What’s something guys do that they think is attractive, but actually turns women off?

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A lot of guys assume certain behaviors signal confidence, effort, or attractiveness, but they don’t always land that way. One common example is over-texting or constantly trying to keep a conversation alive. It can start to feel less like interest and more like pressure, especially if there’s no space for natural back-and-forth or if replies are expected immediately.

Another one is trying too hard to impress, whether it’s flexing money, status, or accomplishments early on. While confidence is attractive, forcing it or making every conversation about achievements can come off as self-centered rather than engaging. It often feels like the focus is on being “seen as impressive” instead of actually connecting.

There’s also the idea that persistence always wins someone over. In reality, if interest isn’t mutual, continuing to push or escalate attention can quickly turn into discomfort rather than attraction.

It makes me wonder where the line is between showing genuine effort and unintentionally coming across as trying too hard, and how much of it depends on timing, mutual interest, and reading the situation correctly.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

What’s the biggest thing? All women are different I’ll say this. But it’s about what type of women you’re attracting and what type you’re repelling that says the most.

Trying to make a woman fall in love with facts about you I’m not saying it’s wrong to talk about things. But a woman who’s looking for a deeper connection isn’t going to fall for your bank account, your degree, your job title, things you did, etc. You can also have an overall boring life but create a connection that makes her fall for you. Why are there dudes living with their mom in relationships with attractive women?

The type of women that are going to stay around when you’re not bonding you’re just throwing facts out there. Are women who are looking for money and therefore not really seeking a connection. Women who are genuine just leave a relationship when they don’t feel fulfilled in it anymore.

Now to the point YOU have made. It’s about personal boundaries most dudes get annoyed as well when a woman’s blowing him up. She has her own life going on and especially if you’re not super close with her she doesn’t need someone just blowing her up especially when she’s sleeping or at work.

If you are having to blow a woman up just to make her respond. She’s probably not that into you dude…. A woman who’s attracted will be equally as invested. Maybe she’s busy but if she’s consistently taking a long time to reply. Yeah you’re probably just another dude texting her

Genuine effort is she’s investing back into you. Trying too hard is when she probably isn’t interested, has lost interest, or is loosing interest and you’re just persistently bothering her even when she’s asked you to stop. Or said she’s busy. Etc. and if a woman can’t communicate like an adult then again….. not relationship material.

The right type of woman will show you effort if she’s interested. It’s the same for men if a woman was blowing him up 30 to 100 plus times a day. If he’s not that interested he will become very annoyed and uncomfortable.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

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Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

Weird one, but I'd say trying to be "nice" when it's blatantly obvious they are just doing it so they can hookup and when it doesn't happen and you tell them you just see them as a friend then they leave or keep persisting that you were made for each other.

Truly nice guys dont expect anything in return. "Nice" guys do it for a transaction and let you know how nice they are which isn't attractive at all.

MissSunshine2 · Accepted Answer

Bragging about their success and that of their families and partners. Lame. Amusing, too. It makes them look like a tool. All men think they're good at sex and that their penises are a turn on for women. EHHH NO! Only some men are really good at sex.

MaddieXH · Answer

Being disrespectful about other girls they’ve been with. Like, comparing the girl to other girls they’ve been with thinking that it’s complementing her. I think it’s easily the most unattractive thing a man can do.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Taking selfies with their shirts off is an obvious one. Men don't realize how cringeworthy it really is.

CarolineWhizz · Answer

Talk about themselves. We're really not that interested, guys.

queenofcardio · Answer

Some jokes are not funny , they can be insensitive

Honeyateleven · Answer

I hate slutty guys.. who boast about having many partners

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Being nonchalant

Anonymous · Answer

Flexing biceps 🤭

karlaatsd · Answer

Acting a certain way

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