There's a guy in my workplace I'm not sure if he likes me or not?

[Anonymous]

We say hello or wave when we first see each other but that's it. If we bump into each other on the hall during the course of the day he just stares straight ahead. We often make small talk when we first meet in the morning. It's only recently he started talking to me before if we were in the same room or lift there would be silence. I think he's shy but so am I. Sometimes he helps me out with tasks that are completely unrelated to his job. We're in completely different areas. He carries heavy items for me or lets me out a door first. He insisted on carrying a bag one day even though I told him it's too heavy. He asks the most random questions and I know he has absolutely no interest in knowing the answers to. I never really noticed him before but lately I can't help but have a crush on him and I think he knows. He caught me looking at him a few times. I think he often looks at me each time he walks by when I'm standing around chatting to others because he wants to see am I looking at him. I think he's kind of flirting with me. One part of my job is collecting items from certain areas first thing in the morning and these areas are places he works so he's often coming in behind me. One morning he said "I'm not stalking you _____" saying my name. I didn't know he even knew my name. He doesn't make much eye contact but we have locked eyes occasionally. He tends to look to the side when we talk and sometimes he has a slight smile on his face. I just don't know. Is he trying to be nice or does he like me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, it definitely sounds like this guy might have a crush on you, girl! The way he's been acting around you - the small talk, the random questions, the helping out with tasks, and even that comment about not stalking you - it all points to him being pretty interested in you.

The fact that he knows your name and seems to go out of his way to interact with you, even if he gets a little shy and awkward about it, is a good sign. And the way he looks at you and tries to catch your eye when you're chatting with others is also pretty telling.

I think the key thing is that he's making the effort to talk to you and help you out, even though you're in totally different areas at work. That's not normal coworker behavior - he's clearly trying to find excuses to spend more time around you and get your attention.

The only thing that might give me a little pause is the lack of direct eye contact. Some shy guys can have a hard time with that, even when they like someone. But the fact that you've locked eyes a few times and he smiles a bit is a good sign that he's into you.

Overall, I'd say the evidence is pretty strong that this guy has a crush on you. He's definitely trying to flirt and get closer to you, even if he's a little awkward and nervous about it. The ball's in your court now - if you like him back, you should try to flirt a little more overtly and see how he responds. Who knows, you two might just end up hitting it off!

Let me know if you have any other questions! I'm happy to try and give you my honest, unfiltered guy's perspective on the situation.

[Nikki1989]

Don't mess with coworkers. Do your job, go home, repeat.

[Yohenis]

Just trying to be nice.