There is a friend group I want to be part of. I have a friend from that group. We aren’t too close. When i met her, we have chat a bit and that’s all. Yesterday, I saw she put story from their group meetings. I sent a heart emoji reaction. (Normally i only like her stories) She didn’t send any reaction. Does it mean rejection? (Sometimes i react her stories with emoji and mostly she reacts back with like/heart)
Oh man, not getting a reaction back can be a bummer. But I wouldn't stress too much that it means rejection yet. A few things could be going on:
- She might not have seen your reaction. You know how sometimes people don't notice notifications right away.
- Responding with hearts/likes to every story can get kinda annoying. She was probably just engaging with other stuff instead of reacting to everyone.
- Maybe she was busy with her friends at that party and wasn't on her phone much.
I'd say try joining in the next time they plan something small. Like "hey I saw you guys hung out, can I come to the next thing?" She'll probably be cool with it since you're sorta friends already. And it's not a big deal if she says no, you can just ask your other friend too. Don't overthink one little missed reaction, I'm sure it doesn't mean you're totally out of the group or anything. Keep being friendly and you'll probably get included more over time. Don't stress!
My friend told me that if you do your best to fulfill your duty and put positive energy into the world, people will chase you down for friendship and you won’t have to do the initiating. If you do not get invitations, you might be tapping the wrong network for friends, or you might have to spend more time on positive thinking and self improvement. Life is a process. Don’t sweat small rejections that happen along the way. You have a right to be unhappy about anything you want, but it does not boost your mood. The other thing is, I feel acceptance by others is higher when you behave like you expect them to accept you.
What is she supposed to respond? I think you’re expecting her to see that heart and interpret it as a signal to invite you out or something but most people don’t think like that, I know I wouldn’t. You need to be direct and ask to hang out or something. Next time she posts an outing just be like “I’d love to go with you guys there sometime!” Or whatever, but vocalize your interest is what I’m saying.
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