So my sister and I have different dad’s. I’m the same age as her brother and he and I used to have a tiny crush on one another as a kid. The few times we lived together, we were there for eachother, crying at the traumatic sounds of having to hear our parents go at it sexually lmao. Anyways, the crush for sure died by time we got to high school (our parents were together when we were like 5 or 6). Well today, I get a knock at the door while I’m otp with bae. So i’m telling him to hold on but I didn’t mute him. I started out like “Who is it? Oh (my sisters brother) really? Wait I don’t have any clothes on give me a minute.” I mean i usually say that to anyone but I don’t think my dude was too happy to hear that. And then the entire convo was a lot of laughs and giggles and number exchanging (for my sisters sake). But yea I think I might have witnessed my dude get jealous for the first time but that was not my intention at all. The convo between the brother and lasted about 10 mins with my guy just sitting otp in the background. And yea, I don’t think the tone in his voice was frustration from having to hold on, but perhaps having to listen to us talk and sensing a bit of chemistry (but it wasn’t). I could literally hear the eyerolls through the phone. I might be a flirt, but not this time AND definitely not with my sister’s brother lmao. I’d never flirt in the face of the person I’m with like that. Anyways, thats my situation and I had to do a lot of awkward explaining after because I realize it might have looked bad. Whats yours if there is one? #FeelFreeToList
My take: So your step brother has feelings for you so he bothered to go to your house to exchange numbers instead of simply having his sister text you his contact info. You like the ego stroke of knowing he has feelings. You also like rubbing other dude's in your boyfriend's face... since as you say you HAVE flirted with others. Or another -- and the usual way I look at it - is that you're still on the market and flirting is a way for you to tell other guys you're available IF they're better than your boyfriend. Of course your boyfriend is feeling like the relationship is unstable.
I don't flirt at all. I learned when I was in my 20s how even "harmless" flirting just to be sociable could always turn into something I didn't intend if the woman took it too far and 99% of the time they did. Hell, I almost got attacked by husbands and boyfriends too. NOT because of the flirt.. but because I rejected her when she tried to get the snake & then she lied to her man about me assaulting her. So I learned not to go there unless I truly and completely wanted something beyond the flirt. Just saying - I guess all of this is very different for women. But from a man's POV there's risks for sure.
Oh, and then there's my own relationship. I'm married now. It's not worth it to me to risk my marriage for anybody. And before I was married I was the loyal type. Flirting goes against being loyal. It's a form of cheating in my view. I suppose if the girlfriend is being really hostile/practically acting single that's different. It's not like you're married so at that point things could be grey. But I never got into that situation because I would just either try to fix the relationship or dump her... and not stay in the grey area.
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I've never unintentionally flirted with another girl in front of my partner. I'm pretty socially aware of my own actions. I would also never intentionally flirt with another girl, even behind my partner's back, no matter how attractive I found them. There's tons of super attractive girls in the world. If everyone was to flirt with someone because they came by a super attractive person, there wouldn't be any committed relationships in the world. The thing that matters most is your bond to your partner, the experiences you make together and the history you have. They're the one you're supposed to sail through life with.
Not exactly, but I'll share something that happened along those lines.
My husband had a group of friends visiting us from overseas. One of the guys and I were chatting it up while the entire group of us were sitting at a table. He and I were laughing and sharing (I don't even remember what about).
So, in the middle of this conversation, I looked at another couple and they were staring at us with their mouths practically hanging open.
I immediately realized we appeared to be hitting things off too well. The guy was interesting to talk to, but I was not romantically interested in him. I don't think he was flirting or romantically interested in me either, but I treaded lightly after that so not to give anyone the wrong impression.
I never forgot the look on those faces.
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Good he got some back bone! 🦴
All men need to feel jealous remind them that your theirs and your not free!
You need Thier attention love and for them to be a man! 😍
Last week made my hubby jealous joking with my work wife! 😜🤣
He teased me right back and after claimed me passionatly!
Not sure if race had anything about it more he hear you having a great time!
Really I'd have ended it feels rude leaving them listening.
Maybe you just need to have someone interested in you for the 3 special words
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I don't flirt. I suck at it. So on the odd occasion when my wife has asked me what I was thinking the answer is always "thinking? Me?"
And any guy who's so threatened by another man holding the door for you needs a reality check. Chivalry has nothing to do with wanting to "do" the girl. It's a code of being that forms part of a Real Man's character - not just his personality. It's about being a genuine Man and a man with absolute integrity. Most people don't get it.I unintentionally flirt with most people. It's just my personality. Even when I'm not flirting it comes off like I am. My boyfriend isn't jealous at all about it. He's far too confident for that. He knows he has zero to worry about. He's got it locked up and he knows it. No amount of flirting would change his outlook.
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nope, I am not a flirt... lol
I've not been called out by a girlfriend... but others, sometimes... have mentioned that I should not be "that much" of myself sometimes, because it can be seen as flirting or something else lol
I'm just being myself... which is usually "nice or fun" or you know, if someone has the interest to interact with you, well I get interested back but I don't see that as straight flirting lol Nah, I hardly flirt while I'm single, let alone in front of any partner.. Only time I can think of is when I told a girl that I loved her hair while I was on a date.. But I don't know if she cared.. And I don't think that could have been taken as flirting..
there has not been a time like that yet lol.
i think i would try even not to unintentionally flirt in front of a partner i hate troblem & not one for people bitching i like peace & quiet.
i would not worry about it its not something you planed on doing life can be a funny ride.
i'm sure deep down your guy knows it was harmless some people just like to make a scene.
Since men aren't approached often or at all they assume one little smile and one hello as being flirty. When all it is, is being polite. This is why I am not nice to men in public generally. Unless he's a man with an education, excellent career, wealthy then I will smile and say hello politely. at least if he takes my gesture as flirting he's worth while.
You left him hanging 10 minutes while you chatted with your brother. Very rude, and one of my pet peeves. Just say you'll call me back in a few minutes. Easy.
Competition always needs to be felt I think. Keeps the umph in the humph. I notice fairly often girls flirting in front of their dude. And works out better for em.
Frequently :) It's my way to deal with social situations :D
My exes never had a problem with that. We always had boundaries, and they knew I wouldn't break their trust.Not that I'm aware of.
Well, if there's no chemistry between you two, he doesn't have to worry.
Wait a minute. Why did you leave your bae otp, while talking to your sister's bro?Nah whenever I am in a relationship I usually become pretty cold towards other women outside of basic politeness and such.
I could never.
He would slap me into next month.Yes, but I flirt all the time unintentionally 😬🤭. I got into a tiny bit of trouble, but I'm good at explaining 😅
Not actually...
At club i know guys try to flirt with her in front of me I told them try hard bro if she flirt you back then she is yours...
I keep it simple no drama.Would you be mad if your man beat someone up that was trying to flirt with you while y’all was on a date?
My wife knows I flirt with other women. She says it's fine as long as that is all it is. Neither one of us are the jealous type.
I can't even intentionally flirt. Let alone un-intentionally lol
I don’t intentionally flirt with other girls when I’m with a girl and, to my knowledge, have never unintentionally flirted with another girl.
No never... when I was younger my girlfriends at those times would get jealous if I just said " hello" but not now.
Yes, but my husband knows what I am like.
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