What do I say to a girl when I cold approach?

[Anonymous]

[hahahmm]

One approach is: Give her a compliment that is something you truly believe & not a lie. If you can't give an honest compliment then don't bother going up to her. Decide whether this compliment will be about her looks or her skills/character. If it's about looks DO NOT get pervy/focused on details. Keep it simple and PG-13 like, "that outfit looks nice on you." If it's skills/character (example: acting/singing/how she helped find a lost animal or whatever) you mention that. Don't try to talk about multiple things... limit it to 1 thing. Keep it to 1 sentence. After she says thanks.. ask her what her name is and then tell her yours. IF you know she already knows your name & you know hers then skip that, of course. Start walking away. Now you haven't put any pressure on her but you've let her know you're into her. Next time you go up to her.. you figure out what to say and have more of a conversation.

Yeah, this requires you to happen to run into her more than once. If this is really a situation where you're unlikely to ever see her again... don't even bother. You need some kind of connection like she knows friends of friends. Usually there are connections even if you don't know it, when you're in school.

[hahahmm]

This is my advice for young teen level... when you get older things work differently.

[yoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyo]

Introduce yourself and ask her what kind of things she likes.


"Hey, my name's (name), do you like jokes?"

"Sure, what's your joke"

"(Corny pick up line)"

"(Response)"

"What's your name?"

"(Name)"

"Would you like to go do something later?"

"(Moment of truth)"

"(If says yes) Great! Here, put your number in my phone so I can call you to pick you up"

"(If says no) What? Ohh, okay, it's all good. Hey it was great meeting you, you have a beautiful day!"

"(If gives rude response) Give me my joke back then" lol


Its pretty innocent and simple man, you don't gotta worry about it.

Also read her body language you can kind of tell who in the room she's attracted to based on where she points her foot as she sits, or if she seems nonverbally coy. Lot of women are shy about when they like someone, so most will appreciate your confidence more than anything.

Good luck out there champ! Hope all goes well!

[SueShe]

Girls in general don't like to be "cold approached" because we know that this approach type means nothing good.

I presume that you are talking about the approach with the intention to flirt. Flirting, by definition means

"a sexual behavior involving spoken or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person".

Now, we all are fully aware what the term "deeper relation" means and what the consequences for the girls are.

I would recommend you tailor your approach in such a way as not to be so obvious and that you refrain from making jokes with double meaning or lewd conversation. This type of approach is not appreciated and will result in a rejection and possibly to have you labeled with something you don't like.

[Iron_Man]

Hey Sue. We just got our fireworks 45 minutes ago, we spent a lot of money on them and got some beautiful main event fireworks and at the end of it all we got 50% off We’re excited 😊😀 America’s 🇺🇸 birthday is coming up Big July 4th 👍

[SueShe]

@Iron_Man Did you get a discount from Ruben or Daniel? I had asked the manager and his deputy to give you a good price on your fireworks...

[Iron_Man]

Thank you so much sue you’re a darling. I always feel relaxed and Comfortable when talking to you instead of all these people on here with all this drama they bring to my private message

[SueShe]

@Iron_Man Don't let yourself be bothered by those comments. S**t happens and you should not pay too much attention to it otherwise you are going to make yourself miserable.

[Iron_Man]

Now I see why that you no longer talk to people in private message and didn’t want to get involved with people on websites. I guess I have an open soft heart I let people in. I’m kind to people And give people many chances

[SueShe]

@Iron_Man Yes, that is the difference between you and me. You are a good nature and I have grown suspicious of everyone and very cautious.

[Iron_Man]

Yes Indeed. I hope that one day in life that you’ll give somebody a chance though. You are a kind person to me and I appreciate that I’m glad that we get along 😊

[just_a_potato]

Before you even say anything make eye contact and smile at her (please don't make creepy I'm sure she wouldn't want to talk with you after a death stare or a joker smile lol) this makes her see you as friendly before you even speak. Greet her and ask her a question about herself, some thing that isn't too personal and that makes sense at that moment, for example "I heard the ____ is going on tomorrow, are you interested in them too?" Or "Do you always style your hair that way? It's gorgeous." Asking questions like that makes you seem curious about her without being too forward, she is less likely to tell you to fuck off. Also women love talking about themselves. That is all I have to say.

[RawIronhide]

That's a bad tactic I think but if you insist. Ya gatta get a phone number, sure you could use Snapchat or Facebook but this establishes a more personal form of contact. Next it's a plus to be funny but it has to be original. Thirdly learn to take rejection well sometimes it's not even about you.

[slatyb]

Where? If she's standing still at a social event you say something like "Hi nice shoes. I'm Anonymous" of you are praying hey on the street then you could just throw out a compliment but nothing sexual. Clothing is pretty safe. Most likely she will just keep walking but if she likes your look she may stop to chat. That's rare.

[FilmGuy93]

Just say "Hi." That whole cold approach thing doesn't work very well. When you approach a woman you want to get to know, just approach her like you would approach someone you didn't want to bang. Approaching her with an agenda in mind is going to be a total turn off.

[InferiorElegy]

Don't greet them, from what I was always told is girls don't like it when guys say Hi or hey or hello or any other greeting, you have to come up with something clever to say and forget stupid pick up lines or lines that make it sound like you're cat calling them.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It isn't what you say, it is how well you put her at ease when you say it. A small compliment from the heart that isn't rehearsed goes a long way though

[Tiptoetamm]

Be normal say hi how are you. Start a conversation with her then ask her on a date or for her number, I would like that

[Stevefiveo]

Good advice. Thank you.

[Tiptoetamm]

Your so welcome

[TheVoid777]

Be good looking and confident and anything you say will work.

[moviedude714]

That's why there's a huge dating advice or dating coach industry out there and it only seems to be growing or expanding

[KrakenAttackin]

If you are attractive you can say anything. If you are not attractive or average, good luck.

[Avicenna]

I assume this would be at school?

[Asker]

Yes at school

[Avicenna]

Just say hi and ask how she's doing then, then bring up something about school.

Do you know anything about her?

[Asker]

No I don’t

[Avicenna]

Where exactly at school do you plan on approaching her? Will she be with friends?

[In_Trance]

What would you want her to say to you?

[Willoughby23]

Cold approach is useless

[Rok4bakAR]

“Hi”

[OnTheLevel]

"Cute shoes"

[_Veer_]

Praise her