Why would he be super flirty but then just stare at me?

[Anonymous]

A few months back a guy I see around seemed to show some interest in me. He’s really funny and I would smile and laugh at him, and he would grin at me, when he saw me smiling and flirt a little but then he just started to ignore me.

Then the other day when I saw him walking towards me, I was in a really good mood so I gave him a big, warm smile and looked away and he just sort of coughed and frowned as he passed me. Five minutes later, I run into him again, but this time he’s looking right at me, locking eyes with me, staring quite intensely with this cheeky, sexy smile. He’s super cute so I’m grinning from ear to ear and holding his gaze for as long as I can, and we say Hi as we pass.

Over a week goes by and then I see him again, but this time he’s staring at me from a distance with a confused kind of frown and he walks away. To be fair he is at work, so obviously he has other priorities, other than to flirt with me which I do appreciate.

But he did seem to be interested and I’m not sure if he was just having fun because I seemed into him? Or if there’s something I can do to get his attention without seeming too desperate?

[Anonymous]

Because he probably doesn’t want anything “more” from the flirting and engages out of conveniency. Then if you get too close or seem to cross that simple fun boundary, he puts you back in your place with ‘just being friendly’ mannerisms that demand you back off. I could get into how this is a tale as old as time in the workplace, but you probably already know that. Men being flirty or even touchy with a woman at work but never progressing; whether it’s because they already have a woman at home, don’t want to mix work with pleasure, or even being flat out noncommittal, these are scenarios we have heard time and time again about men at work. Some days he’s more energetic about it, some days less, some days not at all, but at the end of the day it is just for funsies for him at this point and for you to decide if you wanna keep with these little exchanges. Just remember his actions show no more will come from it.

[Asker]

I did wonder if he was just playing. It’s all men seem to want to do with me, think I’m giving up on it he whole dating scene - ignore them all!

Thanks for your reply, it’s really helpful.

[Nikki1989]

He is either socially awkward or a bit of a creep.