Being called pretty but no one likes me?

[crowsvalor]

I'm quite insecure, I don't think im pretty. But I've had a lot of people call me really pretty (all ages and even a few guys), but no one has done anything. I'm not in a rush to get someone, but if I'm perceived as pretty or somewhat pretty, how come there hasn't been any guys talking to me (again I can't fathom the idea of someone liking me).

[ohsheeT]

. Well you're going to learn in life sometimes just because you think something doesn't mean you're right.

In life is going to be a lot of people that like you and just not show you..

And in life you're always going to have people judging you 24 hours a day..

And then all reality you need to love yourself you need to like yourself and not worry about what other people think or say or do.

Because when the moment is right everything will come together.

So you need to be happy you need to be yourself you need to love yourself and shine so you're prepared for that day.

When you know all the above in your heart you will shine you a glow and people will be attracted to you and one day you'll have eye contact with somebody and that's when Life starts all over again but if you're worried about it or stressed about it it will show on your face and everything you do..

And that will kind of hold you back a little bit so just be confident and be smart be happy smile because it does all work out.

And if it's not working out fast enough for you then you go looking for what you want

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Hi again, hopeless romantic, I remember ! lol

Guys are as clueless as you, in this age range, just like you, they think a lot of things but don't know how to act or behave adequately with what their desires. Its not against you, its just how things are, at this age. Also, if you are really perceived super pretty, then you will intimidate guys, unintentionally, because they will falsely consider that they cannot approach because you are too pretty. Its a bit silly, but again, its just how things are.

[hanabunny]

I was the same way for most of my life and have barely just started feeling more confident 😅 it takes a lot of time to accept who you are and for the right guy to come along, in fact there may have been guys who already liked you that you brushed off as “just being nice” and stuff like that

[DishLady]

Folks don't like insecure clingy type people, regardless of how pretty they are. No one has time anymore to coddle broken people. My advice would be to get therapy to figure out how to build your self confidence and stop depending on the opinions of others to build your self esteem.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

While I relate with these harsh statemtens, for an adult... She is just 16, its normal state for this age lol

[DishLady]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Perhaps. I was the same at 16 as I am now. Very driven and sure of myself, which is why I had the guy friends that I had back then... and why I went into a profession that required solid nerves.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I understand, my bestie features the traits you talk about, and she featured them at 16 already, I remember. But then its an entirely different personality than the asker I think, really, really different

[Avicenna]

Having recently been a high school teacher, my impression is that people your age often don't know how to approach others they find attractive. You're all going through big life changes and dealing with lots of things in life. Try starting a convo with guys at school you find interesting.

[BetaBucks]

Maybe you aren't very pretty, but people are being nice. Maybe you're absolutely beautiful and guys are intimidated. Maybe you have a cold personality so guys don't feel like they can ask you on a date. Maybe guys have been trying, but you're rejecting them and you don't realize it or don't care because you see them as low value and not worthy of you. Does any of this seem likely?

Also, you have to remember how young you are and how much time you have in life. There's nothing to rush into with relationships.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Being pretty and being liked are two different things. I’ve worked with so absolutely gorgeous women and some of them I fucking hated. Their personality was beyond idiotic. Case in point Britney Spears is very attractive. However she’s dumb as post. There’s nothing upstairs that can sustain a long term relationship.
Think of it this way, the packaging of a product is great for attracting the eye, but if the product is stupid and doesn’t work then I doubt you’re going to buy it again.
So love yourself, educate yourself, expand yourself and be yourself. Remember what judge Judy always say, “beauty fade, but dumb is forever”

[Breanna_nonbinary]

If you’d like to talk more feel free to DM me. 🙂

[ChiTown33]

You're young and they're young. Give it time! I promise you some of the fellas will. Just concern yourself right now with being approachable. That's half the battle. And be certain when the guy does approach you that he genuinely like you for you.

[crowsvalor]

Thanks for the kind words and reassurance! I definitely will try working on my confidence and being more approachable

[thearchjoker]

Men are blunt, if their calling you pretty you are pretty. Men and Women have different beauty standards and aren't always good at knowing what looks good or bad to the opposite sex. Once you accept that your pretty you will have a much easier time with men because men like confident girls who know their worth. That does not mean assertive it means confident.

Being unconfident makes you less valuable, less attractive, and less worth their time. They'd much rather pursue a girl who can take a compliment without doubting the compliment thus negating its worth. Fight you're insecurity and you will see how things get better.

[RebelinSteel]

How we think about ourselves often mirrors outwards to others. Also is it insecurity or just being shy?
As we get older mature, experience new things we can gain some level of confidence from it.

[crowsvalor]

That actually makes a lot of sense, and it's really insecurity if I do think about it.

[RebelinSteel]

@crowsvalor who can you talk to about it with, parents, siblings, friends, ?
It’s really a case of sort of not caring what others think, we all have things we are insecure about or concern us.

[crowsvalor]

Hmm. Really just a select few friends, my parents always dismiss this type of conversation and both of my siblings are quite young.

Yes totally, I think myself, I'm personal hyper aware and over analyze/think too hard.

[RebelinSteel]

It’s a case of trying to turn down that volume, to tune out and stop over analysing. I am very self judgmental with everything and mark myself down.

[Fireguy17]

While others see you visually as pretty, your insecurities tend to drive them away.
It's not uncommon that you see someone that is so hot that you start drooling, but once you actually meet them the thrill is gone.
Their personality just stops you dead in your tracks.
It happens.
Hopefully as you get older you will grow out of your insecurities, if not it might not be the worst idea to seek out some professional help, or this is your life.

[Zeropopular]

You have to understand that everyone has flaws which are unique and those make. us the individuals we are and thus are what matter most and why we are different.. Be a positive energy minded force of nature to reckon with... because you want to be someone worthwhile

[FreyaRed]

"... pretty... pretty... pretty... pretty..."
Looking good doesn't need any effort if you have been born with proper DNA. Being likable by a group of people needs a lot of effort and time investment. That's why measuring your attractiveness on hand of you popularity is pointless.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Have you ever made the first move towards the guy you like?

[crowsvalor]

Yes, several times before!

[Ms_Facesitter]

Phew good! That's usually something that gets overlooked, they never ask the guy out themselves. Same with men, some just do not approach and that's their issue, not yours. They might be shy, think they're going to get rejected or they think you're already taken.
Being pretty is one thing, but look at what a guy likes personality wise, what not just guys like, but people in general. Personality traits that are admired. Strive to be who you want to be and you'll inspire and attract likeminded people.

[bobalife]

Your worth isn’t determined by the perception of others but your own, hope you’re more gentle with yourself ❤️

[rosemilk]

why not you do something? don't wait for a guy to come talk to you. go up and talk to them. this can go both ways.

another thing, being insecure isn't always an attribute people like. that could be another thing holding you back.

[DrPepper12]

Get rid of the insecurities, buy in to what you're being told and keep marketing yourself and be willing to be vulnerable. You're gonna be surprised!!

[samantha_17777]

Because people intimidated by highly attractive person as they think that they are already in relationship.

[Berethor]

In some places in the world age of consent is 18, also start talking is not easy for all guys.

[kellytheman]

People are calling you pretty but they might sense that you don’t think you are and it might turn them off. You can be pretty but if you have no confidence, low self esteem, and insecure how you look they might not want to talk with you.

[BLP11520]

Be patient, be selective don’t be friendly with negative or destructive people. Alone periods happen to many of us

[Wise4myage]

All you need to do is work on your self confidence.

[Surferboi_02]

You are pretty but I guess some guys are to nervous to make a move

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe they’re too shy to talk to you. A lot of guys get shy around girls they like.

[WomanSource]

People call me pretty. I got curves and a pretty face, but what I realized Is that when I talk it seems very out of pocket (in the funny ways with my friends) however Evan though I just joke a lot, it makes me loose hoes.

[Juxtapose]

Well guys your age are not going to be that bright and also older guys can't message you because you are too young.

[Cheerfull009]

The picture shows , you are not pretty, I can't see you pretty unless I don't see your real picture, may b people don't consider you pretty and don't talk to you

[jahaims]

It takes more than being pretty

[crowsvalor]

I definitely agree, I'm a nice person and according to many others a good role model for school and sports, and I'm nice to everyone unless they've harmed me or friends in the past (in which I don't act rude back, I'm still nice, however cautious).

[Rockey_the_bicker]

Don't worry...
You are overthinking

[Iron_Man]

Your only a kid so far

[Twalli]

You're 16 for starters.