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I can't bring myself to approach girls

I was in a 2 year long relationship with my first love -also my first sex partner-, and we broke up 5 months ago. I was in love with her, but in the last months of our relationship I started being curious about how it would be with other girls -she was the only girl I managed to have a relationship with, so I lacked the experience of what other girls where like. We didn't break up about that, we fought a lot, but when we did, the only thing that made me a bit happy was that I was free to meet other girls now, thinking that now I'd never be afraid to approach them.

And how wrong was I. Shyness is hardwired into my brain, it seems. It's not like I tremble or get extremely anxious when I want to approach a girl, I worked this out. I can also work the confidence to look at her eyes and smile. I just don't know what to say, how to start a conversation, since a simple 'hi' doesn't justify why I'm there, or doesn't make things that interesting. And buying a girl a drink before meeting her first is not my style; to me, it's like trying to buy the girl's interest. I prefer to meet her, then buy her something out of kindness and as a 'thank you' for the time we had together.

I don't know if it's a confidence problem. I try my best at that, too. I interact with many girl friends, with girls at work, girls at university etc. Most of the time, I am well perceived by girls I meet, at least, they invite me out and stuff, but it's usually not girls I'm interested in romantically. I'm also better at accepting rejection, so I don't know if that get's in the way. Last but not least, I regained my interests after the relationship: I started kickboxing, and not only do I love it, but it also works wonders on my fitness.

All in all, I think I'm well equipped to approach a girl. For some reason though, I can't set out to do it! I get nailed to the ground and I don't know what to say to her! What else can I do to manage that?

I can't bring myself to approach girls
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