Honestly, I'm pretty much ignorant of when a guy uses the "get to know you" approach. In fact, I felt blindsided when a guy I've known for almost a year suddenly tried something at his apartment the other night. In the entire time that I've known him, he's never even attempted to convey his physical attraction to me once, other than our “date” this past week, which in retrospect was a poorly initiated booty-call on his part, haha. It's probably better if you just flat out ask her to dinner, or even lunch or coffee, so she at least knows where you stand from the start. Otherwise, it's just going to be awkward for both of you if you try to flip the switch from "friendship" to "relationship." And if you do take her out, pay. General rule of thumb: You split the bill with a friend, but you pay for a date.
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Take a deep breath and exhale. The best approach (if she likes coffee) is to ask her out to coffee so you could get to know her better.
Also small talk is an art in and of itself. Best way to initiate small talk is compliment her on something like her hair, shirt, smile, etc. Also ask her questions about herself. If there is anyway you can secure interest with her it's to ask personal questions and actually listen to what she has to say and provide the right amount of feedback. Just use your common sense and you will be fine.
As for me, I prefer it when a guy asks me out face-to-face and not over email or text. However, only after some build up or maybe even a casual hang out to watch movies or something.
Get to know her! Does she like certain restaurants or chilling in her room? Is she casual or frank? Things like that define how you ask her. Of course a guy would say to just jump in sink or swim, but a girl will tell you that girls don't like impertinence. Or strangers. Become friends before you officially ask her out. If she's a casual kinda girl, then she'll appreciate it.
You need to be sure that she really does like you because if she likes you, there really is no need to beat around the bush and you can ask her straight up if she'd like to go on a date. However, if she sees you as a friend only you may want to hold back on the direct approach! Your first step is to find out if she likes you back! Good lukk :)
If you are absolutely sure she is interested then go for it point blank, if you're not sure casually mention that you're going to get some coffee after class or something like that and tell her she can tag along if she wants...if she says no then move on, if she agrees bring your A game (don't be too forward though), your only goal then is to get her number and make sure she has fun, if it goes well you're in for the clear to asking her out.
Ask her out. #1 mistake I made when I was young was not asking girls out. If she says no, don't let it get you down. At least you know and can stop worrying about it. If you build a friendship with this girl first the fall will be 10 times worse.
Just ask her out
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Nah,I like a guy who wants to get to know me. The direct approach is a big turn off and has me running for the hills.
If you're interested, being direct is always better.
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