Man, this is bad news...let's turn the tables for a moment. Could you tell the girl you love that you love her, but the day after go another girl's apartment to kiss (even if that wasn't the initial idea)? I don't think so...because this is not what truly respecting people do to one another. And she's not even 'man' enough to break it to you by trying to put the blame on you ('is this how our relationship is going to end?'); so she can continue with a clear conscience. If she'd feel the least really bad about what she's done to you, she would have done everything possible to apologize - not what she's doing now: avoiding you at all costs..
What was the reason for your break though (about a week ago) - did this come mostly from your side, her side, or mutual..? If I read you correctly, it's her side, I guess we know what that means then as hard as it is :/
If you ask me, you've done all you can: you told her you didn't like what she's doing, and now it's up to her to make up her mind. Keep in mind that IF and when she breaks up with you, the more you fight it the more you'll push her away - you've lost her already when she kissed the guy. But she should have at least the decency to open up to you. Also, tell yourself, with all that happened, would you really want her back or would you just be forcing yourself to believe nothing changed...
If she doesn't want to talk whatsoever, then break up yourself and keep that self-respect attitude you're still showing now (not wanting to be a safetynet). Keep your calm. If that's what she wants, then there's nothing you can force and let go fast. Maybe then, she may be shocked enough to start rethinking what she's doing and perhaps feel bad about it - after all it's been three years...
But still, it doesn't look good..
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Ignore her. It will piss her off and force her to think about why she keeps calling. You will have to outlast this guy... but she doesn't sound like she is worth it. But weather or not is something you need to figure out for yourself. Just realize that outlasting him will be hard, and it may not pay off. It's risky. Put her in the freezer and move on. Check up on her in a few months.
Hey. Well first of all I am so sorry to hear that. Second of all, the relationship ended when she started seeing that guy. This exact same thing happend to my best friend. She was so in love with him. Then they decided to take a break, and soon she started seeing pictures on facebook of him with other girls. He then told her he fell out of love with her, and wouldn't anwser her calls, if someone did anwser his phone it was either his friends or girls saying he is busy. It took her soo long to get over him, but now she realized how much better she is than him, and regrets putting herself in such bad condition those few months. I'm telling you this because I don't want you stress yourself out about her. You can do way better. This guy now calls my friend allll the time and trys to get her friends to get her to talk to him because he realized what an idiot he was. Karma is a bitch and she will get hers. I would just let her go, just cut yourself off from her and start hanging around others and doing other things to distract yourself from her. Get rid of her pictures.. Anything that would remind you of her. It really does help, and it will help the mourning process. I hope I was kind of helpful.. Just remember if she does this once to you, it WILL happen again. Hope everything goes okay:)
I'm sorry that she's treating you this way. I give it straight no chaser so that you don't have to keep wondering what's going on.
Tell that Loser to KickRocks! You were right with your suspicions. She is stringing you along and nothing else matters. She was the one who wanted the break and then she took her liberties to hang out with another man and went to his apartment and stayed the night. How disrespectful. On top of that she didn't call you back like she said probably because she was talking to, texting, or hanging out with the other guy.
Yes it should end unless you want to be her little doormat. I know you love her as you said and don't want to lose her, but you can't lose what you don't have anymore. The minute someone wants to take a break and ends up at a new person's apartment has told you everything you need to know. It's time to let her go. There are tons of girls out there that will treat you right, but you will never find them if you keep hanging on to this girl. Put your foot down, grow some and move on!
Good for you. I was just going to tell you to give her the 'break' and tell her you won't be fixing it. People like that, selfish people, aren't worth your time. Good luck.
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hurry and find another girl my dude. LET HER END IT. and NEVER EVER FORGET THIS because it will happen again! every is capable and will do this so never put yourself completly into a relationship NEVER! EVER! NEVER EVER EVER EVER. but dnt let her know it still be invested but also ready to pull out at a moments notice. it might take you a little while but its possible I do it and she has no idea. dis a lesson for you homie.
Confront her in person. It's the best way, and besides, if this is going to end you deserve closure in person.
It definitely is. She eventually will realize what an idiot she is and want you back. Just be strong, and don't give in. She can't win! Plus, there are lots of great girls out there, you could try date other girls,
I feel for you situation, and you will be alright.
Never ever ever go back to this girl!
I bet you the other guy really does not give a shit.
Do your own thing, and mind your business...
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