He FORGOT about our Skype date??

[Anonymous]

So I am half a world away, traveling. My guy and I chatted briefly and set up a skype date. I literally rushed home to be on time and waited and waited and waited. I left him a message an hour later saying that I'm angry and going to bed now. A few minutes later he sends me a message apologizing saying that he had a few drinks with friends and forgot! He said he came home as soon as he remembered but come on... How can you forget? Guys, is that normal? Does it mean he doesn't care or that he doesn't think about me?

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Thanks for all your comments! He's my boyfriend and I def. wouldn't have been so angry if I hadn't had to put any effort into keeping our date. And yes, it's true that our lives can't revolve around one another, but since we can't se each other for another month, I try to at least make our skype dates work and feel like he should too! But OK, he DID have some drinks with friends and it's easy to get sidetracked I guess, so I'll give him the benefit of the doubt. Hope it won't become a habit.

[ArtistBboy]

What's the relations of you and this man? I mean, if he is and has been your boyfriend then I would feel a level of disrespect - not necessarily that he "doesn't care about you" but that he hasn't been able to connect with how that hurts you.

On the other hand, if he was someone you were just getting to know,while it may have been poor etiquette to miss your skype date, I wouldn't necessarily take it personally that he ditched your skype date plans. Personally, I wouldn't find it of the utmost importance to carry out an online date versus having fun. I WOULD however at least call to mention what's going on.

I find it a little odd that you are worried if he cares about you so much, even when he's basically disrespected you. It sounds like you like this guy a lot, and I appreciate that. But you have to realize that us "guys" have difficulty relating to your emotions.. To us, we think the date can happen at another time with no real dilema.. It's nothing personal to you, or to signify that we "dont care".. It's just that we haven't had enough bonding moments to realize how important you are in our life yet.

I'm sorry this happened, but maybe just ask about how he enjoyed his night - and really inquire what happened or where he had fun.. This will give you guys a moment to bond, he'll realize your not one of the rest of the crazy psycho young women out there, and in the end you'll get to realize that he does care about you.

I hope it all works out

~ ArtistBBoy

[Xx_DRE_xX]

We tend to forget sometimes and feel bad that we did later on. Don't worry though, I'm sure he cares about you :D

[Xx_DRE_xX]

thanks for BA

[Anonymous]

It means he is a guy and a lot of guys are forgetful. No it doesn't mean he doesn't care or doesn't think about you. You are writing too much into this.

I think instead of getting our panties in a knot when we date guys like this we should start being a little more self involved ourselves. Not being totally selfish but just take care of ourselves more and them a little less. Our life shouldn't revolve around them becaue their life doesn't revolve around us.

[ArtistBboy]

I find it interesting that people resort to saying self-involvement trumps relationship-orientation.. I guess I'm the type of guy that would rather see people having fun and then hear about it, than get involved myself.. But I see no reason to take matters personally.. Its as if we become the victim of someone were interested trying to have fun - as if we are making "their fun" the bad guy. I see nothing wrong with someone going out with their friends, even at my expense.

[Opinion Owner]

That is what I am saying, don't take it personally but so many girls do and need to have a life of their own too instead of whining and complaining about the guy who forgot a something. This girl obviously does have a life of her own so she is not one of those but too many girls become too involved to the point they loose themselves and only focus on the relationship and usually it is with a guy who knows he needs his space too.

[awkwardantics]

First of all, your severe reaction is probably stemmed from the fact that you put a lot of work into making the date work for you "rushed home, waited and waited. . etc". Because of the effort you put into it, obviously the angrier you are going to be.

Let's say you were just having a few drinks at home with some friends and all you had to do when your "date" started was walk over to the computer. You probably wouldn't be as angry, right?

That being said, your guy probably didn't realize your schedule that day and had he known the extravegant manner in which you made the date, he probably would have been more cautious.

If he was having a few drinks, it is easy to lose track of time / "forget". I say if there is a pattern of this, then you can get angry. Without more of a backstory, I can only assume the best case scenario that this was an isolated incident.

I've been this guy before on a real date, and let me tell you, I'll defintely be more careful in the future.

[awkwardantics]

her update is exactly what I said! How am I not best answer? lol

[BCRanger10]

It could be easy to forget a Skype date when you're "half a world away", especially for a guy. Don't be too hurt by it though :)