I have a naturally flirty personality. Is this off putting?

[Anonymous]

[SteveSmith1985]

I think it very much depends on the context.

So in general, no it wouldn't be off-putting unless it's just like over-the-top i guess. Everybody enjoys being flirted with. I feel like you are probably already are aware of this, so I would imagine you mean in the context:

Is it off-putting from the perspective of a guy who might be looking to date you or get into a relationship with you?

I can't necessarily claim to be speaking for guys broadly on this one. But for me, personally I would find it off-putting.

[CaptainOverthink]

Not offputting.
But it could be problematic for you.
Other people might not get that it's just your personality, that you are actually not hitting on them.
People that you're with, like partners. They might get jealous as you are flirty with others.

I have a flirty personality as well. Im struggling to stop taking responsability for other peoples feelings, as it sometimes hurts others when they realize I am just as flirty with others and they weren't special in that way.
But we have to be allowed to be ourselves. Can't suppress it if it's the only way to be relaxed and expressive. And at the same time we can't go around telling people left and right that we have flirty personalities, they'll just have to learn.

But if you have a SO maybe you should tell them you have a flirty personality, so they'll know not to read into it when you talk to regular people.

[Bubbles45]

I would say absolutely not, in fact I think you might be easier to become friends with if that's the case. Especially to boys...

[fonduegirl]

Unless you sleep with everyone you flirt with, you're all right.

[DevilFist1919]

This is kinda complicated: There's really conclusive, outlook to this,

Personally, I couldn't date a girl who's a natural flirt. It can attract unwanted conflict with other guys into our relationship. Whenever I'm committed to someone if another woman flirts with me I don't flirt back. In my case, flirting with anyone other than my SO is off the table.

But to sum up an answer:

Can it be off putting? There's no clear answer. If you're looking for a committed relationship, yes.

If you're looking for pure fun, with no strings attached, then by all means enjoy yourselves.

[EssenceOfLight]

Sometimes if there is no place and time for that.
My team coworker was always flirty and I didn't have problem with that, it was even funny sometimes. However if there was a dead line for a project and everyone was pissed because of over time and stress, her attitude was annoying and some people attacked her to release their stress on her.

[RedSauce]

Kinda, a lot of the time a naturally flirty person won’t draw an obvious line between what is genuine and what is innocent and as a result people can become very confused

[RCLJT]

Yes, very much so, any prospective date/mate will leave you standing alone if you run around flirting with all the other guys, I know, I did it, left $30 with the bartender to call her a cab when she got done being the social butterfly, got in my ride and left.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nah, I’m the same but it is not sexual flirting unless I want it to be.

There are a number of levels and ways to flirt.

a lot of people simply equate flirting with hitting on someone, however it’s not always like that.

[Angelo75]

oh yes.
It's nice when you flirt with the guy you are attracted to, and that you keep flirting with him.
But once you start flirting with others, you're actually giving something that should be only directed to your SO.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the person. I don't like flirts because flirting at it's very core is a deception.
And I don't like deceptive people. Say what you mean or get the f*** away from me.
Also this Is why i say lying Is ingrained in most women. They'll flirt with 30 guys and only choose one or two. They see nothing wrong with it as to them it's how they choose a guy. But these same women with guys that chose women the same way.

[HawkPerception]

It's only off putting if you're in a relationship and you're flirty with other men. If not, it's nice and fun to be around a flirty girl.

[TheSpaceGnome]

This

[HiveBee]

Now? No. To my past self? I would have had a heart attack around you.

That's what being shy did to me lol.

[kkirk4442]

It depends on how flirty you are, and how direct the flirting is. If it's too much flirting, or too direct, then it can be off putting.

[Leavesbound]

Not as long as you primarily target your romantic interest/significant other for most of your flirting.

[The_Maphio]

There are many like you. It's a rather standard kind of personality. Just learn to tone it down once you have a partner by your side.

[Sonorous]

Only if you don't know the best times when to turn it off/on. Depending on the circumstance of course.

[exitseven]

If we were dating and you were always getting flirty with lots of guys it would definitely be off putting. That is putting it mildly.

[WesBrewer]

Nope, being naturally flirty can be cute, or for an oblivious guy like me it might help out.

[JSmuve]

It's not off-putting but I'm sure you'll unintentionally lead guys on, though, which might cause jaded feelings.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yea, because either you'll come off as casual/easy or some people will you possibly trying to manipulate them.

[sheikalana]

No, unless you know when it's appropriate and when it's not.

[Browneye57]

Everybody flirts honey. Mature adults know what to act on.

[Laciandmaci]

I don't flirt

[DiscomfortZone]

Only to your current partner. So you might not ever have a real relationship, but hey, at least male strangers will give you cheap compliments! 🤠

[Hanrej]

To each their own.

For me, no it's not offputting. Quite the contrary. I've allways liked positive flirt Girls and women.

[Iron_Man]

Well I wouldn't want you doing it to everybody else only me if I knew you

[collie22]

might not be fare to flirt with everyone cause someone might get the wrong message

[Wise4myage]

It can be to a lot of guys and especially If they are insecure.

[Srij23]

I am struggling with same issue.. I go into lots of dates and somehow I get rejected reason being too casual 😂

[Twalli]

No, but bgg it may promise things that aren't happening

[fucallnighr]

No ma'am but be expecting that I'm going to flirt back😊😊

[apimpnamedslickback]

If you actually like a guy, he may not realize you actually like him if you flirt with all the other guys as well.

[Yourman555]

Some dudes may hate but those dudes are not for you.

[curator]

Not at all. You do what you like. I have that personality too haha

[Ironic_Method]

It is to me, yes. I'm sure some people like it.

[wankiam]

no. infact its the opposite as far as im concerned

[serious]

To some men yes it will be.

[spartan55]

If you are in a relationship with me, yes.

[Ripper_E]

No. I met a lot of women like that.

[MannMitAntworten]

Nope. At least, it isn’t for me.

[Wiredone]

Since I have the same personality no it's not.

[lucas262]

Only if im not allowed to b. s back

[Dinosaursandanime65]

You’ll probably give many False Hope.

[princeofromance]

No, It is a turn on if anything.

[Shy_Steve]

It can be around other Guys or in groups.

[nawtee_me]

not at all, I love a little flirting...

[fred_durst]

shy guys would love girl like you

[msc545]

No, its attractive and friendly

[Joshua0213]

No its not off putting

[NibirX]

It's good... not all people have...

[1stranger]

Nope lol😄😄

[JohnAdams0000]

No it’s awesome

[COMMODOREII]

Hell no!!

[JamieLoves]

No way.. I love it

[Mehzmeh]

Nope. Not at all

[vald9inches]

Love it! ❤️

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes.

[Rob17792]

yes..

[Luckycharms12]

Bit of both id say

[obtuseocelot]

No, not by itself.

[zdu609]

No, not at all.