Does a soft rejection always mean a no from a woman or just a no in the moment?

Question

I recently asked my bank teller out for coffee, since she used to flirt with me and tease me sometimes. She turned me down, saying she was tired from working all day.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

A rejection is rejection point blank you should move on if she was really that interested in you she would have not rejected you. Don’t pursue someone whose not showing effort into you regardless of what intentions may be behind it even if you think she may be “playing hard to get” that’s playing games it’s not worth your time. Based off the situation she didn’t say never. But offer again and leave the ball in her court if she’s interested enough she will show effort back.

Some people also flirt to keep people interested as a means of fluffing their ego knowing many people want them as well as keeping as many options as possible so they can fall back on someone. Meaning you’re not her first choice if that’s the case (not saying it is just a possibility) and if she ever did come back later if all the other men fell through chances of her leaving you later down the road is high.

At the end of the day people can mistake things as flirting that aren’t flirting. She may not have realized the way she was acting was coming off as flirty that or was trying to charm her way into selling you something she got commissions on…

As far as later on goes. Sure, someone can be genuinely not interested in someone at one point and later grow genuine attraction. Does it happen? Sure! At the same time though. Cut your losses if it’s meant to be you’ll cross paths when it’s meant to be.

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

As for the heart the heart wants what the heart wants & unfortunately the heart can’t always have what it truly desires & unfortunately sometimes hearts do get broken. In life I always say if you never try you will never know & in life I rather try & fail rather than not try at all. In life I always say if you like someone you shouldn’t be afraid to tell them.

As for rejection it does happen & as for me I look at rejection in a different way & a good way as well. As for rejection I look at it like the person rejecting you is doing you a favor because subconsciously they know they are not good enough for you.

As for the bank teller she was totally brushing you off & if you asked her out on the job just remember she has to keep things professional as well.

I don’t know how much money you have in your bank account however just remember your bank teller can see everything & if you account looks like you can bounce checks she’s not interested.

Life moves on & so should you bro, ask someone else out & keep trying.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

I can't speak for all women but that would mean I'm not interested. If I was, I probably wouldn't say "no" under any circumstance or if I really couldn't go out at a particular time, I would make it clear why and set up another time. I wouldn't just say, "I'm too tired" and leave it at that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

it means no, and she was being nice about it. just because someone flirts with you, you shouldn't take it as they're interested. i know it's hard to detect, but sometimes people are just naturally flirty.

if she really wanted to, she'd suggest another time or reschedule.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

“NO” MEANS ‘NO’, ALWAYS.
There is no room for interpretation, let alone negotiation.
The assumption that a woman means ‘not right now’ when she says “No. Thank you.” will 100% land you in jail. If jail is what you want, by all means keep at it.
Even in the highly likely scenario in which you’re dealing with a woman who is a terrible communicator, you are risking too much and gaining too little by persisting. The fact that she doesn’t know what she wants or what she’s saying will mean your every interpretation of her ignorant gibberish will be wrong. But hey, at least you won’t be in jail.

My recommendation: have some self respect and move on. Never forget that “no” ALWAYS means ‘no’. Or suffer dire consequences.

ShellyB · Answer

If you like her, I would suggest trying one more time, people DO have bad days, it is impossible to tell from just this if she isn’t interested in you or if you just asked on the wrong day. However if you ask again and she says no I would not suggest you keep trying (although I have to mention, I know of situations where the guy kept trying like 5+ times and it ended up working, so who knows). JMO good luck!

DishLady · Answer

I’m busy and I’m tired usually mean get lost.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Personally a rejection is a rejection. I would accept it and just move on unless she approached me later. Why? If she was interested she would counter offer another time or maybe say "my day of is X, how about then?"

That soft rejection with no counter offer usually signifies she isn't interested but doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

Make no mistake if someone finds you that attractive or is really into you nothing will stop them from either spending time with you or trying to schedule a future date right then to spend time with you. Otherwise they are just responding in a way to avoid conflict or hurting your feelings.

fonduegirl · Answer

If she has said no, it means,

1) she'll ask you out when she's ready

2) she's not interested in you

In either case, you shouldn't ask her out for a date again. It means no, plain and simple, until and unless she makes a move to change it.

Cyfris · Answer

Did you say do you want to get coffee sometime? or what are you doing later? want to grab coffee? Context matters. But sounds like she is a no... that doesn't mean she will always be a no but that said that doesn't mean wait around to find out.. Go about your life. live, love, laugh. And if the flirting persists and the time feels right ask again.. maybe she says no or maybe she finally over an ex or her hangup and says yes..

OneViewpoint · Answer

I would always take a no as a no period. I'm not hanging around hoping she'll change her mind, maybe, someday. I'm moving on down the road. I won't play games or cater to indecisive women. Got "issues" yer dealing with? Look me up when you get over it.

jshm2 · Answer

Yeah, she looked at the 10 bucks in your bank balance and thought "what the fuck can you buy me that I already can't buy?" Don't hit on people at work, kiddo. Do better.

zagor · Answer

Hard to say. Girl I used to work with met her husband that way - she was a bank teller and he was a customer. She rejected him several times because she thought he was too short, then she realized the floor the tellers worked on was raised. LOL he was about 6'1 and she was about 5'1, and she had thought she was taller than him.

Anonymous · Answer

Anything other than an enthusiastic yes is always a no. Can women change thie mind, yes. But not by repeatedly asking. You put it out there, she knows you asked. If she changes her mind SHE can initiate it. So if she starts hinting at you that she wants you to ask her out again, shut her down.

Anonymous · Answer

They try to trick us with coffee thinking we don't realize they are asking us out. A polite rejection is being polite. We don't want to have to be harsh, but guys push us to it by misinterpreting what no means.

melonbabyy · Answer

Many times it’s a no in that moment. I dont know about your situation but i can speak about my experience. I have turned many men down that maybe, if i were to look twice at them again and have a chance to think, i’d probably say yes to at least 30% of them.

Alex_Bright · Answer

Hello, A no is a no, she's just being nice. You need to move on and be silently grateful she's a good person. Try not to make it weird. Alex

cora1 · Answer

I can definitely understand being tired. Try another day! If she says the same thing offer if another day would work, if she still declines, she is just saying no.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No always means NO!  Why some men act all confused over such a simple word is puzzling.

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

From being a women myself, it generally means NO as in real rejection  Women are conditioned by society to be “nice” and “gentle” so a lot of it how we’re conditioned to be raised

exitseven · Answer

The truth is there is no way to tell. Women are all about playing games. They think being had to get is going to mane them more desirable.

MJVillarama · Answer

A soft no can mean different things, sometimes it’s a maybe later, other times it’s just a polite way to say no. Pay attention to the vibe and respect the pace.

Seangreen · Answer

If she really was into you even if she was tired she would go for coffee with you I'm just going to put it that way might have just been misinterpreting her being nice as flirting

janemarie15 · Answer

It depends why the girl says NO! Maybe she's not ready, or she's healing from something? Or unsure about her feelings. In that case, she'll usually stay warm toward to you. still laughs, talks or wants to keep a light connection.

Ninania · Answer

Unless she tells you otherwise, no definitely always means no.

Angelo75 · Answer

I'd say retry on different days and at different times in a total of 3 times. If she rejects you 3 times, move on.

Anonymous · Answer

I would say no 100% otherwise you risk being labelled a stalker if you continue to pursue. Better to move on.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Unless she gave an alternate it's a no. Acceptable, no I'm tired but let's do Tues is. Yes.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't try to mind read. If she says "No." I move on.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

No means no, forever. However places are usually available in the friendzone.

Ironco · Answer

Rejection is rejection. Just chock it up as experience. But if you really want to know, ask her again. But be prepared for the same outcome. Good luck.

tzdc21 · Answer

Thats a permanent rejection dude. She was just trying to become nice about it.

msc545 · Answer

It just means "no" in a nice way. Take it as no.

sophialiora · Answer

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Bloodparadise · Answer

No means NO! Respect that or go to hell

WhitneySnow · Answer

Could be either

Anonymous · Answer

You arnt attractive to her

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

If she wanted you she'd make time.

grega239 · Answer

doesn't matter. If she reject you, move on

Anonymous · Answer

take her to a proper date. Wdym coffee

Anonymous · Answer

Probably yes.

In_Trance · Answer

Always

Anonymous · Answer

Yes no means no!

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