Do you crave your crushes attention /persona around you?

[Anonymous]

I dont think ill ever even see him again, but im. In this addiction mode that snooping on his fb is keeping me sane because every new comment i see i melt even more and i know its unhealthy but i can't seem to stop. Ie i do it more often after my mother has shown her to be truly nasty and causes me stress so i look at his page or something, kind of like for comfort. I miss him so much and I've completely fallen for him help

[teamvic]

You see the problem is although seeing his profile brings you comfort it also keeps you from moving on and you'll just be stuck in that constant loop wanting his attention

My suggestion is if you guys can't talk anymore for whatever reason then either block him or at the very least stop looking at his profile I have a crush also on my friend and I don't like to see her face or anything because then I start missing her. So I just choose to not see her as much as possible. It keeps me sane. I recommend you doing the dame

[Asker]

I've really tried to stop going on it and when im distracted and doing something else i don't think about him, i even used an old crush on Sunday to help and i kbow that won't go anywhere as he has a girlfriend. I haven't been near the city my latest crush is from much since how ublikely it is id see him again to get a chance to apologise I don't know. We both travel a lot aswell

[Asker]

We both grew up in the same place and i neve rmet him before we actually run in similar circlds i believe. I might ask around my cousins who lived near him if they know him

[Asker]

If i had more of a social life i would probably see him but i don't have any friends so its difficult

[teamvic]

Why ask if they know him if you guys can't be together

[Asker]

Because everything i see online makes him out to be a good person. The people who see him out and about or could know his social circle will have a better idea. I only knew him for 3 weeks

[teamvic]

If there's truly no way you guys can be together than you just need to unfollow him or something its not something you'll want to do but it will help you get over him

[Asker]

I don't follow him at all. I wouldn't have said there's truly absolutely no way because i don't even know if he knew i liked him or if he liked me. We never got to talk about it

[teamvic]

So you've never talked to him and he doesn't even know you exsist?

[Asker]

No he does we worked together but only really talked for 3 weeks

[teamvic]

Thenn add him and message him see how that goes

[Asker]

Yeh i did as i said there's no way to talk to him without coming across as creepy n everyone keeps telling me not to.

[teamvic]

How is it creepy if guys have to message women all the time on social media apps

[teamvic]

And even if it is creepy, and worst case scenario he doesn't like you well then there's your reason to move on

[Asker]

Cos as i said i did he didn't get in contact. But i blew up in person about something as i couldn't believe id found someone as perfect as him and he went off on me, but he was all over me for the 3 weeks we spoke so i was convinced he liked me

[teamvic]

So you have messaged him and how long ago was this and had he opened it?

[Asker]

I told a girl that started the same day as me. And she told someone else so im concerned he found out. But i don't know if its because of that or the thing i did cos i went away for one night

[Asker]

Didn't message him i added him. It was in October

[Asker]

I regret now not msging him because from. What i can tell he's not very good with words had i message something simple he may have responded i was too much too soon by adding him

[Asker]

I've no experience at all and id never added a guy ever online before. I confided in him n stuff so i thought we got on and hed got over the incident

[teamvic]

Girl I dont know what to tell you if you don't want to message him and you won't block him then what use am i

[Asker]

I know i keep getting mixed opinions. Im not like other girls i can't go by my looks. While i said he was all over me some peole say its not always flirting he may have just been having a laugh but to cut me off for one incident was too much to think hr didn't he only knew me for 3 weeks ffs

[Asker]

If u thought a girl didn't like u would u not contact them?

[teamvic]

If I thought they didn't, no I wouldn't but I also wouldn't keep going to their profile hoping there was a chance

Id move on

[Asker]

And if u got a message from them. Ud reply? /be shocked? Would u say having a go at u n turning a partial offer down not apologising was a sign someone doesn't like you? I didn't go and ask him myself about something hed offered i was too shy

[teamvic]

I would reply out of curiosity.