What makes a shy girl so sarcastic?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so there's this shy girl and I kinda like her. I've noticed that when I go to talk to her and try to make her laugh she gets all sarcastic and makes fun of me. SHe usually is not like that, she is relaxed and pleasant and nice to people, she laughs at their jokes and makes them feel welcome. With me is like the complete opposite, she tells me how lame my jokes are or how annoying I am and she takes whatever I say and puts a negative twist to it and things like that (she smiles/grins and looks away when she says it) . Even a simple conversation turns into a sarcastic battle. SHe doesn't talk MUCH but with me she talks and really lets me have it (I don't mind it though). What makes a seemingly sweet and quiet girl get like this?

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Yea, I mean, I absolutely love it when she gets like that and we have fun teasing each other but its like there's never a break and when I see her so relaxed and just having a regular conversation with others, makes me wonder what the hell I'm doing wrong or if she really wants me to "go away". Recently I've received a lot of eye contact and big smiles/grins from her, so I guess that's good. Still bugs me she can't be "nice" to me though.

[Brad_S]

If she is smiling I'd guess she is flirting with you. Maybe she gets nervous around you and that is how she acts when she is nervous. Or maybe that is just her flirting style, I think it is pretty common.

I would say it is a good thing that she treats you differently, at least you know she is not just being pleasant, but that she has some kind of opinion about you.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for updating and clarifying that you like the fun teasing and sarcasm (although not all the time). This is my flirting style cause I'm kinda shy with more direct flirting at first. There is a guy I like right now and I'm fighting/holding back my sarcasm cause he's sweet to me and I thought it would deter him.

[Asker]

I try to be sweet but even when I'm just being nice, she tells me I'm annoying and there is no other way I can be and that I should know that "nice" and "annoying" aren't synonyms..

[Opinion Owner]

There is a chance she is taking her sarcasm too far. Even if sarcasm is her method of flirting, she might not realize it's becoming borderline mean. Alternatively, you might be taking her too literally or personal. You could consider whether or not you are a sensitive guy. But from the sounds of it, I think she doesn't really know how to flirt, especially if she's shy.

[Anonymous]

you make her uncomfortable and she doesn't know how to handle it so that's how she reacts.

she most likely likes you and has all sorts of feelings and thoughts going on inside and it just explodes out as sarcasm.

[Opinion Owner]

@update she totally likes you. you're not doing anything wrong. my prediction is that she'll be "nice" once she gets comfortable around you...possibly if she knows that you like her too.

[dIO_oIb]

Is she smiling or touchy feeling when she does this, if yes, she's flirting.

[Asker]

She smiles/grins a lot, but rarely touches me. One time we accidentally touched hands and she giggled and she will let me give her playful pushes but she never does them to me.

[dIO_oIb]

she's flirting with you.