"). Part of being a "provider" for a woman is having Physical Security (height/size), Financial Security (social status), and Future Security (ego). This is the way it's always been, back where 20% of all women died from childbirth and men had to hunt down animals with their bare hands or possibly something sharp to throw. While ego is the big trait women demand and require from men, and while it is the only one you can really change (or fake) in a short amount of time, size/strength is up there as number two. Thus, most straight women on the planet reject manlets. :(

If you're under six foot, you better be a cocky MF'er if you don't want to die alone.

At the end of the day, women (not to be "sexist") are more selfish than men. Partly by society, partly by nature. Women want a provider; while men don't ever expect women to "provide" anything for a man other than sex, children, and if you're lucky, love.

Women don't have to have a guy be six foot eight to be with him (six foot minimum, if she actually is fine with your height, and "at least taller than her, if under six feet" if she's willing to overlook that shortness negative for other positive traits a man possesses). Women don't have to be with a multi-millionaire. And women don't have to be with the most arrogant jackass on the planet. But they DO want a tall and strong man (or "taller man" if you're less than six foot), a man who earns more money than her, and a man who has hide self-pride and ego.

There's ways to fake this. Talk a lot of sh*t, treat women badly, wear lifts, don't ever be in a room next to guys over six foot, bullsh*t your way through conversations and be a linguistic con-artist, etc. You can learn to be good with women, but sadly, you can't "learn" to be taller or more masculine. Short guys rarely get laid. Short guys rarely ever get a girlfriend. However, neither do homeless guys or modest guys. These are the rules of the game. Play them, or don't. Hell, it'd be alright if you walked away altogether and "go your own way" (though it's not suited for most men).

Women are just like jobs: most of them suck, but most of us devote one-third of our entire lives to them. But also just like jobs, you can decide they're "not for you" and be a social nomad. If you don't want to do that, then you got to play by the rules of the game women (and to a lesser extent, the non-birth giving men of the species) set up. Being big is a MAJOR advantage, but lacking ego is an instant dealbreaker, Game Over, "you lose, dipsh*t" move. If all else fails, get rich and go the Mark Zuckeberg route. Even *he* got a girl once the money started coming in.

TL;DR:
Yes, not being under six feet tall is a huge advantage and being less than six feet tall is a gigantic disadvantage, but ego is the end-all, be-all, and if you can't avoid being short, at least avoid being meek or insecure.

[Anonymous]

I’d say that guys like you worry way too much about how you look. Women are not like us. There’s so much more to their attraction than there is to ours. What they’re attracted to is also more varied, although there are patterns.

Whenever you want to figure out the nature of men and women you have to look way back into the past. We evolved to act the way we do. Our
life circumstances might have changed and we might alter our behaviour accordingly, but we still have a lot of old programming that never went away.

In the past when we were hunting wooley mammoths, fighting sabre-toothed tigers and shit like that, who was the most useful as a man? The pretty boy with the perfectly symmetrical face, the perfect tan and 6 pack abs? Or the big strong ugly motherfucker who could tear that guy limb from limb? The second guy. Or maybe the pretty boy would get killed anyway.

Some girls like the pretty boys. Others like the ones who look more rough. I’m guessing that’s how you look. I’m a big ugly motherfucker too, I attract those types. Those types of women tend to think that the pretty boys look gay.

You biggest problem here is just your lack of confidence because you think you have to be good looking. That’s the only reason guys give you shit.

You don’t even have to be “good” with women really. You don’t need to be super confident, smooth, an amazing conversationalist. I’m not good with women. I’m not good in social situations period. I’m introverted, perhaps even autistic. It doesn’t matter. I still got laid, still have a girlfriend.

Guys really put so much pressure on themselves needlessly, thinking that when they’re trying to get a girl there’s some special stuff they have to do. More guys talk themselves out of getting laid than talk themselves into getting laid. They’d do better if they’d shut the fuck up more.

One thing we have as men, particularly the more masculine looking types, is the “strong, silent type” archetype. Again, not attractive to all women but to some women it is. With those women if you’re not a big talker but you look strong and you have confident body language, and you can take the lead somewhat, that’s all you need.

[Asker]

I wouldn't say I'm worried about my looks. A life of being bullied has stricken me with social anxiety like you wouldn't believe.

But the attention from girls caused me to start wondering why.

But you make a good point. Maybe they think I'm just big and strong lol. That's fine. I like that. I like to be strong and I lift because I want to be able bodied when I'm old and decrepit. Defend myself from teenage hoodlums at age 90 lol.

Thanks your comment is much appreciated.

[Opinion Owner]

There was a time when I had crippling anxiety, when I was a teen. That's something which as man you have to work on. Women get a pass, we don't.

The way to get over anxiety is to push yourself out of your comfort zone and do things that scare the shit out of you. Take more risks. Feel the fear but do it anyway, and fail a few times. If you can do that and realise that you're not made of glass you'll begin to feel a lot more confident.

Guys would try to bully me at school, so I took up boxing and MMA. I went pro for a bit before I ended up in a bike crash and was too injured to fight anymore. I won and lost 50/50, but of course against well-trained guys.

I'd suggest taking up a combat sport or learning self-defence. When you're a trained fighter you're like a shark, and untrained guys are like land animals who can't swim. You know that if they come into the water you'll tear them to shreds, and that gives you confidence against guys who think that they can bully you. Once you get to that point your confidence increases massively and you find that nobody even wants to fuck with you anymore because they can tell from the way you carry yourself that you're not to be trifled with.

[Asker]

I'm already a trained fighter. I'm not scared of fighting.

I have social anxiety like you wouldn't believe. And PTSD from my childhood and militsry.

And I HAVE pushed myself. For the past 10 years I've been forcing myself to talk to people and be social and do all this bullshit.

It it never goes away. I can never just be comfortable around new people. I can never just be comfortable around random cute girls.

It's just impossible for me. And I've tried and tried and tried and every time I shake like a leaf and I can't be myself and I can't Express my true personality around girls.

[Asker]

And I really dont believe in any "men must do w/e." Well for random casual sex sure, you gotta do all that. But I'll never be that person.

I was married. I've had girlfriends before. I'm not an incel although I should be.

I just wait around i guess and hope some girl comes along who can see past my so ialanxiety. Because it really isn't going away.

I'm even in therapy as well.

I'm like a robot. I can socialize to some degree but it's like all scripted. Like I'm reading off a prompt orsomething. Anything that deviates from that and poof, my anxiety riddled body takes over.

10 years+ now of struggling and forcing myself to do all this shit. It's better in the sense that I can socialize like a robot. I'm starting to think maybe I'm autistic. and I will never be able to interact with people like a normal person.

[zagor]

I'm thinking you're making this up. So you're over 30, and guys routinely bring up in casual conversation that they doubt you can get any pussy? Where do you live, besides in your head?

[Asker]

How would I come up with that in my head? That doesn't make sense. I guess you're lucky that you've never been bullied in your life.

Just walking down the street I've been harassed by strangers I've never seen before. Commenting how I'm goofy looking and how I'm inadequate with women. Just because it doesn't happen to you doesn't mean it doesn't happen to me.

[zagor]

I've been bullied. I've seen others bullied. I've never seen anyone on the street told they can't get any pussy.

[Asker]

Well thanks now I know my life is so bad that people won't believe it when I talk about it. Damn.

[JessicaNeo]

I love tall boys. I think face doesn't matter but what counts more is your health, height, and overall personality

[Lone_wolf122]

We simply can't tell without seeing how you look

[Anonymous]

You sound like a butterface

[Anonymous]

yes, its a huge advantage, now stfu ugly