How do you know if someone is flirting with you or just being friendly?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Differentiating between flirting and friendliness can be challenging because it depends on the context, the individuals involved, and their personal styles of communication. However, there are some common signs that may indicate someone is flirting with you:

1. Body language: Flirting often involves subtle or not-so-subtle changes in body language. They may lean in closer to you, make prolonged eye contact, playfully touch your arm or shoulder, or mimic your gestures.

2. Playful teasing: Flirting often includes light-hearted teasing or playful banter. They may make jokes or lighthearted remarks to create a sense of rapport and connection.

3. Compliments: Frequent compliments, especially those of a more personal nature, can be a sign of flirting. If someone goes beyond generic compliments and pays particular attention to your appearance or qualities, they may be interested in you romantically.

4. Initiating contact: If someone goes out of their way to initiate contact with you, whether it's through text messages, calls, or social media, it could be a sign of their interest.

5. Sustained attention: Flirting often involves focused attention on the person they are interested in. If someone consistently seeks you out in group settings, actively listens to you, and remembers small details about your conversations, it could indicate romantic interest.

6. Playful or sexual innuendos: Flirting sometimes includes subtle or overt hints of sexual or romantic attraction. They may use double entendres or engage in playful, flirtatious banter that suggests a deeper level of interest.

It's important to remember that these signs are not definitive proof of someone's intentions. The best approach is to consider the overall context, observe their behavior consistently over time, and communicate openly with the person in question to gain a clearer understanding of their intentions. Additionally, cultural and individual differences can influence how people flirt, so it's crucial to be aware of these variations and remain open to honest communication.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

No idea honestly. Sometimes you just know and sometimes you just don't.

I have had this conversation with other guys, about woman. There is this one woman that comes into the office, and she is super nice. Like honestly almost too nice and it puts all of us off. We often ask is she really that nice or is she trying to take advantage of us.

I mean she will come in for work issue, which I resolve in the first 5 minutes, then hangs out for 40 minutes talking to me. Then leaves and comes back two days later with dounts... says they are for the office but she leaves them on my desk and stands there talking to me for 30 minutes, just light conversation... but not work related either.

she's like 15 years younger than me, but she knows I am single. So she comes back a week later, is all nice and sweet so i just ask her what is your status? She was like what do you mean, I said you come in here and talk to me for like 30 minutes at time, after I have more than taken care of your work purpose, so I am curious what is your status... are you dating, single, no ring so I assume you are not married.

Well, she left without answering and never came back. So was she really just that nice, or was she trying to flirt with me thinking I would more for her because she was young and hot, and brought donuts. I am 46 so it takes more than a smile and wink to get me worked up.

Emelina · Accepted Answer

Flirting- they engage in a conversation with you
They stick around and compliment things about you in a good way.
They get close enough that invades your circle distance but in a good way.
They look straight into your eyes and listen attentively to what you're saying without focusing anywhere else.
They give you a hug, and exchange phone numbers

Friendly - They engage in a conversation but keeps it to a minimum
They stay their distance, they don't come to to toooo close to you while talking.
They look around and don't stick around so long but if they do it's bc they have nothing else to do at the present moment.
They don't call you but talks to you whenever they see you. They don't chase you.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Flirting can involve an exchange of phone numbers or making a time to meet later/date. I'd say that's the bottom line. People FLIRT in the moment with intentions of doing something later, if possible.

People who are simply being friendly will chit-chat, then move on.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I find if a guy is seeking a relationship with you, he will try be funny in a non humorous way. Funny as in odd or curious, and not funny as in comedic or spontaneous.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Oh you’ll know. When a man gives you his full attention and oblivious to the rest of the world. He is flirting with you and wants to know you more

Avicenna · Answer

It’s something that is an art, not a science, but body language and the content of the conversation are usually the best clues.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well it kind of depends on who you are if you're looking for somebody then the odds are when somebody starts talking to you or teasing you or being a smart-ass with you in a fun way you might look at it as they're flirting with you but if you just casual relax not really looking that's probably when it's going to happen so I know I didn't answer your question LOL but there has been many times where people have thought I was flirting with him and I was just being me and then there's been many times where I was flirting and they just took it as casual talk so I guess it's hard to tell.
For me I can just feel it in the air I can fill it within

JamesMI616 · Answer

If he's paying attention to you he's probably flirting. If he's not flirting your interactions should be mechanical and neutral, almost transactional. Guys aren't in the business of putting time & energy into a female they don't want. There are exceptions for family etc, but guys aren't out here trying to start platonic relationships. We don't need or want more friends. So anytime he's doing more than the situation calls for it's a form of flirting or at least testing the waters. I'm not saying you should read into things that aren't there or to take anything out of context, I'm saying that if he's going out of his way to talk to you or be around you he probably likes you.

Fireguy17 · Answer

flirting usually has some physical contact to it. Not saying she will unzip your pants and hang on to Mr. Happy.
She touches your hand, arm simple things like that, and she might just get a bit closer to you, and her body language will be different, she leans into you while talking, touches her hair, face more often, when she crosses her legs the leg on top will point in your direction, her foot is closer to you and opposed to being further away from you.
She will tend to laugh a bit more.
When she walks away, she will probably turn back to look at you while she is leaving.
We have all seen it in movies, she is looking at you as she walks away and walks into a door, wall or someone else.
With being friendly there is usually no physical contact, and there will be a bit more distance between the two of you.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

I agree that if a man is paying you extra attention and not so much other women around the two of you, he is flirting. Length of eye contact, a non creepy smile, talking to you a lot,  tries getting into your personal space , usually less than arms length, telling jokes to get you laughing. Basically if he is breathing.

Cathy7734 · Answer

I have a guy friend, who is very handsome. He told me he is so frustrated with women. Women will smile at him, with a twinkle in her eye, and when he approaches her she freaks out, as if he is violating her. Although most women are this way, there are a few that welcome his approach. He is unable to differentiate.

Simslover92 · Answer

That's a hard one because most of the things you could do in flirting could also just be being extra friendly such as giving lots of compliments, teasing you a lot, showering you with attention, etc. It's really best to just ask and be straightforward in situations like that. Like do you like me like me or are you just being friendly? I know it's probably one of the hardest things to do, to be upfront but it's the best way to see if there is truly something there.

AaronH03 · Answer

in my opinion the differences between friendly and flirting, when it comes to guys is that flirting they will be much closer physically to you and reaching out to touch etc. I don’t mean that in like a forceful way, just mannerisms and maybe trying to touch your hand or even move a strand of hair out of your face etc.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think it comes down to what you discuss and body language.

If she's asking very personal questions and not about the weather, then she's likely feeling you out.

If she's in your personal space too, when there's a perfectly good seat on the other side of the table, then there's a higher probability she's into you.

razelove · Answer

Generally if and how they're touching you, if moving into more "romantic" things like holding their hand, kissing, moving somewhere more isolated or something is a go.

Everyone likes attention, so the line can get blurry between the two. If you do something distinctly romantic though, it can make that clear again depending on the reaction.

notmysundaybest · Answer

When someone's just being nice, they'll likely stick to small talk. But once someone starts flirting with you, they'll find ways to get to know you better and try to dig deeper into your likes and dislikes, your hobbies, and your point of view. They might also make prolonged eye contact with you. They will look deep into your eyes and will stare at you till you become slightly self-conscious.

sheenagwapa · Answer

I don't know unless i am aware that person has a crush but wanting to hold your hands i have a friend classmate before who ask me if we can hold hands and see if it fits that to me is obviously flirtinh. i didn't of course because i had a boyfriend. i'm loyal to my boyfriend regardless if he is around or not around 🤣🤣🤣🤣. i don't play when the mouse is not around

RavVid · Answer

Good question. If it is sustained then I would think so but it could be just patter. I might greet you as Beautiful or Bella and notice different jewelry or how you have done your hair today. But I might not be that serious.

On the other hand it probably does mean I like you more than the other girls.

Usernone · Answer

In my opinion, it is not the easiest thing to differentiate because everyone flirts in their own way.

People think I'm flirting with them, but I'm just having a good time! I laugh a lot, I touch peoples' shoulders, and I give a lot of eye contact. Plus, I'm nice.

However, when I'm actually flirt with people, I'm super awkward lol. I don't give a lot of eye contact, I'm nice but aloof, and I become anxious

BadApple69 · Answer

I would venture to say if a man is talking with you he is flirting. Men are basically lazy. We don’t go out of our way to talk to a girl we have zero interest in. So if we are striking up a conversation it’s to flirt. Men are not complicated.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly would like to know this as well. The guy I am crushing hard on always seems to target me in a group setting. Very clumsy around me and always finds ways to help me if I need help even though he shouldn’t. He did hint at me to go flying with him one time, without saying those words. Just the way he acts towards me and the way he acts around others are too different things.

Gopackers02 · Answer

I got that messed up recently lol this girl talked to me for 10 1/2 hours basically showing every sign that a girl likes a guy well according to online soooo lol but she saw me as just a friend. It’s a tough thing to tell because for most girls the only way to tell if they’re being flirty and not just nice is (I think) If they ask to hangout just you and her at one of your houses or going out somewhere. Anything to build a connection. That would be my thought of it

Biancam13 · Answer

Flirting usually involves some sort of physical contact. I don't tend to touch my friends more than necessary unless I'm seeing them as something more. OR if they are literally a brother-type who I know won't take it the wrong way.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I don't know, it’s hard sometimes.  I’ve thought a lot of people were just being friendly.. turned out they weren’t lol. If they’re grabbing you by your waist that’s a pretty big indicator.

slatyb · Answer

It can be a bit subtle, but mostly it's obvious to anyone out of high school. If someone repeatedly pays particular attention to you (twice is enough), then they are likely interested in a closer relationship.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Follow your instincts, listen to them.  Nobody taught us what flirt is, but we still know when it happens because it’s instinctively obvious.

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

If it’s a guy he’s flirting if it’s a girl she’s fishing for compliments and feeling out the situation

Kiss_Me · Answer

Does it really matter? Consider it practice and have fun with it. Worst-case scenario you have a little fun. Best case... you get a little better at flirting.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

The answer to this question would never be soothing. Best approach is the direct approach "Do you want to be my ride or die?" or the subtle "Show a few green lights and see if they bite"

Pyrofox · Answer

By how much time they invite you to take up of theirs. And even more so if they say you can come and go when you wish.

TrueConfection · Answer

It's hard to tell friendly from flirting. I can only guess if there's a long awkward stare at which point I slink away.

MrCommodore · Answer

It can be hard to know with women, so I usually assume they are just being friendly, if they persist I might explore ot more.

Billlewis · Answer

You don't really know, until you explore the situation further and ask him or her if they're attracted to you.

raeliminal · Answer

Usually if someone is flirting, they will make obvious hints like being very touchy, looking into your eyes for long periods of time or staring, and things like that. Just ask the person or try shooting your shot!

kellytheman · Answer

Mostly by body language and if there is a little touching involved or a lot laughing and smiling. Maybe give really sweet compliments or talking with funny light sexual talk. You also read thier eyes too like if they are looking at you up and down.

shades777 · Answer

seeing how being handsome makes women do stupid crap around me, i still dont know, sometimes their rude but they actually like me, sometimes their married and waste my time. seriously why are married women flirt when their off the market

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

I usually can pick up on that kind of thing, yes

asphaltrhymes · Answer

They choose to talk and talk and talk. 😁😁😁😀 Or they become even more direct, 😜😈

elizamichale1 · Answer

I think when they r flirty they would touch u more n would be saying little naughty n kinky things every now n then

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Their intention. I don't know how to explain it, I can always feel when they want more or do it out of the goodness of their heart.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Hard to know. Some people are natural flirts.

humanearth · Answer

I never could tell. The sure fire way I knew if they went to kiss me. Then I knew for sure

e232bm · Answer

I would try and read their mannerisms around you and how they act vs what they are saying.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Practice. You learn from experience if someone is being flirty or just friendly.

Bricealan · Answer

Well, search me... as I have always been very naive in that regard and have 'stupidly

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

I almost never do, unless she's very direct. So I just treat everything like casual conversation until proven otherwise.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I’ve gotten it wrong enough to just assume it’s just them being friendly.

zagor · Answer

These days, if they're very attractive and/or much younger than me, I figure they're being friendly.

John_Doesnt · Answer

You know they're flirting if they have a boner.

Massageman · Answer

Shoot. I'll take either one at this point in the game.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

You don't. You just have to guess and hope you guess right

TrillXHippy · Answer

I’ll know if a girl is flirting with me if she says I’m flirting with you. Not playing the guessing game

Anonymous · Answer

Id really say only the most could be told by the one who is there in the situation cuz it depends on so many things

Christoff92 · Answer

I would know because can tell how she response whenever would tall with her 🥰😊

mommymommymommy · Answer

You'll feel uncomfortable, but you'll be happy about it

boobliker · Answer

if you don't know and think they maybe flirting well ASK them!!!

LiamJHayden · Answer

I always assume it is just friendly unless it continues.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't... ever! You just take your best guess, hope you're right, and learn from experience.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

So many women are cock teases so it is hard to tell.

SunnyRS · Answer

I don't.  I am very bad at this.  Unless someone tells me straight I am not going to get it.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Tell me what happened and I'll tell you if he's flirting

krin_m · Answer

Some subtle verbal hints, affection touch...

Shiningtempest · Answer

@natanzuelo I already know if a woman is flirting with me, it's 100% certain it's a trap.

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