There’s a girl in my college class who I’ve recently noticed. I recently did a presentation in the class and she was really engaged with it and answered my questions when most people didn’t which I found nice but I didn’t pay too much attention to it because she’s usually very outspoken in class and very smart.
After my presentation she shared a piece of writing that went with my presentation and went back and answered one of my questions that the writing applied to.
Yesterday I was sitting by the door in class and she was approaching the classroom and was walking down the hall. I saw someone out of my peripheral and looked up and the girl and I made eye contact as she was walking in and then I looked away. She was kind of late so she sat near me ( not directly behind me but like diagonally behind me ). After the class was over the professor asked her a question as she was leaving and she stood right next to my seat to answer it and knelt down a little close to me which I found weird.
I don't know the class will be over for the semester soon and I’ve really came to terms with being bi and want to get to know her better. The only problem is that I’m femme and no one knows in gay. I’ve been told I’m straight passing.
Also I’m not sure if she’s gay. She gives a bi vibe also and can dress kinda masc sometimes but she’s a femme for the most part. How do I do this? Should I keep making eye contact and hope that works?
After my presentation she shared a piece of writing that went with my presentation and went back and answered one of my questions that the writing applied to.
Yesterday I was sitting by the door in class and she was approaching the classroom and was walking down the hall. I saw someone out of my peripheral and looked up and the girl and I made eye contact as she was walking in and then I looked away. She was kind of late so she sat near me ( not directly behind me but like diagonally behind me ). After the class was over the professor asked her a question as she was leaving and she stood right next to my seat to answer it and knelt down a little close to me which I found weird.
I don't know the class will be over for the semester soon and I’ve really came to terms with being bi and want to get to know her better. The only problem is that I’m femme and no one knows in gay. I’ve been told I’m straight passing.
Also I’m not sure if she’s gay. She gives a bi vibe also and can dress kinda masc sometimes but she’s a femme for the most part. How do I do this? Should I keep making eye contact and hope that works?
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Here are some thoughts on how to potentially gauge her interest and maybe get her to ask you out:
- Keep making friendly eye contact in class when you can. Smile at her if you make eye contact too, to be more inviting.
- Try sitting a little closer to where she usually sits one day, so you're within easy conversation range after class.
- Bring up something related to the last class discussion you had with her to break the ice. Keep it casual and lighthearted.
- Compliment her presentation or writing from before in a genuine way. Girls love it when you remember details about them.
- Might be cheeky to pass her a cute note too like "Thanks again for the discussion. Wanna grab coffee after next class?"
- Exchange Instagram or Snapchat if the convo goes well. Girls find confidence attractive.
- She may be shy too, so dropping hints you're into girls could help. Bring up a celebrity crush on a female actor or something.
- If none of those work to get a response, you may need to just go for asking her out straight up. "Wanna grab lunch and keep talking about class?"
Hope any of those ideas help get the convo started! Sometimes you just gotta put it out there especially if you're both shy. Good luck!
Maybe try flirting a little. Talking to her always helps too.
Talk to her. Tell her she’s beautiful and ask her if she’d like to go out with you. You might be in luck and start an amazing relationship together