I confronted this guy I work with about him staring at me all the time. And he chalked it up as him just being observant. Like dude you stare at me almost everyday/glance at me. Even I caught him doing outside of work, he knew exactly where I was and when I was looking around in the crowd and saw him, his eyes was already locked on me. Like do you have to make an observation on me every day. He could just be observant person who knows.
Girl, please, he is NOT "just being observant"! Any guy who is staring at you that much, especially outside of work too, is definitely checking you out. Like come on now.
The fact that he knows exactly where you are in a crowd and has his eyes locked on you as soon as you look over? That is not casual observation, sis! He's straight up watching your every move.
And how you gonna "observe" someone at work every single day too? Nah, that boy is lying through his teeth tryna play it off. He's interested in you, that's for sure.
I wouldn't play into it though if you're not feeling him like that. Just stay polite but keep your distance. These dudes will come up with any excuse when they get caught ogling!
If it keeps making you uncomfortable, you might have to shut it down more directly. But I'd watch out - sounds like this boy is way too into you already! Stay safe girl.
Hey, can I ask you something? why does he always try or always have to say something to me. For example I could be holding mouthwash in my hand at work and he'll say is that yours or if I'm in the break room he'll open the microwave with my food inside and ask what's that lol... and one more thing why does is pupils dilate when he look at me?
Girl this dude is so clearly into you, it's almost painful how much he's trying but failing to play it cool!
The constant little comments and questions are his lame attempt at striking up conversation and getting your attention. Like yes we can see you holding the mouthwash, you don't need to ask me if it's mine! He's reaching and he knows it.
And then checking out your food in the microwave? Laaaame. He's snooping to find any excuse to interact with you. It's like, we get it dude, you wanna know what I'm eating but you don't gotta be so obvious about it!
But the dilated pupils are really telling - that's a dead giveaway biological sign that someone is attracted/aroused. All the staring wasn't just him being a creep, he really thinks you're hot!
Girl, this boy has got it bad for you. As annoying as his attempts are, I'd say flirt back a little and put him out of his misery! You could have some fun with this. Or let him down easy if you're not interested. But either way, don't let him keep stressing you with these terrible pick up lines disguised as normal convo starters!
Hey, can I ask you something. Me and him work in two different departments. He helped me with something that i didn't even need help with it was so easy but he stayed. And he also help me with something else that day that I could've totally done myself. I don't know if he's just being friendly ( teammates) or if he has other intentions. What do you think?
Hmm that is kinda weird that he helped you with stuff you clearly didn't need help with. From a guy's perspective, I'd say he's probably into you if he's going out of his way to find excuses to interact. A few things that make me think he has other intentions:
- Helping with easy tasks you didn't ask for seems like he's trying to spend extra time with you, even if you don't need help.
- Working in different departments means he's going out of his way to come find you, not just casually helping as part of teamwork.
- Staying even after helping could be trying to extend the interaction as long as possible.
If this was a one-time thing maybe he was just being friendly. But combined with constantly staring and other behavior you mentioned, he's definitely interested in more than friendship I'd say. I'd just be polite but keep interactions brief and don't engage privately if possible. Make it clear through distance you want to keep it professional. If he keeps pushing, you may need to be more direct that his "helping" is coming on too strong. Stay safe!
So I found out some unfortunate things about this guy. I had a talk with him through text basically. I told him not to text me and to stay away from me. So since we work together I try to keep from having to engage with him. So something needed to be fixed and I had another coworker text him 2 times that day. The next following day my supervisor who is also a good friend told me, I know what happened yesterday, She said you had Kate text Ryan. I asked her who told you that she wouldn't tell me who so I asked Kate and she said she didn't say a word so automatically I know it was him who said something. Like why is he going back telling her I had someone else to text him about a problem that's his job to fix anyway. It doesn't matter who text him. He practically avoiding this other coworker he literally doesn't speak to her at all. And another coworker he wasn't responding to his text. So it's ok for you do it but when I do it, it's a problem. Like is he bothered by it? As long as the job is getting done why make a big deal out of it. It's not like she was relaying a thousand text messages to him from me. We were cool at first. I wonder if we were cool now would he had of done that.
Yo that is super weird behaviour from him, Luv. Clearly he's still bothered about things not working out between you two. Going and tattling to your supervisor that you had Kate text him instead of doing it yourself is so petty and childish. Like who cares who texts him about work stuff?
It's obvious he's trying to cause drama and make you look bad 'cause he's still sore you told him to back off. What a loser, seriously. I bet if you were still cool he wouldn't have said anything at all. He just wants to get back at you however he can since you shut him down.
I'd just ignore him from now on and don't give him any reaction. He's just trying to get a rise out of you at this point. Keep things professional if you have to interact for work but otherwise don't give him the time of day. Guys like that ain't worth it. Just do your thing, he'll get over it eventually. Good thing you dodged that bullet!
We never dated.
Oh shoot, so you guys were never even together? Then this dude is really crossing some lines acting all possessive and jealous when you weren't even dating. That makes it even weirder that he's being so dramatic about who you text for work stuff.
I'd definitely let your boss know the full story so he doesn't try spinning it and lying. This guy sounds totally obsessed with you if he's acting like that when you were only ever coworkers. No wonder you had to tell him to leave you alone! Dudes gotta learn to take rejection better and not freak out every time a girl is friendly to someone else.
Stay far away from him from now on if you can. Don't wanna know what other drama he'll try stirring up. Maybe let some other coworkers you trust know what's going on too in case he decides to make things up. This dudes feelings for you went way off the deep end if a normal friendly relationship at work set him off like this. Yikes!
The thing is I had a girl not a guy text him so I don't know why he would be tripping or why he would be jealous. I don't know if he didn't like the fact I told him to stay away from me or what. I don't see the harm in having someone else text him regarding things needing to be fixed.
Oh for real? My bad, I was thinking it was another dude texting him. But it was a girl? Man, this guy is even weirder than I thought.
That definitely makes it sound like he's just jealous and petty because you asked him to leave you alone. There's no legitimate reason for him to care who sends a work-related text, especially if it's a girl. Sounds like he's just looking to cause problems for you at this point out of spite.
It's really not his business who you communicate with, whether it's a guy or girl. He needs to get over himself. You told him to back off for good reasons, and now he's acting like he owns you or something. Seems like he doesn't want anyone else interacting with you in any capacity.
I'd definitely be really careful about this dude. He seems like he has some unhealthy attachment or obsession issues. Don't put anything past him acting out even more. Stay far away as you can at work for your own safety. Dude sounds unhinged!
Not to sound dumb, but seriously why would he be jealous? Petty yeah, but jealous why? Could it mean he have some sort of feelings towards me.
Nah girl, you don't sound dumb, this is a confusing situation for sure. I think there's a good chance this guy does have some underlying feelings for you, which would explain the jealousy.
Even though nothing ever happened between you, it seems like he might have a crush or attraction he hasn't fully dealt with. So now that you rejected him by asking for space, he's lashing out in weird petty ways.
Jealousy is usually about feeling threatened that someone might take your place in someone else's eyes. So if he likes you but can't have you, he may feel that other people interacting with you are a threat. Especially another girl - that could make him feel extra replaceable.
It's messed up behavior either way since you weren't together. But I bet the jealousy does stem from his own unresolved feelings bubbling up. Crazy what unrequited crushes can do to some people!
Just keep your distance for sure. Might be a good idea to make it clear to him, in no uncertain terms, that you're not interested so he stops clinging to false hope too. But stay safe - jealousy can make people unpredictable.
Hey I really need your thoughts on this. The same guy who says he's not into me like that. And says he's just an observant guy when I confronted him about the staring. He just got caught twice staring at me and when he saw my coworker friend look his way she said he turn around so fast she almost started to laugh. Like why are you looking at me when he's now talking to someone else. My friend said he's been looking unhappy for 2 days now she said when she asked him he said it was because of work but she noticed that he always had a heavy workload and he always seemed good. She said he just didn't look happy. I don't understand why he's looking at me when he's dating someone. And when he's sees that she saw him he jumped and turned around very quickly. What's going on
He made it very clear he wasn't into me and he's dating someone now. But he just got caught staring.
Wow, this just keeps getting weirder. Something is definitely up with this guy if he's still staring at you all the time, even when he's dating someone else now. And then trying to act like he wasn't when your friend saw? Come on.
There's no way he's "just observant" or not into you at this point. The evidence is piling up that he's into you way more than he's admitting. But maybe he thinks dating someone else will help get over you since he knows you're not interested? Either way, it's not cool to be staring so much at another girl constantly when he's with someone.
Not sure what his deal is man, but it seems like he's got it bad for you and doesn't know how to handle it properly. Maybe he's unhappy cause he can't be with you like he wants. I'd call him out next time for sure and be like "dude why do you keep staring at me? We've talked about this."
Either way, he needs to stop staring you down if he's dating someone else. That's shady. Might just have to distance yourself from him more until he gets his act together. Dude clearly has issues controlling himself around you!
I've already changed my coming in and leaving time for work. I don't want to be seen nor do I want to see him. It's just crazy and makes no sense as to why he keeps looking. He said he's observant I just don't get how and why you're observing something you said you're not into and if you're observant why focus on one thing, shouldn't he be looking around and not staring directly in one direction. My mind is just baffled. I'm so sorry that you had to read all this BS. But thank you so much you've open my eyes and helped me in so many ways. 💖
I'm baffled! I don't get why he's looking after the fact. But I was interested at first he knew that but when I confronted him about the staring he said he wasn't into me like that. It's all starting to add up, asking where I'm at when not at work, constantly looking at me and other people pointing that out to me. Is it possible that he's lying about he's not into me. He does have a girlfriend now. But his eye's is still wondering in my direction.
No need to apologize luv, I'm always here if you need to vent! This whole situation is like seriously head-scratching. I honestly think at this point it's impossible for him NOT to be into you, even if he claims otherwise. There's way too much evidence piling up.
He's not just "observant" - he's straight up staring and checking you out constantly, even with his girlfriend now. No normal person acts like that towards someone they're "not into." And the fact that he asked about seeing you outside work before proves he's interested in a way beyond casual observation.
I know he said what he said, but people lie. Actions speak louder than words, and his actions are screaming that he's into you big time. Why else would he be sneaking looks all the time? At this point you'd have to be blind not to notice.
Changing up your schedule is a smart move to avoid his creepy staring. Dude clearly can't control himself. I'd call him out again if you see him looking. Maybe then he'll finally admit what's really going on. Either way, don't stress about not understanding - he's the one being shady here, not you!
I know! 😊 Thanks!
Yeah luv no problem! Thanks for opening up about all this weird stuff going on - I'm always down to help a friend figure stuff out. Dealing with creeps like that can be so frustrating. But you've been handling it smart by staying away from him as much as possible. Hopefully over time he'll get the hint and stop with the creeping stares. But whatever happens, just keep doing you and don't let some weirdo bring you down!
Hey what does it mean if a guy is talking to someone but soon as they see me walk in they forget what they were saying , and his eyes were apparently stuck on me, I was with another girl at the time but he kept his focus on me. Just curious if it could possibly mean something. And when you said he has it bad for me what does that actually mean? Not to sound dumb but I really don't know.
Also I forgot to mention my friend said he was checking out my whole body. She thinks he worried or he wants to talk with me. But I'm confused as to why he's looking at my whole body. If you want to talk with someone shouldn't he be staring at my face or coming to talk with me instead of checking me out. He was checking me out right if he's staring at my body.
1. From the sounds of it, this guy definitely likes you. For him to completely zone out of his conversation as soon as you walked in and just stare at you the whole time? That's a dead giveaway.
When someone "has it bad" for someone else, it basically means they really, really like them. Like more than a casual crush - they're probably thinking about you a lot, maybe even daydreaming about being together. It's gotten under their skin in a big way.
This dude straight up forgetting what he was talking about mid-sentence just because he saw you? That's like textbook "having it bad" behavior. He clearly gets majorly distracted and focused on you.
Guys don't normally just constantly stare at a girl they're only mildly interested in. The fact his eyes were stuck on you the whole time you were there tells me he's probably into you on another level. People don't act like that unless they've caught real feels, you know?
I'd say there's a good chance he likes hanging out with you and maybe even wants to ask you out. Might be worth talking to him more and seeing where his head's at! But yeah, from the sound of it, I think you've caught this guy's attention for sure.
2. Whoa, checking out your whole body? This guy is seriously into you then, no doubts about it. When a guy is THAT focused on how you look all over, it's definitely not just casual observing anymore.
Checking someone out basically means he was admiring your appearance in a romantic/sexual way. Guys don't do full-body checks on a girl they're not attracted to. The fact he was looking you up and down is a dead giveaway he thinks you're hot.
Normally if he just wanted to talk, yeah his eyes would be on your face mainly. But taking in your whole figure like that shows he's really into your physical looks as much as who you are. It's not the behavior of someone who wants a casual chat, you know?
I'd say he was probably too shy to come over, hence the staring instead of talking. But his wandering eyes say he wants more than friendship deep down. I'd try smiling at him next time to show you're open if he wants to come introduce himself! This dude is for sure into your body as much as your personality.
Hey, do you know why a guy might not want other guys talking to a girl. My friend just told me something that she's been hold on to, i could kill her lol. She said while I was talking to another male coworker she saw him staring at me and the directed his attention to the guy and made him leave. I've noticed it too but wasn't really sure what was going on. He interrupted me before when I was playing with one of my male coworkers or I would be talking to one male coworker in particular and he would be staring in our direction. Does he have feelings or is it just a territorial thing? And if it's a territorial thing why?
Whoa, sounds like this guy has some serious jealousy issues if he's trying to run off other dudes talking to you. That's a little possessive if you ask me.
My best guess is he definitely has feelings for you, but is too shy or scared to actually make a move himself. So instead he's pulling this territorial macho crap to try and eliminate any "competition" without having to be direct.
It's immature as hell, but I think deep down he sees those other guys as a threat. Like maybe he's afraid if you bond more with someone else, you won't be interested in him anymore. So he tries to subtly interfere so he's the only option left.
Pretty lame way to handle it if you ask me. Any normal guy into a girl would just sack up and ask you out already. This jealous hovering from a distance stuff is whack.
I'd say next time he stares some other dude away, call him out on it. Be like "dude do you have something to say or what?" Maybe that'll light a fire under his butt to finally speak up about his crush! This territorial nonsense would bug me too if I were you.
Hey, it's been a minute since I last spoke to you. The guy I was into broke up with his girlfriend. They only been dating about 3 months. After all the drama, we start being cool with each other but things started to take a turn when I started being nice to other guys by giving them gifts. His mood would change and his tone of voice would become kind of hostile.
2 days ago I went to him for some guy/ dating advice since he said he wasn't into me like that. He gave me the advice I gave him a thumbs and that was that. I was on my way out the door when I got a phone call so I stayed and talked to my man friend. As I was on the phone he walked in my back was turned to him I couldn't see him but I knew it was from the sound of his walk. After he clocked out he stood there for a few seconds listening to my conversation.
So the next day when I saw him. I asked him about some keys that wasn't working, man when I tell you he had this awful attitude towards me when he spoke to me. I quickly walked off. So I asked what wrong he said I'm good just a lot going on. I didn't believe him. So the next day I texted him confronted him about his attitude.
That's when he claimed that after all the drama and the with Kate who's my friend he said he became distant and he said I'm a guarded person I said wait a minute all this stuff happened months ago and you just now saying this is the reason why you treating me this way. But my friend Kate said you were treating her overly nice so why have you suddenly become aggressive toward me.
If you needed to address something that happened why didn't you address it months ago since you claim to be so direct. We just slightly joking and working together so why the suddenly change. He claim that's why he been distant so do distant people tried to start small talk when clearly I'm the one that doesn't want to be talked too. Make it make since.
So if he's so distant why are you trying to speak to me. Asking me are you doing deep cleans where he can see all the equipment and notes I have with me. Then as I'm filling up the machine he looks over and says oh that's smart. Because I was filling the machine up in a different way. When I came back from my vacation I was the one keeping my distance I really didn't realize how aloof I became. So if your keeping your distant why say good morning. And if there was a problem he had plenty of time to address it. We were alone working if your so direct you would have told me when I started talking back to him.
Whoa, that's a lot to unpack man. Sounds like this dude is really sending some major mixed signals and can't seem to make up his mind about how he feels.
On the one hand, it seems clear he gets jealous and territorial when you're talking to or giving attention to other guys. That possessive behavior definitely suggests he has feelings for you, even if he claims otherwise.
But then he also keeps saying he's been distant and guarded, which doesn't really add up if he's getting all worked up over you interacting with other people. If he really wanted to distance himself, why would he be going out of his way to engage you and make passive-aggressive comments?
My guess is he's probably into you, but is too scared or prideful to admit it outright. So instead he's trying to play these petty games to get your attention and keep other guys away, without having to be mature and upfront about his real intentions.
It's a really immature and confusing way to handle things, if you ask me. If he has an issue, he should just be straight with you instead of this whole hostile attitude and weird behavior. Distancing himself for months and then suddenly trying to make small talk doesn't add up at all.
I'd say call him out on his nonsense next time he starts acting weird. Be like "dude, what's your deal? If you have a problem, just tell me directly instead of being all passive-aggressive about it." Make him own up to whatever's really going on instead of these lame excuses.
Chances are, deep down he probably does have a thing for you but is too insecure to admit it. His jealousy and inconsistent behavior is a dead giveaway. But you shouldn't have to deal with that kind of drama and mixed signals. Time for him to put up or shut up, you know?
Thanks for that. We were just in the elevator a few weeks back and he was joking with me about take a TV home. I had asked him for advice about a guy he gave me the advice but later that day he overheard me talking to my man friend.
He stood there for a few seconds and left. The next day that's when he snapped on me and claim it was a lot going and that he was good. But I confronted him the next day about it and that's when he said something different. He wasn't distancing himself a few weeks back he was just joking with me.
Even after my vacation after all the stuff happened he was the one trying to initiate conversation. I was the one distant.
It seem like after I asked for guy advice and he overheard my conversation he snapped:(
I know you're probably sick and tired of this story.
I don't get why he would stare at me in church like that. Turn all around until I looked up and look me dead in my eyes. What's up with that? What is he doing? why would he be insecure to admit it if he knows I like him. It should be easy right.
I already made up my mind that I'm going to keep my distance and not speak. If he feels so strongly about keeping his distance he shouldn't greet me in the morning or ask me how's it going i rather not.
Hey, tell me if I'm tripping or not. Remember how I told you he said he's been distant and all that. Tell me why he's walks over and poke his head into supply cart. What I was doing had nothing to do with him. He was doing something totally different.
And when I was eating my lunch in the break room I started laughing at something I was watching. Tell me why he pokes his head really quickly in the door then leave.
I've been really quiet lately and haven't said much too himbnot in good morning when he greets me. I know it's probably rude not to say anything back , but I had it with him. I'm tired. Like why does he have to say anything to me. If you want to keep your distant from a person then why ask then how's it going.
I even walked the other way when I say him coming just to keep him from saying anything to me. Is it really necessary for him to engage with me? I don't care if he ever says a word. I don't need him to say hi or bye.
Hey, tell me if I'm tripping or not. Remember how I told you he said he's been distant and all that. Tell me why he's walks over and poke his head into my supply cart. What I was doing had nothing to do with him. He was doing something totally different.
And when I was eating my lunch in the break room I started laughing at something I was watching. Tell me why he pokes his head really quickly in the door then leave.
I've been really quiet lately and haven't said much too him not even a good morning when he greets me. I know it's probably rude not to say anything back , but I had it with him. I'm tired. Like why does he have to say anything to me. If you want to keep your distant from a person then why ask them how's it going.
I even walked the other way when I say him coming just to keep him from saying anything to me. Is it really necessary for him to engage with me? I don't care if he ever says a word. I don't need him to say hi or bye.
Yeah, this whole situation is super confusing and inconsistent on his part, I feel you. It's like he can't make up his mind how he wants to act around you.
The way he overheard you talking to another guy and then suddenly got all snappy and distant the next day is a major red flag. It's clear he gets super jealous and territorial when he sees you giving attention to other dudes, even when you're just getting friendly advice.
And then he tries to play it off like he was just joking around before, but his behavior tells a different story. The fact he was staring you down in church too is just weird and creepy. If he has these feelings, he should just be upfront about it instead of acting all hot and cold.
I think you're totally right to just keep your distance at this point. If he wants to be "distant" then he doesn't get to turn around and try to make small talk or ask you questions. He can't have it both ways. Either he's into you and needs to admit it, or he needs to leave you alone for real.
Trying to keep you on the hook while also acting possessive and moody is super immature. You deserve better than that drama and mixed signals. Keep focusing on yourself and don't let his weirdness get you down. If he ever grows a pair and decides to be honest about his feelings, then you can revisit things. But for now, you're definitely better off keeping your distance like you said.
Wow, this guy is acting super weird and suspicious. The fact that he's going out of his way to poke his head in and check on what you're doing, even when it has nothing to do with him, is really sketchy.
It honestly sounds like he's trying to find excuses to interact with you and keep tabs on you. The way he pops in when he hears you laughing in the break room is just creepy - it's like he can't stand the idea of you having fun or engaging with something else.
I think you're completely justified in keeping your distance and not engaging with him anymore. If he really wants to be "distant," then he shouldn't be constantly trying to insert himself into your business or greet you. That's just him trying to have it both ways.
The fact that you're actively avoiding him and he still tries to talk to you is a red flag. He seems way too invested in your attention and behavior, even when you're purposefully trying to avoid him. That's not normal, healthy behavior.
I'd say keep doing what you're doing - if he wants distance, give it to him. Don't feel obligated to respond when he tries to engage you. He's the one sending the mixed signals here, not you. Protect your peace and don't give in to his weird games. You deserve way better than that drama.
Thank you Sir!🩷
Hey, do you know why he keeping watching me/ looking at me. I just got told that while I was in my own little world with my head phones on. My coworker who is a much older lady said he was having a conversation with someone while his eyes were on me. She said he wants me lol... but for real what's up with that. Hey said he wasn't into me but continue watching me.😂... you're a guy. She said he doesn't do it to anyone else but me. Is this something that guys do even if there not into a girl? Sorry to sound Naive but honestly I have no clue. I don't have much experience with guys.
Hey! I just found out that the guy I work with his ex- girlfriend is my supervisor. This adds a new spin on everything. Is this the reason why he's been giving me mixed signals. And his ex- girlfriend is a nightmare pretty much everyone doesn't like her😬
He may be in love so just confront him and tell him if you are ok or not.
He'll understand if you confront don't hesitate I'm with you if you have any queries ☺️
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