I really fancy my cousin and I know its really wrong but I can't help my feelings.

[Anonymous]

i really fancy my cousin and I know its really wrong but I can't help my feelings and its started off just a crush but now I'm thinking about him everyday help! should I tell him how I feel or not?

[Megs77]

Since he is your cousin, blood related I'm assuming, that would possibly be the worst mistake of your life. Family members usually are really close, maybe you enjoy that closeness, but don't mistake that connection with intimate feelings. Consider this, if you tell him, it would make things awkward between you two, he will no longer treat you the same way, it could possibly ruin your relationship, rumours may start in the family, your parents will be discusted and maybe even send you to counseling.. so what your feeling you need to get over that. ITs just not an option. It could never happen so don't bring that up to your family.. It could possibly do a lot more damage than ANY good. Just think about that..

[Anonymous]

No honey... he is your cousin... you need to find somebody outside your family... I don't know where you're from but that is illegal here... it may be different where you are or common... my friend had a crush on her cousin once and at family dinners they would go down and watch movies and hold eachothers hands... but its your cousin honey... he is related he is your aunt and uncles child... And do not take my words as bashing you because I am not...

[Baby-Gurl]

My friend is the same situation as you . She has a little crush on her cousin but I know for a fact that she would never tell him and I don't think that you should either. He is blood related I'm guessing and that is wrong even if he does feel the same way torwards you and if he doesn't you are risking a good relaltionship.

[gotc147]

If you tell him, you're going to destroy your relationship with your family, it's just not accepted these days.

You have to move past the emotions, an effective way of doing that would be to focus on his negitive aspects, anything you can find on him that turns you off. Does he have an odd collection of something? Does he spend money recklessly? Does he have a secret stash of porn? Does he have a girlfriend? Anything you can find and focus on that. It may be hard but you have to do it.

[Asker]

I think your right thanks for commenting me it helped a lot. Another thing I'm worried about thought is some of my family memebers already know my siblings and parents I can't trust my parents because they think it would cause disagreements but my sister is a little bit of a gossip and I don't know if she will tell them I've already explained to her that it is top secret but what if she slips up what could I say to him ? because I think I would be to scared to tell the truth

[Asker]

I mean I can trust my parents spelling error sorry :P

[gotc147]

That's a problem I can't help with. All you can really do is make sure your sister understands that that is information for her ears only. I'm not sure which would be worse, your parents knowing or him. If your parents get wind of it, well, they're your parents and it's my experience that parents always think they know what's best and there is very little anybody can do to change thier minds. Often even after they're proven wrong they still think they're right.

[gotc147]

If he finds out, I have no idea what to say or do.

[bersaba]

Depends on the family. My family (and we aren't trailer trash rednecks, all my cousins bar 2 have degrees, and the 2 that don't are managers or higher in their stores)... but if something like that happened we'd be pretty open to it. We may not agree outright, but we'd be open to it.

[CuriousEd]

For those who mentioned it being illegal, last time I checked marrying a first cousin was illegal in 14 out of 50 states. She never mentioned marriage. Let's say she's talking about a physical relationship... sex... can someone who says it is illegal point to any state law that says it is illegal? ... assuming both are of the age of consent.

[Atomizer]

No. You should not tell him how you feel.

I had a crush on a cousin in my early teens, but I think you're a bit old for this.

You can't help your feelings. None of us can.

But you can control what you say, and whether you act on your feelings.

I suspect you're British or Australian ("fancy my cousin"), so remember that first-cousin incest is illegal in both countries.

[darien500]

Dont listen to Atom here's wrong here I australia its legal my bloody parents are cuzs lol (first) and I'm in the same postion except I'm the guy lol just tell him he might liek you back you never know til you try of je rejects you who cares at least you know but just tell him to promise to keep it secret I know a guy who told hsi cousin who told his whole bloody family

[Anonymous]

I have a cousin that I've only met a couple of times and I saw her when I was like 13 and she was really hot but I'd for sure NEVER say anything about that, and I never thought about her all the time. I kind of forgot about her till just now.

[jessi02]

Are you serious..hell no you don't tell him...You find someone you are NOT related to.That is insest and against the law and human standards.