Are men who display romantic gestures just simps in women's eyes?

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Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Why is being nice, treating your loved one nice or spoiling your honey considered simpimg?🤷‍♀️ you should be that way to your partner/spouse/loved one… And they should be that way to you…, U wish people would stop with the childish labels… we attack nice people or romantic people more than we do rude assholes or criminals, no people make excuses for them… backwards ass shit if you ask me 🤷‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Booklover_90 · Accepted Answer

Not at all. In fact, I hate the term  simp  and what it has come to mean. To me, a man isn’t a sucker if he dares to be chivalrous.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No… They are the men worth having. Women love that!

Apple1996 · Answer

Yep and I adore simps 🥺

Texaskid1 · Answer

Sadly, yes.

All women say they want a romantic guy who will do such things as buy them flowers and other such gifts. Understand that women by their very nature have a dual psychology that they live in ( some years ago I read a very detailed analysis on female psychology but I can't remember the name of the author) where they consciously desire a certain type of world order but sub-consciously respond (positively ) to a different order. Think about it. Ask a women what kind of guy she wants and they will all say the same thing ( more or less): a man who is open, attentive , romantic , doting , expresses his feelings for her, is available for her at all times, and in emotionally vulnerable. The above description is what women will consciously describe regarding what kind of man they are attracted to. Sub-consciously she will not respond to this type of guy in any kind of sexual manner and will respond positively to more or less the opposite kind of guy - a man who is aloof, stoic, who spoon feeds them attention , who at times will be - for lack of other terms that elude me - a "dick", a man who is not swayed by her emotional outbursts. As men we have seen this time and time again no matter how much women deny it. I can speak from my own experience and from my own observations of other couples.

In a nutshell the above can be summed as "Nice guys never get the girl but the asshole always beds her"

Jan 24, 2024

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

Simping. To me it's when a man cannot reject bad habits of a woman's, keeps complaining but no action to readjust the balance in the relationship.  Romance . It's short-term acts to get a woman's attention. Once the first state of the attraction ends, he might get back to the same old person or continue the acts depending on the woman. If she likes romantic interaction, it'd become his forever task. Men succeeded in brain-seeding "Romance" in women to get more chances in mating. (According to Dr. Orion Taraban, Psy. D., he said that romance was created by men.) Now many women are addicted to it. Not all, but many.

smne35 · Answer

Used to be for a long time, until the reptile part of men's brain caught up with modern society and realized that they're only human not immune from displaying emotions, thank God their DNA is smart enough not to write that part out of human existence but, why humans like to be their worst enemies, now that same emotion that's apart of us all, can be deleted along with many other parts of our genetic make up thanks to çrisper, the white out for DNA see a defective gene or strand ok white it out erase it replace with a normal one imaging w the test being done in countries with no ethical boundaries, don't be shocked when you start seeing human hybrid abominations running around it's on the way

HawkPerception · Answer

Romantic gestures does not equate to simping.

Simp usually means a dude that is seen as overly attentive, submissive, or generous to someone they want to get with, usually putting their own needs and well being aside. They are perceived as extremely desperate to the point of being unattractive.

Those guys that you see commenting "Omg so beautiful. Please message me" on photos that girls post social media are a minor example of that.

In the old days, the guys you saw carrying books around for the girls they found attractive, thinking carrying books for them would get them closer to them were also simps.

theREELZNEEZZ · Answer

This is going to be a hard pill for most to swallow, but in my life and in my travels I have yet to see any real ROI upside for a man being "nice" to a woman. Either in my own life or in the lives of others.

Any good behavior extended to a woman in short time becomes taken for granted by said woman.

I'm not saying you need to be a total asshole or anything, but keeping expectations pretty low is just always the best bet.

Whether it's listening to them about 'their day' or 'cuddling' or whatever else. You extend these behaviors thoughtlessly and find yourself expected to give them while receiving the same --- or even less --- in return.

The sad thing is that once women feel they 'have you,' no matter WHO you are --- your attractiveness in their eyes plummets. Bizarre but very real phenomenon.

Altheavas · Answer

So romantic men, who are tolerant, respectfully, cherishing, whom is gentle and caring to their partner, behave like gentlemen and pay attention to their partners are considered simp these day..!🙄

The ones that are the opposite, disrespectful, neglectful, narcissistic assholes, and impatient, are the standard then…?
I rather be with a simp, no matter what!

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

Nope, women love that. But the problem is there is a difference between showing romantic gestures and being desperate.
I guess guys don't like desperate girls too.

Everyone like nice personality , friendly nature , respectful behaviour and those guys/girls who show romantic gestures but not desperate people.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I don't think so. Romantic gestures help build the relationship, let your partner know they're loved, and shows interest. Relationships would seem kind of plain and boring without them. I mean, who doesn't want to plan a romantic dinner date at their own house for their partner is my question? You cannot dislike this effort right here or this arrangement.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Like how? Being nice to a girl and getting her flowers (if she deserves it)? Or getting on your knees and begging for affection?

I really hate the lack of context in questions like these. Not everything is black and white, asshole vs. nice guy, alpha vs beta, etc.

What matters most is if you can determine if somebody respects you or not as is deserving of such favors.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Okay, it really, really depends on the context. If they don't know each other- I'm talking about complete strangers who exchanged 'hello's online or go to the same school- and he's pulling out the boombox? Yeah, that's a simp. If she's shown him she's not interested and he continues to bend over backwards for her, he's a simp.

But if they're in a relationship, have known each other for a long time or are going on a date, go ahead. It's just showing interest at that point.

4ngelic · Answer

it's only simpy if your not dating and she's not interested in you at all and especially if there's no way she ever could be. if it's your girlfriend that's not simpy at all, that's expected. dudes who think love and romance are simp stuff are red flags that i want to stay very far away from

MsBell2018 · Answer

I live a romantic man!!! I want him to be strong when he needs to be, but a romantic man will melt me like butter!! Pick me a dandelion out of the yard, surprise me & bring me lunch at work, pack us a picnic lunch... good stuff.

SotiCoto · Answer

Both. From what I've been able to gather, female perspective is context-sensitive.
If a guy they're already interested in does something, it will be treated completely different to someone they've got no interest in doing the exact same thing.

If they like you, it is sensitive and romantic. If they don't like you, it is creepy and gross. They've already made their mind up before you even start.

swordbreaker · Answer

Romantic gestures can be important to keep excitement and enthusiasm alive in relationships. However, each person's perception of romance is different and may change over time. While some women attach great importance to romantic gestures, for others such gestures may not be important. It would be a generalization to say that romantic gestures are simple or ineffective because every woman's expectations and evaluations are different. Nowadays, most men who beat people love and then cry.

electromagnetic · Answer

Not in the slightest bit. Look at all the older generations before us. Their relationships lasted longer because they didn’t shy away from showing and expressing their love for their partners. It’s not simping to be nice.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No. Women who appreciate those gestures tend value the men who make the effort. Anyone who considers someone a simp for doing something for someone they love or desire are just delusional.
Simps are just simpletons

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Some ridiculous (and even embarrassing) romantic gestures prove that  he's got  balls! To me, bravery & courage are traits worth admiring.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Nah if it is done by a guy I am into, I love it. If it is from a guy I don't like then yes its cringy lol

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

It's a tough question. Some women will love it, other women will see that guy as someone easy to coerce. Age group probably plays a factor as well.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't judge or use labels no one is a simp in my eyes

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some still know what being a real gentleman is all about. The rest can stay in their basements and jack off.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Romantic gestures are definitely a wanted thing but only when you're already in a relationship with that person. It's weird if you don't have an already established romantic relationship.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Honestly it's pretty sad that society has sunk so low that this is even a question.

I can only speak from my own experience but all the women I was with loved it even made a few cry from it back in the day.

Lliam · Answer

It's called romance. Women love that shit. Why do they watch chick flicks? There is a difference between thoughtful, romantic gestures and groveling/simping.

mobiusforniner · Answer

it’s how one carries themselves. If a guy is an asshole but does nice things in hopes of landing tail, women can sniff that shit from a mile away.

But if he’s genuinely a good person, but assertive and strong; mixed with a little wit and charisma, women will be all over him

NathanDavis · Answer

always an insecure man... trying to speak for women... lol

Joshydavid25 · Answer

No, I mean only if he's still doing it after there was no reciprocation.. But if it's for his girl or a girl he's been dating for a while.. Not at all..

exitseven · Answer

i think that the grand gesture still has a place in the general scheme of things.

Anonymous · Answer

Yay and the toxic questions about simps, alpha and beta males continue, as always

Ashley1993 · Answer

No Simp is very different from a romantic person , totally different

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

You're not seen as a simp. Not even if she doesn't like romantic gestures. She'll just see you as a romantic guy.

FreyaRed · Answer

Not if it's discreet and mutual. Otherwise it just looks pitiful and embarrassing.

bobalife · Answer

Not always lol. I love romantic gestures, affections, and plans~ 🤭

laly520 · Answer

ofc not simping is a whole different topic

Anonymous · Answer

A simp is the person who used the word " simp" .

JustinTheGreat · Answer

No. I don’t get why being a simp is a bad thing lol. You’re supposed to be a simp for your partner.

Unit1 · Answer

Me: *Flirts with women* Some plonkers in the background: Simp! Me: *Continues flirting with women*

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Romance doesn’t make a guy pathetic

VabAmy · Answer

I mean if ur gonna but effort into it, how could it be negative?

boobliker · Answer

some do some don't it's down to you to find out what they do like!

dolemite58 · Answer

They won’t admit it but yes. Girls cringe deep down when guys act mushy like that, it comes off as insecure.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If he's haaawwwwwt, no. If he is average, yes.

Anonymous · Answer

The ugly ones are lol

SolitarySolace · Answer

Didn’t used to be the case. It is now though

Misscouincouin · Answer

Not at all! Chivalry makes me melt 🥰🥰🥰

LiamJHayden · Answer

Depends upon the woman.

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

No depends on the situation

msc545 · Answer

Simps and suckers

Simslover92 · Answer

No not at all.

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

Depends on the guy and the gesture.

itsnatasha2005 · Answer

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