How do you hit on a gym crush?

[magicturtle]

Hello everybody, I wanted to ask you guys. I like a girl at my gym, how do I start a conversation with her and eventually make her go out with me?

[Xoxocutekitty]

1. First make sure she's not wearing a ring.

2. Try to catch her at the water cooler or front desk as she's signing in or out (that's a pretty neutral place to meet). Honestly in those moments it's pretty easy to try and make eye contact, and say a bunch of little benign things like:

"Hey, I've seen you around a bunch. Whats your routine?"
"I like your water bottle"
"Were you by any chance here last Tuesday?"
"My sister has the same leggings, they're from Lulu right?"

3. Only if she's looking really confused (not looking at her phone between sets), offer to help her change the machine settings or whatever. Bonus points if you can casually slide in how much you rep, and then what (I presume) would be a much better starter weight for her. It'll automatically make you more attractive unless her ex was an athlete and lifted heavier.

4. Also a risk (don't try If you're not at least average looking): If she's clearly trying to take a gym thirst trap but is looking stupid/taking too long, offer to help. It might go to another dude, but it could be a way to break the ice, get on the roster.

[Anonymous]

Maybe stare in her direction constantly…?

I don’t know. I wouldn’t want to befriend or talk to anyone in the gym. The gym where I’m gasping for air and struggle with workouts and running and squatting and shit. It’s why I wear headphones 🎧 and shades 🕶️, and ignore everyone.

I wish there was a female-only gym. I do stare at some studs in there. But I’m not trying to smash anyone where I constantly go. A place where “ I NEED TO GO “ to better myself.

If she dresses like stripper then just talk to her. If not then no.

[Opinion Owner]

And I hope you look like a Stud Chad yourself. Otherwise you’ll look stupid af 🤨

[molonski2]

Many many relationships start at the gym , its pretty simple start with general conversation about gym related topics , if she is doing some free weights or the like make sure you are spotting her , ask her her goals , try and get a vibe and see how its feeling , if all is feeling positive ask her to something sporty , walking , running , waterfalls , nature , compliment her on her progress , you are young assuming she's single she is going to go for it.

If you get it to the point above , its basically all over , you have her , so start with the main topic you have in common , gym work , fitness , and extend to diet. Good luck man , you shouldn't have a problem.

[AviatorTom]

Use eye contact while you two are working out in the same area of the gym, compliment her on whatever she's doing, and ask her if she'd like to go out for coffee after the workout.

Hint: Make sure she's not wearing a ring on her finger. 😎

[Elliegirl]

Say hi when you see here there and see if she responds. Do this every time. I would interpret this as a simple, “I recognize you. We’re here at the same time a lot.” Have casual conversations with her as you work out and try to gauge if there’s any interest or flirting. If not, keep it casual as we both work out here at the same time so things don’t get weird. If there’s flirting and interest, pay attention to what she says. Like if she says she likes sushi, maybe say something like, “There’s this sushi place I heard about that sounds good. I’m gonna go try it. Wanna come along and check it out with me?” Then you’ve either got a date or she says no and you go anyway and tell her about it next time you see and and it’s not weird.

[MattyIce_IceBaby]

Pretty good advice there, Ellie! Very helpful.

[warsevf]

You tell me young brother, we gotta stick together, I just talked to her and blabbered some unrelated stuff, before that she got her friends to go for a run, So I tagged along like a creepo.

I am looking for a subtle quick getaway from aftermath awkwardness, I just can't pin her down. Her friends are always chirping with her. Guess I will try the "Jumping from cliff" question quickly asking her in parking lot like this.

Plan A:

"Are you seeing someone" -> Answer "Yes" -> "Sorry, I just wanted to clear things off my chest"

Answer "No" -> "Do you think we can go out sometime" -> see above for answer no

[Kiss_Me]

"Flipping the script" is a fun and charming way to start a conversation.

Ex: "If I reach for that dumb-bell you are not going to beat me up and steal my lunch money? What is your name by the way?" Then GO AWAY for about 15 to 20 minutes. When you return, you can flirt and ask her out.

[Rami_NL]

Start low, not flirty. Talk about circumstancial stuff like equipment, exercises, etc... and see her reaction. If you catch the right signals you try to get closer to her and invite them somewhere.

[lightbulb27]

Since poster has no skills yet, best advice. Id add… talk to 50 other women ecerywhere else and to 10 men at the gym first before talking to her. If you cannot hold a good demeanor talkimg to others she will shoot yoi to pieces on two seconds flat and you are done forever w her and ruined her gym experience.

[Basement-Bum]

Wear a fake bulge whenever you're around her, maybe the type that can inflate and deflate at the push of a button. While also pretending to try to hide it. She'll be the one throwing herself at you once she sees how large it is.

[Basement-Bum]

I really like @emyywolf's advice about needing to look like a stud chad first and foremost.

[Basement-Bum]

Did she disable mentions? @emyywolf

[all_hayl]

Lol. “Make” her go out with you. Frankly, sounds like you’re too immature to be dating anyone.

[hellothere90]

Leave her alone. I go to the gym to workout and not be bothered. I don't want men approaching me at the gym.

[Rami_NL]

Terrible advice that would followed just by losers. Also women can have crushes sonit might be reciprocal, trying doesn't hurt. But as a woman you safely have to sit you ass somewhere snd wait for an approach so of course you talk like that

[hellothere90]

@Rami_NL Do yo even go to the gym? Most people don't approach each other for dates. People are there to workout.

[Rami_NL]

Yes I go to the gym, and indeed I don't approach women but if I had a crush I would try

[TommyMountainFigure]

You don't.

Talk to her if you can without any ulterior motive, but not to hit on her. Most women just want to go to the gym to work out.

[Iron_Man]

Work out in her area smile start a conversation even a little bit here and there is good until she gets to know you

[dustybiker2]

Give it a try in the parking lot. Otherwise I wouldn't. Never know the response you would get in a gym.

[GoGetitGio]

I just got a date with my gym crush tomorrow a lunch date she’s hit too we’re both soccer players. She’s short, blonde hair, dark eyes, fit amazing legs and butt! Like toned in shape!! But she’s got small boobs like tiny but she’s hot

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'd rather not. Sweaty women, gym insecure. No thanks ♀️♀️ dating 😕 lol

[FuqUFggt]

Let her lift more weight then me and pretend she is strong.

[Cole_Davontie]

i think that it's not an good idea gym is an place to get you workout done and not to hit on people.

[JacobJordan]

Don't. Especially if she has a camera

[dustybiker2]

A camera? At the gym?

[JacobJordan]

@dustybiker2 very common from modern women nowadays. They were very revealing clothes go to the gym with a camera and then record the guy and themself while calling the guy a perv, creep etc. Gyms are starting to ban cameras, women or both

[dustybiker2]

I've heard men are just as likely to film in locker rooms. So woman in gyms and men in locker rooms. What is up with people these days? lol

[JacobJordan]

@dustybiker2 at a guess I would have to say social media bares a good portion of blame. Ultimately though failed parenting. Zero discipline zero accountability or responsibility leads to ego driven disrespectful adults that think they can get away with anything because mom and dad said they were special

[dustybiker2]

I do agree.

[Anonymous]

"would you like to go somewhere and exercise"

[Floda]

dont be ugly maybe?

[KejKej]

You don't know that he is ugly

[Anonymous]

Don't