Ladies, if a guy is being bold/flirty, and he wants to come up to you and say "Hey, (blank)?

[TheBootyChest]

Obviously, he doesn't know your name yet.

What would be a good word to fill in that will let you know he
a) likes you,
b) is confident,
c) but isn't a player?

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1 y

I didn't clarify that the blank is a nickname like "sexy, good looking, cutie, or beautiful". Are those sexist or demeaning? What would you recommend?

[Airii]

If you're trying to not seem like a player, then giving her a nickname like that will definitely lead her to believe that you are one. It'll seem like you're just trying to get into her pants. Say something along the lines of: "Hey you" then comment about what she's doing (i. e., "what are you drinking? Looks very interesting" if you're at a bar). This is better than just saying what your name is and introducing yourself, everyone does that and it's boring, you first need to engage in conversation with them before proceeding with asking them out. You'll seem bolder than most guys

[TheBootyChest]

Thank you so much for that.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’ve played players in the past, in my wild single days. That’s fun.
So even if he’s a player, I wouldn’t worry much, since I always make sure it’s my game.

So, I always assume he really likes me, because why not?

For the confidence, I don’t always think he approaches me because he’s confident, I’ve had guys approach me and stutter or sweat and I found that very cute and even danced with them to make their day haha, I think it’s brave when he’s so nervous and still approaches you.

[Gene9]

Well, don't flirt to begin with. Say something nice, and just talk to her. Then perhaps ask her out on a date, and slowly start showing by your ACTIONS that you like her. Don't be flaky, call when you say you will and be respectful towards her. She will know you're not a player this way.

[TheBootyChest]

Is it possible to tell a lady that you think she is pretty right off the bat?

[Gene9]

Hmmmmm…. I mean yeah if you follow up with what I said earlier. We don’t push away guys if they show interest by flirting and complimenting, it’s just that we’re so used to players doing that and just “disappearing” after they get what they want. So there nothing wrong with flirting and so, but follow through with genuine interest afterwards

[TheBootyChest]

If you are used to so many players do you end up looking like you are not approachable in certain ways?

[Gene9]

Hmm, I haven’t been played by many. Just one guy who I genuinely fell in love with. And I fell hard. In order to figure him out I did tons and tons of research in dating psychology. And in the end he still broke my heart. He was the guy who approached me with a lot of interest and compliments , flirting right off the bat. So yeah, if another dude did that, I would be wary of him in ways where it would seem as if I wasn’t interested in him, even though I might be

[TheBootyChest]

Where is the line (for you) between flirting to show interest and the guy who shows he is interested by taking it slow and end up getting friendzoned?

[Gene9]

It’s kind of tricky. But try this:
1) approach her and talk. Simple conversation here and there.
2) next time perhaps notice something on her and compliment her BUT try to compliment something sweet like her smile or her skills or something like that
3) keep talking whenever you get the chance
4) then back off a little… seem a bit mysterious…she will respond to the lack of attention
5) she might get interested now that you’re not paying as much attention
6) give a little more attention
7) she’ll reciprocate
8) then show her how you truly feel (e. g as in you like her and would like to take it further with her)

[TheBootyChest]

I always fear a lack of attention on my part is cruel. That I am playing some game when its not the truth. Or that she will in turn not show me attention either and we drift apart.

[Gene9]

But you don’t HAVE to invest more if she isn’t showing you reciprocal interest in your investments? That’ll make you seem like a simp. You have to have this attitude “ I like you and I think you’re beautiful, but if you’re not interested, that’s fine. I won’t chase you endlessly because I’ll give my attention to someone worthy of it”

[TheBootyChest]

Thats the thing. I understand it can look bad but I want to show my interest all the time. So how do I show interest and be mysterious?

[EllaNella]

I think just a normal Hey or maybe Hey you is enough. Beautiful or cute are nice adjectives but personally i prefer not being overshowered with compliments. I don't like being called sexy by strangers at all because it instantly implies sexual thoughts.

[DizzyDesii]

“Hey, I’ve noticed you for some time now and finally worked up the courage to say Hi. I hope you’re having a good day so far?”

[TheBootyChest]

So don't use a name like sexy, cutie, or good looking?

[DizzyDesii]

No cause it makes him sound like all he cares about is the physical stuff

[TheBootyChest]

I was hoping to pay her compliment, be flirty, and start to get to know her.

[Flower7]

Any type of nickname could come off as sleazy or even give the vibe of cat-calling.

[Flower7]

Something along the lines of what @DizzyDesii said would be good. Or even just a simple “Hey, how are you doing?”

[TheBootyChest]

A lady friend of mine was trying to tell me to be more bold and flirty when I am talking to women I am interested in. So I am trying to figure out what to do.

@DizzyDesii

[erin_ireland]

Everytime I hear sexy, cutie, any other nickname in an opening sentence, I know he's a cheesy/shallow guy who wants to score and I pretend I'm busy to walk away. So no. Just no!

[1GoldTwins]

A is a given, B is how he portrays himself so he should be smiling and calm and polite, C is not something I can see at first glance.

[menina]

All of these nicknames aren't a good way of a approaching a woman. He should just say "hi" and then carry on the conversation.

[Nonamesbetter18]

How are you? And then just make up stuff to have small talk lol

[AssholeNumberOne]

You. Lmao