Why does the same romantic gesture feel sweet from one guy and creepy from another?

[Anonymous]

Why is it that the exact same action—like singing a song or showing up at someone's door—can feel 100% romantic coming from one person, but 100% like a 'serial killer vibe' coming from another? Where do you think that line actually is?

[aaron13547]

Its about perspective. How they see you. If I wake up thinking today is going to be a good day; I find things that justify that. If I think its going to be bad I find things to justify that...

So if a girl sees a guy as creepy, and he sings her a song, its creepy. If the prom king does it, she is on top of the world. The difference is the way she thinks of the person singing.

Its all an illusion. Some perspectives are easier to change then others for example muscles take work to get, also a good attitude and confidence are keys that take hard work and "good luck". Confidence comes from not knowing, believing in yourself, and finding out you were right to think what you thought.

Knowledge² + perspective = reality

[Asker]

I think luck and charming words are one thing which makes it happen.
Smooth talkers are the best
And most smooth talkers just wanna do it and it

[slatyb]

Prom kings can be creepy too. It´s going to depend on their previous interactions.

[NathanDavis]

your premise is completely wrong

there's no such thing as "the same exact action"

there's a whole world of intentions, context and circumstances and THAT is what will make things different, and sometimes very different, lol

[CriminallyInsane]

It depends on whether we wanted you to show up at our door or not mostly

[OneViewpoint]

That line is in the mind of the person on the receiving end of the desired or unwanted attention. Timing can be critical and some guys have zero clue. You don't generally pull a move like that until you've known each other a while and you know the object of your affections will be receptive. In other words, she's already sold, you're not trying to "sell" her on you.

[slatyb]

It's romantic if it's someone they know and are comfortable with. It's creepy if it's some guy they have never dated, or had one bad date and now he's in love.

[msc545]

Because you are attracted to the one guy and not to the other one. No offense, but this isn't rocket science.

[Mon1to]

it all comes down to appearance

[Tomislav7]

How someone presents themselves socially

[Asker]

Still not like that

[Tomislav7]

huh?