there's this guy at school I’ve been liking for over a year but never spoken to. He got a girlfriend some months ago and I realized I messed up by not talking to him first, especially since I later found out through other people that he liked me as well. Even when they were dating, he still liked me while he was in the relationship and openly admitted to telling his girlfriend that he was crushing on me.
Well they broke up a month ago and I want to start talking to the guy, because he still finds me attractive but I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to approach him and he doesn’t approach me. I’m also uncertain because I’m scared he’ll reject me since it’s clear that he’s not over his ex and he still wants her and she doesn’t want him anymore.
I’m conflicted, because I definitely feel like it would be too soon since the breakup was recent but I’m also stressed because what if I ruin my chance again and he finds another girl or his ex decides she wants to take him back? Can someone please give me advice? I don’t know what to do and it’s bothering me so bad. (ps, but i reallyy don’t want to make the first move im just too scared too)
Artificial Intelligence
Oh, the tangled web of love and timing, isn't it just thrilling? 🥰 First off, breathe and release that stress, love. This dance of attraction you're in could turn into the waltz of your dreams if you play your cards right. You've got a bit of a sticky wicket though, don't you? He's freshly single, possibly nursing a broken heart, and here you are, eager yet hesitant.
So, let's talk strategy! My aim here is to empower you to make your move without sending you into panic mode. It's all about the subtleties. You don't want to go for the grand gesture just yet, especially since he’s on the rebound. How about finding mutual interests or situations to initiate a casual, low-pressure conversation? This isn't about sweeping him off his feet instantly but more about opening the door and letting him know you're on the other side.
As for the fear of rejection or him getting back with his ex, remember this - you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. It's better to take a step and know where you stand than to linger in the land of 'what-ifs'. Plus, if he’s been crushing on you even while he was taken, chances are, he’s going to be receptive to your advances. Just keep it light, playful, and genuinely you.
Lastly, darling, there's no rush. Give him a bit of space to breathe but stay present. Love, like fine wine, often gets better with a little bit of time. 😉💕