I don't like to talk, how do I make myself more approachable in a group?

[Anonymous]

I'm the best looking guy in the group, but I really don't like to talk.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

Why the hell don't you start to talk? Are you so weak minded that you can't do what you dislike when necessary?

If you do your best and people still refuse to interact with you, then they're not the right people for you.

On a side note, with the possibility of that being your cause, and there will definitely be someone else reading it, see if you have any breathing or chewing struggles going on which you forgot about, like fucked up tooth positions, it's possible that physical limitations make it difficult for you to talk and you think it's just your personality.

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[Drewtate]

Stop mastutbating

[HiveBee]

This makes me want to bust a nut off.

[jennifer_bloom]

Some girls don’t mind a guy who is quiet and does not talk, I used to know a guy who might have been 7 feet or even taller and his girlfriend was around 6 feet tall and very skinny, they were very happy together even though he was one of the quietest and shyest people I’ve ever seen at a church. Some girls don’t like a quiet guy, but many others don’t have an issue with it. Just keep looking until a compatible woman comes to you. Like I know guys who care about the body and not the face and I know guys who care about the face and not the body. If your a good person and open, there will always be second chances with new people.

[Amy10223]

Well, it's not how much you talk, but rather the quality of what you say in a group that counts. If you can stick to a subject, and add to it any clever story you have or any idea that stands out, or warrants attention, people will begin to ask questions and that will lead to more talk. Why is it that you are reluctant to talk, is it that you're shy? Or is it that you don't like to be on the receiving end of attention? I am like that; quieter than most in a conversation, but I follow along and add whenever I can. It the subject is one that I like, I'll be more vocal.

[Pinay_ako]

Open your mouth. Say something normal 😂like how’s it going, guys? What’s new? How was your weekend? Your being “good looking” alone won’t get you friends nor dates. You gotta be open to conversations. Speak up! Practice! Smile!

[Fuentes]

I think he's more interested in the guys in his group lol

[Monalisa77]

I do all of that ans noones really bothered about me

[Anonymous]

You have to practice conversation. I try to keep the small talk, small. I try to get into deep conversations, you can learn a lot about people's thoughts process and themselves. Try not to answer questions with closed-end answers. An example is;

Them: How you been?

You: Good.

This will get you nowhere. You want to try and say something more like;

Them: How you been?

You: Pretty good. Hey, you hear there's a grizzley bear reported in the area?

Them: What? A grizzley bear? Here?

You: HaHa. No, but what would you do if one came up right now?

This is just a complete random example. But notice how a better conversation involves asking questions. Interviewers/podcasts and people you see as charismatic, ask a lot of questions. The trick is to have them mostly talk, and you can think of the next thing you wanna say or ask.

[catarecute]

be yourself and if people dont like you let them f off. dont change for other people. i am the opposite i talk to much and people dont like me. i dont care. people judge others so much they never see their own defaults.

[Rei13]

Unfortunately you’re probably going to have to force yourself to initiate conversations and build that skill. It is great that you think you’re the best looking but that really doesn’t mean a whole lot if you won’t talk to people.

[Monalisa77]

Doesn't make a difference

[Monalisa77]

Doesn't matter what kind of personality you have, people can be friendly as punch in a group setting but then dont make the effort to keep in touch.

[WhitneySnow]

If you’re that hot girls should approach you. Just follow their lead. Unless you like a shy girl. Then you might have to make the first move.

[HiveBee]

Girls do approach and sometimes they will lead the way all the way to the bedroom.

This happened to me.

But also they will approach and expect you to know what to do.

Essentially they would walk up to me, and just look at me and say some sexual shit.

I was shy, and terrified of women at the time. So I would just freeze and they would walk away.

But now I know what is going on. Women will make themselves available to you and there's a spectrum.

But some girls are literally serving themselves up on a platter if you know to recognize it. She will wink or shake her ass or make a sexual comment loudly to her female friend. All you gotta do is grab her by the pussy like Trump said. It's what she wants.

It's what she's literally giving to you if you knew how to take it. Sometimes that's all it is. Just grab her by the arm lol. She's literally begging you to do it and you know it. But most guys will be afraid to do it. Afraid to do what she is telling him without words to do.

[mobiusforniner]

@HiveBee I question the quality of woman you associate with lol

[HiveBee]

@mpbiusforniner I think that the idea that only low quality women make themselves available is a massive lie that both men and women tell.

I don't associate wirh anyone. I would just go out to bars or clubs or be out at night on the streets.

I had a car full of girls do a donut around me and try to take me home with them.

Either men get jealous and claim the women are low quality, or the women get defensive because they don't want men to know that they do shit like that.

[mobiusforniner]

@HiveBee I get approached too, just not in the overly sexual ways you describe. Then again, you say bars and clubs, which, from my experience, isn't the place to find a lady. So case in point.

[HiveBee]

Finding a wife was never the point.

And you don't find a wife in one area or another. You find a wife by having values yourself and searching for those values in a woman.

If you can't define those values you will never find the right woman no matter where you look.

The ONLY reason I share my experience with women is to help whoever reads it. Because I was afraid of women most of my life and now I'm the opposite.

So I just tell the truth as best I can. It is what it is.

[annabananna]

You gonna have to try and open up a little bit. Even a smile and hi how are ya? I like your haircut. Something like that can make you more approachable.

[Monalisa77]

Nope it doesn't

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nobody's going to just walk up and start lusting after you if you can't close the deal. I don't like to get shot at but I did it for a living for years. I don't like to pay taxes for that matter. Doesn't matter.

[Monalisa77]

Im always friendly and very smiley, doesn't make a difference

[Anonymous]

Just stay away from groups
Faking a new personality would make you look weird
You just don't like to talk and that's how you are wired and nothing wrong in that

[KrakenAttackin]

If you are the best looking guy you don't have to talk.

[Wonderingguyy]

Start with smiling more and don’t take yourself too seriously

[Monalisa77]

I do this it makes no difference

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Don't. You can't force yourself to be something you aren't.

It will only come off as awkward.

[gxddess_]

Oh mister sometimes you have to get out of your comfort zone and socialize with other people.. or you get nothing at the end of the day.

[BadApple69]

Humor. Talking is one thing but everyone can crack jokes. Use humor.

[Anonymous]

You might want to get your inflated ego under control.

[Fuentes]

What @KrakenAttackin said also, it's kinda SuS tour comparing yourself to everyone in the group. You should already know this about yourself.

[Anonymous]

Just because someone is more attractive, it doesn’t make me want to approach them. I’m not gonna approach someone because of their appearance.
Maybe you’re full of yourself, so folks don’t wanna talk to someone like that

[HiveBee]

Whenever a man is attractive he gets accused of being full of themselves.

Maybe he's just confused and he feels like his attractiveness is a relevant factor.

I know it was for me. I thought I was hideous but I found out after 30 I was attractive.

Imagine me trying to ask a question about that. Trust me nobody ever helped me.

Only women are allowed to admit being attractive. You see it every day on this very site.

If a man says he is, some female replies just like you did every time.

[Anonymous]

You sound like me. I'm very good looking but not much of a talker.

[CrimsonAngel09]

If you're so confident in your looks, why hide Anonymously?

[Opinion Owner]

@CrimsonAngel09 Because I don't want random people online to know what I look like. Much like OP.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, I've noticed you go around spamming people especially other girls when they upload a picture of themselves lol. Don't project your own insecurities online with us. Just because you're not happy with the way you look, you don't need to bring your negativity over to us.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Keep it that way, people suck.

[Jmmmfi4]

You figure that out let me know